Hi Everybody,
It seems as if I'm the youngest person here. I'm brand new to this program; boyfriends mom gave this program to me and told me to try it out. I've been through a cycle of depression for about six years (ups and downs). I recently came to the realization that if I don't get help, I will be miserable for the rest of my life (like much of my family). When I'm down, I'm down for a while and have a hard time getting back up. If everything doesn't go perfectly in the process of getting back up, I'm right back down. I have much to get out and am in desperate need of support and advice. Please help me! Thanks, hope to hear back.
Brand New with many Questions
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Mary Wargo
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GirlWisdom
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Hi Linds! Welcome! That's the best thing your boyfriend's Mom could have done for you! Keep up with the program, and follow it well, and have patience. This program will work. I've just started all over again and I vow to keep going this time! You are in the right place, with many supportive people! If you need to know anything , just ask. Take care!
'Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.'
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afaugot0636
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Hiya LINDS, welcome to StressCenter.com forums.
Your bf's mom is 1 great lady - I tell ya, there is gonna come a day - when you're gonna hug her so hard she'll be bursting w/ love - THIS PROGRAM IS PHENOMINAL - it works.
Take your time & strictly follow the program exactly as instructed - esp action assignments & homework in the workbook. You are going to notice gradual changes in yourself. Don't worry about your age - you're 1 of us here @ StressCenter.com - we're all 1 big extended family - a support system, so you know YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
Girl, let me tell you about DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY - lol, my biological family is the epitamy of dysfunctional for far too many reasons to mention here - I have recovered fr anxiety disorder. Mine triggered in Apr-2005. I was diagnosed w/ anxiety disorder + panic attacks + PTSD - because of the state I was in, I agreed to go on meds: anxiety med 3x's per day & 2 sleep aids(severe sleep deprivation, w/ only 1-2 hrs of sleep for every 24 hrs). My emotional self was 1 big comingled mess- I was a ball of surpressed anger/pain/fear/dysfunctional learned behaviors - I can laugh now, back then, it wasn't funny. I did therapy, journaling, research: reading 16 books, then I did Lucinda's program - orig completed it back in March-2007. I too recognized the similarities of my bio-family. I remember when I started the journey - I read an article about a celebrity describing her mother & fathers divorce some 15+ yrs ago - this celebrity described vaguely how bitterly angry her mother still was - THAT RANG A LOUD BELL for me. I realized, I was on the same road path as my birth mother & her mother - generational - dysfunctional - & bitter/resentful. I said to myself, literally, "omg - I am bitterly angry - I don't want to be like her living like this". That very day - I resolved to CHANGE THE CYCLE that had existed in my biological family for generations. That cycle being: undiagnosed anxiety disorder & depression & not getting any help for either - allowing them to simmer/deepen/get worse thru the years. Changing the cycle also meant me facing my past - childhood = all the trauma that took place. You see doing this allowed me to DEAL/HEAL/FACE/FORGIVE/LET GO - by doing so, I am recovered fr anxiety disorder, I am not angry or bitter - for I have faced & felt it all - I am healing - I have created the change.
Bravo to you for wanting that same change. It is very mature & brave of you. GREAT JOB - You can do it - You are already doing it - you already are creating a DIFFERENCE & CHANGE(diff than your family) - you know how? You've admitted the existence of said problem & you are seeking change - to learn & grow & evolve.
Lenore
Your bf's mom is 1 great lady - I tell ya, there is gonna come a day - when you're gonna hug her so hard she'll be bursting w/ love - THIS PROGRAM IS PHENOMINAL - it works.
Take your time & strictly follow the program exactly as instructed - esp action assignments & homework in the workbook. You are going to notice gradual changes in yourself. Don't worry about your age - you're 1 of us here @ StressCenter.com - we're all 1 big extended family - a support system, so you know YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
Girl, let me tell you about DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY - lol, my biological family is the epitamy of dysfunctional for far too many reasons to mention here - I have recovered fr anxiety disorder. Mine triggered in Apr-2005. I was diagnosed w/ anxiety disorder + panic attacks + PTSD - because of the state I was in, I agreed to go on meds: anxiety med 3x's per day & 2 sleep aids(severe sleep deprivation, w/ only 1-2 hrs of sleep for every 24 hrs). My emotional self was 1 big comingled mess- I was a ball of surpressed anger/pain/fear/dysfunctional learned behaviors - I can laugh now, back then, it wasn't funny. I did therapy, journaling, research: reading 16 books, then I did Lucinda's program - orig completed it back in March-2007. I too recognized the similarities of my bio-family. I remember when I started the journey - I read an article about a celebrity describing her mother & fathers divorce some 15+ yrs ago - this celebrity described vaguely how bitterly angry her mother still was - THAT RANG A LOUD BELL for me. I realized, I was on the same road path as my birth mother & her mother - generational - dysfunctional - & bitter/resentful. I said to myself, literally, "omg - I am bitterly angry - I don't want to be like her living like this". That very day - I resolved to CHANGE THE CYCLE that had existed in my biological family for generations. That cycle being: undiagnosed anxiety disorder & depression & not getting any help for either - allowing them to simmer/deepen/get worse thru the years. Changing the cycle also meant me facing my past - childhood = all the trauma that took place. You see doing this allowed me to DEAL/HEAL/FACE/FORGIVE/LET GO - by doing so, I am recovered fr anxiety disorder, I am not angry or bitter - for I have faced & felt it all - I am healing - I have created the change.
Bravo to you for wanting that same change. It is very mature & brave of you. GREAT JOB - You can do it - You are already doing it - you already are creating a DIFFERENCE & CHANGE(diff than your family) - you know how? You've admitted the existence of said problem & you are seeking change - to learn & grow & evolve.
Lenore
Your greatest challenge isn't someone else. It's the aching i your lungs & the burning in your legs & the voice inside you that yells "CAN'T". But you don't listen. You push harder & hear the voice that whispers "CAN". An you realize that the person you thought you were is no match for the one you REALLY ARE.
I'm brand new too. It's encouraging for me to see all the positive comments you are getting from everyone. I just ordered the program and can't wait to get it started. I feel just doing that is something positive for me. I know we can get through this. I know this is the toughest thing to go through and it's something you feel so terribly alone going through. But, now I feel encouraged seeing i'm not alone.