Did you tell your Therapist?
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CBT is a pretty well known and accepted therapy now days. I've had it before done by a qualified trained therapist and I see no difference at all between the so called "qualified" therapist and this program. This is way more structured and keeps me more motivated to continue than going to a therapist once a month. Not that I would suggest for anyone to stop seeing their therapist though.
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My psychologist said that this course sounded very good to him. Originally, I was supposed to go to a CBT Group but it was full so I missed out. I happened to find this site through Beliefnet and I signed up right away. The Dr. said that this might be better than a group for me, and I agree with him. We are a group but one giant group. When I saw how many people were suffering, it was then I felt much more safe. I don't feel so "wacky" anymore. This is great !
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To Deb Deb: Sure You should tell you therapist you've started this program, and maybe see if your husband wants to try it as well..
To Oh to be me: Of course he "reminded" you of her "lack of qualifications", every lesson you go through with Lucinda is one less dollar in his pocket...can I ask, How long was he expecting you to continue therapy with him? Once a week for the rest of your life?
....gotta love those doctors
To Oh to be me: Of course he "reminded" you of her "lack of qualifications", every lesson you go through with Lucinda is one less dollar in his pocket...can I ask, How long was he expecting you to continue therapy with him? Once a week for the rest of your life?
....gotta love those doctors
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If a therapist that you're seeing doesn't support this program then they probably aren't a good therapist. That's definitely been my experience, and I am very pro-therapy. I mean does it make any sense that you can't find the "thing" in therapy, and use the program, too? It shouldn't be either or. When you progress further in the program, Lucinda also points out that we can use our anxiety to avoid things. For example, we may not drive because we think if we get in the car and drive we're going to leave our spouse because we're unhappy so this program does mention those scenarios.
I do well when a therapist points out that there is a "reason" for my anxiety and that it's not just a "mental illness" that I have no control over. That's how I do well, but one time I was seeing a therapist who ended up doing something very unethical to me in the end. Before that point, I told her I had read Lucinda's book and that anxiety was not a mental illness that you needed to be hospitalized for. The therapist got very irate and said just because Lucinda said that doesn't mean it's true. I definitely didn't get better under this therapist, but I definitely got better when I got away from her and using the program. I don't think anything is perfect, but there are a lot of good aspects to this program that can be used in conjunction with a good therapist. Some people opt not to use a therapist and just do the program, and that is definitely great if they can do that. However, any therapist who doesn't support the program probably isn't a good therapist because why wouldn't they want you to get better?
I do well when a therapist points out that there is a "reason" for my anxiety and that it's not just a "mental illness" that I have no control over. That's how I do well, but one time I was seeing a therapist who ended up doing something very unethical to me in the end. Before that point, I told her I had read Lucinda's book and that anxiety was not a mental illness that you needed to be hospitalized for. The therapist got very irate and said just because Lucinda said that doesn't mean it's true. I definitely didn't get better under this therapist, but I definitely got better when I got away from her and using the program. I don't think anything is perfect, but there are a lot of good aspects to this program that can be used in conjunction with a good therapist. Some people opt not to use a therapist and just do the program, and that is definitely great if they can do that. However, any therapist who doesn't support the program probably isn't a good therapist because why wouldn't they want you to get better?
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Hi Jaybee,
I"ve been in therapy on and off for the last 15 years and it never helped that "thing" in my opinion doesn't exist. I think therapists just say that cause, they don't have a better answer. Give the program a try, it can't hurt. Also as a member of AA I feel the best person to help us no matter what our issue is the best person to help is someone who has been there done that and recovered not someone who has a degree. maybe look into a divorce support group.
I"ve been in therapy on and off for the last 15 years and it never helped that "thing" in my opinion doesn't exist. I think therapists just say that cause, they don't have a better answer. Give the program a try, it can't hurt. Also as a member of AA I feel the best person to help us no matter what our issue is the best person to help is someone who has been there done that and recovered not someone who has a degree. maybe look into a divorce support group.
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Hiya guys - HAPPY MONDAY - a new week & new beginning.
I just wanted to reply to this post - GREAT TOPIC. You all know my background so no need to repeat it. I will repeat this: cause of said background - I needed intensive therapy b/4 I was even ready for the program. That therapy took play w/ a psychiatrist w/ 30+ yrs experience-specializing in TRAUMA & he has 1 of the single largest practices in my state. THERE WAS NO WAY ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH - I could have done the program w/o therapy or b/4 therapy. No, not just cause of the severe state of anxiety disorder at the time. Rather, I had endured a great deal of it & cumulative. As a result, I had to face my past b/4 myself. If I had not addressed these events prior to doing the program(thereby leaving me w/ unresolved emotional issue) - these emotions would regurgitate themselves. Having faced them, they are no longer surpressed - I was then able to face myself & change myself = LUCINDA'S PROGRAM.
My therapist has heard of her program & was BEYOND PLEASED about it. Sure, cause of Lucinda's reputation & CBT'S reputation as the # 1 way to recover. Moreso, because I LENORE WAS DOING SOMETHING TO HELP MYSELF - I WANTED TO DO SOMETHING TO HELP MYSELF - I WAS READY TO CHANGE THOSE PARTS OF ME THAT CREATED ANXIETY DISORDER & I WAS WILLING TO LEARN. He questioned me only on 1 thing, "Lenore - do you know why you couldn't do this program 1st?" I replied as I mentioned above, "cause of the surpressed emotions & unaddressed issues, they would constantly regurgitate themselves." he smiled. A few months into the program(I started in Nov-2006 & completed 1st time March-2007) he said to me - "whatever your doing, keep doing it. Whatever that program entails literally - keep doing it". He was seeing the change that is required of recovery.
Now I know there aren't the greatest therapists out there - as goes w/ everything. In addition, everyone's issue are different. However, if a patient/person is willing to heal: face their past & themselves - that is courage & self accountability & responsibility. That should be what every therapist wants for his/her patient.
LENORE
I just wanted to reply to this post - GREAT TOPIC. You all know my background so no need to repeat it. I will repeat this: cause of said background - I needed intensive therapy b/4 I was even ready for the program. That therapy took play w/ a psychiatrist w/ 30+ yrs experience-specializing in TRAUMA & he has 1 of the single largest practices in my state. THERE WAS NO WAY ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH - I could have done the program w/o therapy or b/4 therapy. No, not just cause of the severe state of anxiety disorder at the time. Rather, I had endured a great deal of it & cumulative. As a result, I had to face my past b/4 myself. If I had not addressed these events prior to doing the program(thereby leaving me w/ unresolved emotional issue) - these emotions would regurgitate themselves. Having faced them, they are no longer surpressed - I was then able to face myself & change myself = LUCINDA'S PROGRAM.
My therapist has heard of her program & was BEYOND PLEASED about it. Sure, cause of Lucinda's reputation & CBT'S reputation as the # 1 way to recover. Moreso, because I LENORE WAS DOING SOMETHING TO HELP MYSELF - I WANTED TO DO SOMETHING TO HELP MYSELF - I WAS READY TO CHANGE THOSE PARTS OF ME THAT CREATED ANXIETY DISORDER & I WAS WILLING TO LEARN. He questioned me only on 1 thing, "Lenore - do you know why you couldn't do this program 1st?" I replied as I mentioned above, "cause of the surpressed emotions & unaddressed issues, they would constantly regurgitate themselves." he smiled. A few months into the program(I started in Nov-2006 & completed 1st time March-2007) he said to me - "whatever your doing, keep doing it. Whatever that program entails literally - keep doing it". He was seeing the change that is required of recovery.
Now I know there aren't the greatest therapists out there - as goes w/ everything. In addition, everyone's issue are different. However, if a patient/person is willing to heal: face their past & themselves - that is courage & self accountability & responsibility. That should be what every therapist wants for his/her patient.
LENORE
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Thanks I will tell him;
He really deals more with our relationship issues-and not on my anxiety
He just tells me to DO what I am anxious about(face my fears) head on
but at least the program sets you up so you learn how to DEAL with
the anxiety and it PREPARES us to face that particular fear with skills
to calm us down.
He really deals more with our relationship issues-and not on my anxiety
He just tells me to DO what I am anxious about(face my fears) head on
but at least the program sets you up so you learn how to DEAL with
the anxiety and it PREPARES us to face that particular fear with skills
to calm us down.