Afraid of death
birdlover: it's CRAZY because I could have totally written that paragraph. That is EXACTLY what I deal with every single day.Originally posted by birdlover:
I have been afraid of death for years myself and feel the same way about thinking there may be nothingness after I die. I get this feeling that my throat will dry up and I won't be able to swallow and then get a heart attack and die so I have to have a bottle of water wherever I go. sometimes I'm at my wits end with it.
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Sorry I haven't responded in a while. I've been busy. Fortunately, for the last week or so I've been able to let go of worrying, panicing, and obsessing about death. Which is great, because in the past I can remember feeding this for weeks or even longer. That must mean I am making progress 
I just wanted to let everyone know I appreciate your responses to this topic.
Tammy, what you wrote makes alot of sense. Thank you so much for the positive words and advice Sometimes we can get so consumed by the gloomy feelings that we don't look at our situation for what it really is. Reading your response really did help me with getting the ball rolling back to the positive side again.
Lenore, you can write! I want you know that I did read everything you wrote. Thanks for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading it. You've conquered alot. Even the things you describe that I haven't experienced, I can definitely relate and understand. Thanks for the inspiring message Oh, and thanks for sharing the picture of the leaf too Pictures can say so much. That was a cool idea to put it in your scanner.
DeeDee, I will try that. Thanks!
Dustin, yeah I have thought about the same things. I guess one thing I've been telling myself lately is that I have to admit that I really don't know what is going to happen and who knows, maybe it will be alot better than I could have ever imagined. Like when you try a new food that you've never had and perhaps didn't expect to like and now it's your favorite dish. Who knows
not missing out, I'm sorry to hear about your son's suffering. If you ask me, it sounds like he's very intelligent to be able to grasp such concepts at a young age In any case, thanks for sharing and I appreciate the suggestions!
Shelley, I'm glad I could help
It's nice to know I'm not alone either! Once I figure it all out I'll let ya know
Malikye, hopefully the afterlife truly will be something really great
Osk31, thanks for sharing your thoughts! We are all in this together
I just wanted to let everyone know I appreciate your responses to this topic.Tammy, what you wrote makes alot of sense. Thank you so much for the positive words and advice
Sometimes we can get so consumed by the gloomy feelings that we don't look at our situation for what it really is. Reading your response really did help me with getting the ball rolling back to the positive side again.Lenore, you can write!
I want you know that I did read everything you wrote. Thanks for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading it. You've conquered alot. Even the things you describe that I haven't experienced, I can definitely relate and understand. Thanks for the inspiring message Oh, and thanks for sharing the picture of the leaf too Pictures can say so much. That was a cool idea to put it in your scanner.DeeDee, I will try that. Thanks!
Dustin, yeah I have thought about the same things. I guess one thing I've been telling myself lately is that I have to admit that I really don't know what is going to happen and who knows, maybe it will be alot better than I could have ever imagined. Like when you try a new food that you've never had and perhaps didn't expect to like and now it's your favorite dish. Who knows
not missing out, I'm sorry to hear about your son's suffering. If you ask me, it sounds like he's very intelligent to be able to grasp such concepts at a young age
In any case, thanks for sharing and I appreciate the suggestions!Shelley, I'm glad I could help
It's nice to know I'm not alone either! Once I figure it all out I'll let ya know Malikye, hopefully the afterlife truly will be something really great
Osk31, thanks for sharing your thoughts! We are all in this together
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Josh: My grandmother just died of a massive stroke. Her mental state was fine and she was aware of everything but in no way could she respond. I was in the room when she died..and i have a horrible panic attack.
Its like one moment your here..and the next your not.
It got me thinking that this woman had a wonderful life. she always was the type of person who saw the light at the end of the tunnel..
I think that everyone chooses their own path in life..some are religious.some aren't.
The best advice i can give is to take it one day at a time. I know this is hard because I have the same fear you do, but perhaps if you just think about today..the rest will just happen
Its like one moment your here..and the next your not.
It got me thinking that this woman had a wonderful life. she always was the type of person who saw the light at the end of the tunnel..
I think that everyone chooses their own path in life..some are religious.some aren't.
The best advice i can give is to take it one day at a time. I know this is hard because I have the same fear you do, but perhaps if you just think about today..the rest will just happen
Josh,
Great topic.
The first time I realized my parents were going to die, that I was going to die I was 8 years old and it scared me awfully.
When I was 15 I lost my brother in a tragic car accident. It shook my faith and caused me to question God, why we are here, why good people die and bad people get rich, etc. I can remember thinking if there isn't a heaven and my brother isn't there I'm going to be pissed!
For a long time I struggled and still do sometimes with thoughts of what happens when we die.
I loved not missing out's response. I really do believe a lot of my anxiety is produced by the unanswered questions that come from just being human, why are we here? why do we suffer? is there a god? what happens when we die? why are so many people in the world suffering? etc...
It seems as I get older and experience more deaths the easier the idea of death is for me.
My grandfather died of lung cancer and the last week of his life he would sing over and over the childhood song Home on the Range, especially the following verse...
Home, home on the range
Where the deer and the antelope play
Where seldom is heard a discouraging word
And the skies are not cloudy all day
The song took on a new meaning for me, I believe he felt he was going home.
I now am at the point where I do think there is something after we die. I don't really believe in heaven or hell. I have been in hell right here on earth and in heaven right here on earth. I think it is more an energy thing. I'm not smart enough to really explain it or put it eloquently but I think we will always be here even when we are gone. For this reason I've started talking to my loved ones that have passed. I don't mean they communicate with me; I speak to them.
I had a dream that was so incredible. I was in my late 20's. It was maybe a year after a trip to Guatemala. During the trip we visited the mountains where there are lakes in the old volcanoes. I remember thinking it was beautiful, a site to see, I have been to Brazil, done a little traveling seen many beautiful scenic places. Later I had the dream. In the dream I was at that place but I was not looking at the scenery taking it in as one might when visiting, I was the place. I was the volcano, I was the foliage, I was the lake, and all of it was breathing. It was the most realistic dream I have ever had. It was the first time where I felt like a part in the greater picture. That's the energy I'm talking about.
As more of my loved ones pass I'm not as afraid to die. I picture them waiting for me. I picture myself being joined with their energy.
Take care in your journey.
Great topic.
The first time I realized my parents were going to die, that I was going to die I was 8 years old and it scared me awfully.
When I was 15 I lost my brother in a tragic car accident. It shook my faith and caused me to question God, why we are here, why good people die and bad people get rich, etc. I can remember thinking if there isn't a heaven and my brother isn't there I'm going to be pissed!
For a long time I struggled and still do sometimes with thoughts of what happens when we die.
I loved not missing out's response. I really do believe a lot of my anxiety is produced by the unanswered questions that come from just being human, why are we here? why do we suffer? is there a god? what happens when we die? why are so many people in the world suffering? etc...
It seems as I get older and experience more deaths the easier the idea of death is for me.
My grandfather died of lung cancer and the last week of his life he would sing over and over the childhood song Home on the Range, especially the following verse...
Home, home on the range
Where the deer and the antelope play
Where seldom is heard a discouraging word
And the skies are not cloudy all day
The song took on a new meaning for me, I believe he felt he was going home.
I now am at the point where I do think there is something after we die. I don't really believe in heaven or hell. I have been in hell right here on earth and in heaven right here on earth. I think it is more an energy thing. I'm not smart enough to really explain it or put it eloquently but I think we will always be here even when we are gone. For this reason I've started talking to my loved ones that have passed. I don't mean they communicate with me; I speak to them.
I had a dream that was so incredible. I was in my late 20's. It was maybe a year after a trip to Guatemala. During the trip we visited the mountains where there are lakes in the old volcanoes. I remember thinking it was beautiful, a site to see, I have been to Brazil, done a little traveling seen many beautiful scenic places. Later I had the dream. In the dream I was at that place but I was not looking at the scenery taking it in as one might when visiting, I was the place. I was the volcano, I was the foliage, I was the lake, and all of it was breathing. It was the most realistic dream I have ever had. It was the first time where I felt like a part in the greater picture. That's the energy I'm talking about.
As more of my loved ones pass I'm not as afraid to die. I picture them waiting for me. I picture myself being joined with their energy.
Take care in your journey.