A Short Poll; What is going on in your life right now that is causing your Anxiety ?
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My husband lays off work to help me take my diabled sister to several doctors. we are supposed to be in Forida right now but I wont go until we have some kind of news. My sisters huge benign brain tumor is growing and constricting her visual fields I only pray it doesnt press of the optic nerve (the localtion of the tumor) because reading is her life.
I feel anxious and angry that her husband, daughter and son do NOTHING to help us. Not even offer to put gas in our vehicle. I really dont want any one else taking care of my sister but each night, after i am worn out physically and emotionally from taking her to yet another dr. I have to have myself little pity party.
I feel anxious and angry that her husband, daughter and son do NOTHING to help us. Not even offer to put gas in our vehicle. I really dont want any one else taking care of my sister but each night, after i am worn out physically and emotionally from taking her to yet another dr. I have to have myself little pity party.
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For me, I always let myself feel anxiety over work. Because I started my own business not long ago it is definitely anxiety producing. Money, deadlines, finding more work - the whole deal.
I remind myself that if I do the best I can in any moment, that's all I can do. Sometimes my best is less than usual because I'm tired or anxious - other times I perform highly. The point is to know that no matter what, I'm doing my best at that point in time and that no matter what the client thinks about what I've done, it's not about me.
It's a daily struggle, but I'm definitely getting better all the time!
Ronda
I remind myself that if I do the best I can in any moment, that's all I can do. Sometimes my best is less than usual because I'm tired or anxious - other times I perform highly. The point is to know that no matter what, I'm doing my best at that point in time and that no matter what the client thinks about what I've done, it's not about me.
It's a daily struggle, but I'm definitely getting better all the time!
Ronda
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The program is helping me look at my fears and know that they are there but actually taking action on some of them has not yet happened. I am a great procrastinator. I'm doing pretty well on the anxiety and negative thought stuff but facing some of the fear that requires physical action on my part is slow in coming.
I quit my job of seven years beause I had so much anxiety there. And now that I'm not working I'm having anxiety about being at home alone, going to visit family/friends or driving anywhere. The program is helping by letting me know that it's okay to feel afraid and it challenges me to do it anyway. I always set these big goals and then beat myself up because I was not able to attain them. The program has taught me to have compassion for myself, just like I would a friend. And to make little goals, such as just driving around the corner, and give myself credit for reaching those. My problem is in realizing that I'm going to have good days and bad days. I just want to conquer this one and for all!!! I wish that it would just somehow magically disappear and there was nothing that I need to do on my end.
All for His praise, glory and the joy it gives Him.
Hugs, In His Love >:D<
Gman9259
"He who dwells in the secret place of the most
high shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty"
Hugs, In His Love >:D<
Gman9259
"He who dwells in the secret place of the most
high shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty"
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Guest
One concept that this program has helped me with is realizing that I can either TRY to be perfect, or I CAN be happy. I've been a perfectionist since I was a little girl and have been frequently praised for it by obviously ignorant people. In particular, my work has been an area where I've felt the need to be perfect. Consequently, this has caused me a great deal of self-induced anxiety. Deep down, I kind of wonder if some part of me secretly just wants to be superior to everyone else, even though this is certainly NOT my philosophy or personality. Additionally, not many seem to notice, so I've started simply saying to myself, "Who cares?" and delibertly leaving errors instead of wasting time fixing them. (This may also have somethng to do with the fact that my request for sabbatical has been approved, and I just don't care...).
I've also been trying really hard to let go of grudges, especially when it's people who I truly don't care about their opinion. Not everyone is going to like me, so why am I concerned about those who don't; frankly, I don't like them either.
OK, so this sounds pretty flip, but hell, it sure does feel good to write it!
fischee
I've also been trying really hard to let go of grudges, especially when it's people who I truly don't care about their opinion. Not everyone is going to like me, so why am I concerned about those who don't; frankly, I don't like them either.
OK, so this sounds pretty flip, but hell, it sure does feel good to write it!
fischee
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Hi Fishee,
Your note is not flippy at all. I totally get it. I had a situation with a customer today that I have never met and he flipped for not reason and escalated to my CEO. It was just out of control. I did nothing. I dwelt all day about this person that I don't like and have to learn to drop things more quickly. I am a perfectionist too but I know I always deliver a good final product. I have learned that it's not the amount of time that makes your work better. I am learning to do the essential and if it is required to do more, then I go back and expand more on it. I always have a strawman to show my boss and then we critic the work and then I go back and finalize everything as opposed to take days trying to figure out how I should be doing my work. It's much easier. I still feel I need to do a perfect job all the time and get a lot of anxiety worrying about whether I can do it properly or not. You have the best attitude. Do your best and then who cares...we can always do some changes before the final product has to be delivered...Hope this helps,
Francois
Your note is not flippy at all. I totally get it. I had a situation with a customer today that I have never met and he flipped for not reason and escalated to my CEO. It was just out of control. I did nothing. I dwelt all day about this person that I don't like and have to learn to drop things more quickly. I am a perfectionist too but I know I always deliver a good final product. I have learned that it's not the amount of time that makes your work better. I am learning to do the essential and if it is required to do more, then I go back and expand more on it. I always have a strawman to show my boss and then we critic the work and then I go back and finalize everything as opposed to take days trying to figure out how I should be doing my work. It's much easier. I still feel I need to do a perfect job all the time and get a lot of anxiety worrying about whether I can do it properly or not. You have the best attitude. Do your best and then who cares...we can always do some changes before the final product has to be delivered...Hope this helps,
Francois
Originally posted by fischee:
One concept that this program has helped me with is realizing that I can either TRY to be perfect, or I CAN be happy. I've been a perfectionist since I was a little girl and have been frequently praised for it by obviously ignorant people. In particular, my work has been an area where I've felt the need to be perfect. Consequently, this has caused me a great deal of self-induced anxiety. Deep down, I kind of wonder if some part of me secretly just wants to be superior to everyone else, even though this is certainly NOT my philosophy or personality. Additionally, not many seem to notice, so I've started simply saying to myself, "Who cares?" and delibertly leaving errors instead of wasting time fixing them. (This may also have somethng to do with the fact that my request for sabbatical has been approved, and I just don't care...).
I've also been trying really hard to let go of grudges, especially when it's people who I truly don't care about their opinion. Not everyone is going to like me, so why am I concerned about those who don't; frankly, I don't like them either.
OK, so this sounds pretty flip, but hell, it sure does feel good to write it!
fischee
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GOD BLESS YOU! This is very difficult. I just found out last week my Dad is terminally ill with cancer and got upset at my Mom and Brother about their behavior. I understand how frustrated you must be. There is nothing you can do to change them. It's unfortunate they are not helping. You and your husband are good people and you are doing the right thing for your sister. It's okay to get angry about them but learn to let it go because it is indeed draining you physically and emotionally. Focus on your sister and the good help you are providing her. You are her angel and you should be proud of that. Good luck, it is a difficult time for you and my prayers are with your family.
Your Canadian Friend,
Francois
Your Canadian Friend,
Francois
Originally posted by Marie Duzan:
My husband lays off work to help me take my diabled sister to several doctors. we are supposed to be in Forida right now but I wont go until we have some kind of news. My sisters huge benign brain tumor is growing and constricting her visual fields I only pray it doesnt press of the optic nerve (the localtion of the tumor) because reading is her life.
I feel anxious and angry that her husband, daughter and son do NOTHING to help us. Not even offer to put gas in our vehicle. I really dont want any one else taking care of my sister but each night, after i am worn out physically and emotionally from taking her to yet another dr. I have to have myself little pity party.
phil 3 this one thing I do forgetting what lies behind, I press On to what Christ has laid hold of for me.
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My stress/anxiety comes from a few different areas of my life.
My daily life; My daily commute is not pleasant-always a lot of traffic jams and I had been late a lot and I was told by my boss that I will be fired if I don't get to work on time. So
just imagine the panic attacks I have trying to BEAT the clock every morning while dealing with
anxiety symptoms of tiredness/muscle tension.
I am trying to find another job closer to home but it isn't easy.
My mother; She also has anxiety and I was raised
in an environment where fear, worry, and nervousness was a daily way of life. She went thru a traumatic experience when I was a baby and she really never addressed her issues and took a lot of her anger and resentment out on me. She is also very over protective and domineering.
My husband has been battling alcoholism. We had
been in therapy for 3 years where I was trying to make him realize his problems, but he needed
to get a DUI before he stopped drinking.
At least he is not drinking anymore so that stressful area of my life has ceased.
We are still working on repairing our relationship and I held a lot of resentful feelings towards him but we are becoming more
loving and caring to eachother.
He also has anxiety and stress issues and is in
therapy both with me and with an addiction therapist. We are working on perhaps starting a family but I am very cautious about this because
of his drinking problem.
My Anxiety-within myself;
Worrying about our relationship, whether or not to start a family (need to decide quickly) not
getting any younger.
My mom getting older, her health problems, and
being able to live alone.
My job -trying to deal with the stress of my
commute. They are cutting back on hiring people
and are firing people a lot lately for lateness,
absenteeism, etc; Overall just being a lot more
stricter.
My health- the anxious symptoms get me scared which in turn makes me sick with headaches, pms,
restlessness, lightheadedness, and muscle tension, heart beats fast.
I am on Session 2 and it has already made me feel so much more relaxed even when PMS-ing.
I am trying to be positive about our relationship and I will try to FACE my fears about moving forward in my life. (THIS IS THE HARDEST PART) but hopefully the program will continue to give me the skills I need to FACE THEM HEAD ON.
Pheww It does feel good to write it all down!!
My daily life; My daily commute is not pleasant-always a lot of traffic jams and I had been late a lot and I was told by my boss that I will be fired if I don't get to work on time. So
just imagine the panic attacks I have trying to BEAT the clock every morning while dealing with
anxiety symptoms of tiredness/muscle tension.
I am trying to find another job closer to home but it isn't easy.
My mother; She also has anxiety and I was raised
in an environment where fear, worry, and nervousness was a daily way of life. She went thru a traumatic experience when I was a baby and she really never addressed her issues and took a lot of her anger and resentment out on me. She is also very over protective and domineering.
My husband has been battling alcoholism. We had
been in therapy for 3 years where I was trying to make him realize his problems, but he needed
to get a DUI before he stopped drinking.
At least he is not drinking anymore so that stressful area of my life has ceased.
We are still working on repairing our relationship and I held a lot of resentful feelings towards him but we are becoming more
loving and caring to eachother.
He also has anxiety and stress issues and is in
therapy both with me and with an addiction therapist. We are working on perhaps starting a family but I am very cautious about this because
of his drinking problem.
My Anxiety-within myself;
Worrying about our relationship, whether or not to start a family (need to decide quickly) not
getting any younger.
My mom getting older, her health problems, and
being able to live alone.
My job -trying to deal with the stress of my
commute. They are cutting back on hiring people
and are firing people a lot lately for lateness,
absenteeism, etc; Overall just being a lot more
stricter.
My health- the anxious symptoms get me scared which in turn makes me sick with headaches, pms,
restlessness, lightheadedness, and muscle tension, heart beats fast.
I am on Session 2 and it has already made me feel so much more relaxed even when PMS-ing.
I am trying to be positive about our relationship and I will try to FACE my fears about moving forward in my life. (THIS IS THE HARDEST PART) but hopefully the program will continue to give me the skills I need to FACE THEM HEAD ON.
Pheww It does feel good to write it all down!!