For the last couple of weeks, I have been so easily aggitated by people. People I know, people I don't. I want to tell them to hurry up, or stop talking, or use your manners!
It's like everywhere I look someone is doing something stupid, or mean, or just plain annoying. I can't seem to get passed it, so I need some advice!
I don't know if it's anger or what. Does any one else get this way...just disappointed in the surrounding population?
For instance, I just saw a woman fall down in our little cafe downstairs. I person tried to help her up, while a good 15 just watched and chatted/giggled among themselves. Now, don't get me wrong, I'll laugh when someone falls down, but this lady was genuinely hurt. I walked across the cafe, picked up a chair and brought it to her so that she could sit down. But, I couldn't believe no one else even moved to help. I just wanted to be like...good grief people, help or get out of the way.
I'm tired of being aggitated...PLEASE HELP!
General Agitation with People...Please Help.
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lilsis
Yes i understand yur feelings!! the public does get to us at times as does family and friends.... But dont allow it to make yu angry,, use it as a tool to help YOU not be like them.
There is lots of rudeness and sillyiness and just dont give a damn n this world.. but WE dont have to be like that!!! We cant change others, but we can Change the way we react to the them....
By the way,, if i ever fall? I hope your around to help me up:) Nelly
Yes i understand yur feelings!! the public does get to us at times as does family and friends.... But dont allow it to make yu angry,, use it as a tool to help YOU not be like them.
There is lots of rudeness and sillyiness and just dont give a damn n this world.. but WE dont have to be like that!!! We cant change others, but we can Change the way we react to the them....
By the way,, if i ever fall? I hope your around to help me up:) Nelly
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I agree with you on that Mello Nello. Sure is nice to have a few people who care. I was the same way. I expected to much from other people. They will always let us down because we are human. I do not like to get in a situation like that where people just stare and do not help. It still makes me get very upset. I am trying to consider the source sometimes. Lesson 4 really is helping me on this one. Expect Less and Get More. It is a good one. Well hopefully we will be there to help others. Sure am glad for this post and also the chat. We can stick together and help each other. Have a nice day!!
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lilsismj,
I can relate. It's like people don't live up to our expectations. We have such high expectations for ourselves and others fall short. Just live your life according to your ideas and we have to learn to expect less. I'm only on lesson 3 so now I'm learning about changing my thought process. Take care and don't change what you are doing just what you're thinking!
I can relate. It's like people don't live up to our expectations. We have such high expectations for ourselves and others fall short. Just live your life according to your ideas and we have to learn to expect less. I'm only on lesson 3 so now I'm learning about changing my thought process. Take care and don't change what you are doing just what you're thinking!
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hi, i can really relate to your situation. I think ppl can just be SO MINDLESS!. I work in a grocery store so i see it all the time. Customers are by far the WORST....they think cause they get tired they have the right to ignore you when its BLATANTLY CLEAR that they can hear you.....ugh i wanna slap them. Its like ok if you dont care about answering my question then i guess you dont care if i bag your groceries wrong.
As far as other people ive just gotten so used to working with them that i get to know theyre idiosynchracies all the things they slack up on....all the annoying stupid and repetetive things they must do cause of their annoying personalities LOL....anyways....i just validate my feelings and that seems to be 3/4 of the battle right there so if theres anything i can offer it would be THAT. Keep at it! youre doing great!.
As far as other people ive just gotten so used to working with them that i get to know theyre idiosynchracies all the things they slack up on....all the annoying stupid and repetetive things they must do cause of their annoying personalities LOL....anyways....i just validate my feelings and that seems to be 3/4 of the battle right there so if theres anything i can offer it would be THAT. Keep at it! youre doing great!.
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Yes, I should possibly go back over lesson 4, expect less. It is something that I want to work on, because I can't be continuously irritated by everyone and still expect to lead a positive lifestyle.
I really don't like this feeling and hopefully the lesson will help. Of course, I couldn't do anything without you guys.
Gosh...why are people so stupid! Everyone should have to do the StressCenter.com lessons, gain some common sense, and just plain be better to themselves and those around them. I guess this is where one person can make a difference. It's the only way.
I really don't like this feeling and hopefully the lesson will help. Of course, I couldn't do anything without you guys.
Gosh...why are people so stupid! Everyone should have to do the StressCenter.com lessons, gain some common sense, and just plain be better to themselves and those around them. I guess this is where one person can make a difference. It's the only way.
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I feel the same way sometimes. I find it is my mood that does it though. I think it's all in the way we view the world.
I tried an experiment years ago. No one was very friendly where I worked (It was a big place, with 7000 employees). I decided to smile and say hello to everyone I met in the aisles or at the copiers, or at the printers.
It didn't take more than 3 weeks and most people were answering me with Hi or Hello. After two months people were initiating the Hello or Hi and smiling! One day walking with my husband (who also worked there) he said how do you know all these people? I said I don't know them at all, but I just always say hello and they say hello back and now everyone is saying hello to me all the time!
This proves to me that it was MY attitude which was bad not theirs. They were just waiting for someone else to be friendly. My husband couldn't believe it a while later when we met a particularly snarly VP in a hallway, he said Hello to me first! That's because I intentionally said hello to him many times!
I think if we are friendly, and reach out MOST people will (in time) reciprocate. Try it - what do you have to lose! As far as helping the lady, people are embarressed don't you think? They are scared. You are an exceptional person to have helped her and shown her kindness. Thank goodness for people like you!
I tried an experiment years ago. No one was very friendly where I worked (It was a big place, with 7000 employees). I decided to smile and say hello to everyone I met in the aisles or at the copiers, or at the printers.
It didn't take more than 3 weeks and most people were answering me with Hi or Hello. After two months people were initiating the Hello or Hi and smiling! One day walking with my husband (who also worked there) he said how do you know all these people? I said I don't know them at all, but I just always say hello and they say hello back and now everyone is saying hello to me all the time!
This proves to me that it was MY attitude which was bad not theirs. They were just waiting for someone else to be friendly. My husband couldn't believe it a while later when we met a particularly snarly VP in a hallway, he said Hello to me first! That's because I intentionally said hello to him many times!
I think if we are friendly, and reach out MOST people will (in time) reciprocate. Try it - what do you have to lose! As far as helping the lady, people are embarressed don't you think? They are scared. You are an exceptional person to have helped her and shown her kindness. Thank goodness for people like you!
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I appreciate that you guys think I did a really nice thing by getting the lady a chair...I feel that it was just human.
I understand about smiling and saying hello...which I actually do. I've never met a stranger, because I'm from a small town and I just talk to everyone.
I do think it's my attitude and I need to change it. But I want to do more than that as well. I want to help others change. This is not the way people need to act toward each other. There is no sense in not being kind, aware, polite or even slightly empathetic.
I will begin by changing me. But, I'm not stopping there! I'm going to make a change, not just me, but in the world around me...as many people as I can reach. I am going to smile and spread kindness. And hopefully, I can and will inspire others to do the same.
I understand about smiling and saying hello...which I actually do. I've never met a stranger, because I'm from a small town and I just talk to everyone.
I do think it's my attitude and I need to change it. But I want to do more than that as well. I want to help others change. This is not the way people need to act toward each other. There is no sense in not being kind, aware, polite or even slightly empathetic.
I will begin by changing me. But, I'm not stopping there! I'm going to make a change, not just me, but in the world around me...as many people as I can reach. I am going to smile and spread kindness. And hopefully, I can and will inspire others to do the same.