I have struggled with depression and anxiety for years, and it really seems to be much worse the past month or so. It is really causing problems with my girlfriend. She thinks I am avoiding her. Then this tension makes things even worse. I feel like I need a partner who is going to be supportive of me. I know she cannot make it go away, but still if this is who I am, she needs to decide if she accepts me for who I am or not.
Just wondering what role your partner plays in your recovery. Is he/she supportive? Do you wish he/she were more supportive?
How supportive is your partner?
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Inner Peace
My husband is supportive in me doing the program and getting help, but he stays out of it. He doesn't hound me to do the work and the session, but he also doesn't ask questions or talk to me about it. I wish he would talk to me since alot of my problems stem from our relationship problems. I asked him to watch the "there for you video' and read the one section in the first book, be he won't.
Some of that bothers me, but then I also think it is okay. This is my problem and I need to fix it on my own. Nobody can fix it for me. Like they say 'you are your own safe place and safe person'. You need to do it on your own.
If she is willing to watch the there for you video it will help in things she should and shouldn't do or say. I think that unless she is going out of her way to make it difficult for you, she probably doesn't understand what you need or want and what her role is and how to help. You could try talking to her about what you need, but don't be angry or disappointed if she can't or wont. The most important thing is your recovery. And if you do it on your own all the more to feel better about yourself. You are strong and can handle this. Good luck! I hope this helps.
My husband is supportive in me doing the program and getting help, but he stays out of it. He doesn't hound me to do the work and the session, but he also doesn't ask questions or talk to me about it. I wish he would talk to me since alot of my problems stem from our relationship problems. I asked him to watch the "there for you video' and read the one section in the first book, be he won't.
Some of that bothers me, but then I also think it is okay. This is my problem and I need to fix it on my own. Nobody can fix it for me. Like they say 'you are your own safe place and safe person'. You need to do it on your own.
If she is willing to watch the there for you video it will help in things she should and shouldn't do or say. I think that unless she is going out of her way to make it difficult for you, she probably doesn't understand what you need or want and what her role is and how to help. You could try talking to her about what you need, but don't be angry or disappointed if she can't or wont. The most important thing is your recovery. And if you do it on your own all the more to feel better about yourself. You are strong and can handle this. Good luck! I hope this helps.