please please reply im desperate for an opinion or some advise i cant bare it anymore

lau_von_c · Post by **lau_von_c** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:26 am

hey everyone
i am a 21 yr old girl living in england and for the past 4 years, since i was 17 i have had bad problems with the following on pretty much a daily basis:
Spaciness.. like a dreamyness or drunk feeling.. that makes me say silly things and make me feel out of it
headaches.. but on my eyes, nose and temples more than anything, the headaches dont react to pain killers and it is more a pressure than a painful headache
tiredness, cant be bothered feeling
a heavy head

I thought it was a candida overgrowth but my DR said thats a load of crap and said its typical anxiety but i dont beleive him. I dont have full on panic attakcs but this started when a family member of mine died and i began binge eating. At the moment I can be a pretty paranoid person... i hate the way i look and put myself down a lot. I do get the feeling of a lump in my throat when Im nervous and the spaciness definately gets worse when Im in social circumstances...

Im worried theres something wrong with my body that they are missing and its not anxiety but they cant find anything,

Please can anyone comment on the symptoms i am mentioning? I almost have the depression i have had under control but I have had these symptoms for so many years now and I cant bear it much longer :O(

Thanks

Lau

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:27 am

i also get fluttery chest things.. like my heart skips a beat and then beats really fast!!! My mum said this can be stress right? I dont get full on panic attacks though

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:37 am

Lau,
I also get the fluttery feelings usually right before an anxiety episode. I don't really get the full blown panic attacks either, but the anxiety when it comes leaves me feeling fluttery and my heart beats irregularly. I have been tested for every ailment out there and there is nothing wrong with me except for the thoughts I put in my head. I just listened to lesson 4 on expectations it seemed to help with this. Also, try the breathing from the relaxation cd it helps. Good luck
Julie

pearpickinporky · Post by **pearpickinporky** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 2:46 am

does this seem like anxiety then?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:21 am

Lua,
It is all anxiety. I have every single symptom you are mentioning. I have really bad TMJ as well from the anxiety which gives me the headaches, eye aches and pressure around my nose and head. I am dizzy most of the time and feel so spacey all the time. I feel like I can't think or comprehend at times. Trust me I have had every test known to man and everything is normal. My doctor tells me there isn't anything else to test. Trust me I am feeling the same thing you are and you are not alone. It is all anxiety. You just need to relax and float with the feelings instead of focusing on them all the time. If you need to talk more just PM me.

Ashlynn

Curtstl7 · Post by **Curtstl7** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 9:23 am

Hi there,
A lot of my anxiety problems started after a close family member died as well. It's been 5 years, but I have recently started seeing a grief counselor. You may think you have grieved or that it might not be an issue any more but sometimes grief feelings can get pushed to your mind's back burner and still upset you (in the form of anxiety or depression) at random times. You may want to talk to a grief counselor. I am now and it seems to be a good investment.
Good luck!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 9:59 am

I had real panic attacks driving when I was 35 right after hysterectomy Learned distraction technique counting backwards from 100 by 3's It works Really well Had used meditation and vizualization after cancer diagnosis at 35 and it helped Lost my mother, father, and brotehr all in 3 years last being my mother long cancer illness in 04 My husband of 20 years found love online while I was taking care of mother I buried it all Remained highly functional became Hospice volunteer Built a home and then recently, had chest pain over breakup with man
realized I needed help Started the program the relaxation/meditation has helped immensely have dropped substance abuse ( alcohol and pot) with no difficulty AMAZING but I guess I was ready
Fear of embarassment was huge for me Have revisited some traumatic experiences from 20-30 years ago
I exercise daily and that is huge but need the meditation/relaxation too I don't sleep well if I don't do relaxation Am finally addressing my grief/loss issues and also becoming more assertive! I am devout catholic and am thanking God every day for this program have encouraged several of my employees to do it as well
Main thing I can say is it is OK to feel what you feel Positive affirmations REALLY make a difference

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 11:01 am

I have felt that way most of my life, and I am finally recovering now. It was essential to me to watch what I ate and made sure I got the proper nutrition and to exercise. It gave my mind time to clear out the negative thoughts and gave me a sense of accomplishment. Also eliminating caffiene and using the relaxation tape at night got rid of all my nightmares. I hope these hints help, they certainly won't hurt

good luck

ronda stephens · Post by **ronda stephens** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 11:03 am

Hey,

Not to make you worry,but with head aches and such you should at the very least have a Cat - scan and maybe MRI of the sinus cavity.If you don't get the right answer from one doc try another.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 12, 2008 11:10 am

I've also had similar physical symptoms and I know it was triggered by the death of my father and grandmother. It made me paranoid about how fast things can be taken away from you. I was ok for a long time until a divorce and everything came up again. And again when my mother died. It made me realize that there will always be losses in life and I need to figure out a way to cope with these loses, because there is no way I can prevent them. I also had panic attacks when driving and they have since gone away. So it is not a death sentence. Things can and a lot of times change for the better.