Anger is my Motivation

Joe B. · Post by **Joe B.** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 1:16 pm

It is what made me fight back and succeed. Now it is out of control and I am sick of being angry.

What else can I use as motivation? I also use it to protect myself from getting hurt.

I need advice.

Peace.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 2:15 pm

Hi Joe, I also struggle with anger...I've heard it said that Depression is deep rooted anger//I'm not a professional, but I think it makes sense. I've been through my share of battles in life and letting go of the anger has been the hardest thing, but I'm doing it! Now, to answer your question, I think "Determination" should be our motivator! Determined to be the whole, happy selves we were meant to be! I feel that when I'm feeling determined, it actually "feels" good in the soul..I can laugh, smile and think more clearly where Anger makes my stomach turn, blood boil and my head hurt and then I panic ,now, how productive is that?? if you know what I mean?? Anger is a human emotion, everyone has their moments, but anger that is not "dealt" with, festers and is/can be dangerous! We can hurt the most closest and dearest people in our lives(whether it be physical or emotional)
Determination can also help us from "getting hurt". If we're determined enough to fix "OUR" problems(our anxiety is self produced, right?) than when we can "control our thoughts and attitudes, we won't allow ourselves to be overtaken by "hurt." ( I cannot say we will never be hurt, as people will always let us down, however, it's up to us to get back up, wipe the dust off our knees and continue forward) anywho....That's my advice. Nice to hear from you again. Take care and God Bless

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 6:16 pm

Mom,

Thanks again for great advice.

Peace

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 6:35 pm

I as well have heard from a professional that depression often appears as anger. I have dealt with anger, and although not 100% gone I'm much better. Less irritable,and altogether more at peace. The way I conquered it was through a therapist at first, and then practicing on my own. When you are not felling angry, sit down and think of something that makes you angry. Then simply 'talk to it'. I know maybe it sounds childish, but it worked for me! Ask your anger, 'why does this bother me?', 'Is this my anger or have I been taught or did I learn to be angry at this?'. As well, when you have some time on your hand just ask yourself, 'Why am I an "angry" person?'. At first it might be awkward, you might feel self-conscious, or just downright weird 'talking to yourself/anger', but just me it's tried, tested, and true. These excercises, both when you make youself angry and when you just think without any negative thoughts,can be used not only with anger but with many other aspects of your life. Both negative and positive traits you have can and should be analyzed in this manner. Knowing the problem is half the solution. Once you have figured out WHAT it is, then you can deal with it. Some reasons are valid, others less so. Rough childhood, and an inabiltiy to express my feelings led to my anger. Valid but I still have to get rid of it. Other times, you have a right to get angry. How to express it is another story, but we do have a right to be angry and express our anger. I apologize for writing such a long 'letter', I hope you can glean something valuable from what I have written, and Good Luck!!!

Peace bro!