Some verbal abuse tips I have found. At the moment of being verbally abused, remember to:
Stay calm. Do not become agitated.
Let the abuser vent. He or she will lose steam and may realize the person refuses to become a victim of their abuse.
Do not reward the abuser by reacting to their actions with hurtful responses. Lashing out lets the abuser know they had power in affecting the person’s emotions.
Glass
VERBAL ABUSE
another is -- get out of the abusive situation if it seems warranted. for example, some people don't like that their verbal abuse is being "taken lightly" or "ignored" -- and they get more violent.
(physical cues like hovering/blocking doorways suggest that one should get out asap.)
(physical cues like hovering/blocking doorways suggest that one should get out asap.)
I will sing unto the LORD, because he hath dealt bountifully with me.
Psalm 13:6
Psalm 13:6
Hi, If a person is really abusive, then yet you need to get out or get help.
Most of us have people in our lives that don't know they are being verbally abusive. That does not make the pain any less. I have used the tactic of Malikye many times in my life, but it gets you nowhere and just shows how insecure we really are.
The better advice is from glass, but does anyone know how to stop the feelings of anger and hurt?
When ever I am called stupid or you don't know how to shop, or damn you can't do anything ritht, I know the person is just saying something in frustration and does not know how to use words, but at the time I get so mad that I could just hit that person. I am learning to curb my temper, but how do you stop the flip flop of your heart or your stomach? Even at work we will get generalized emails from customers that are acutally directed at the comany, but if I am the one that opens it, I get insulted.
I was verbally abused by my parents for most of my growing up years, but I now know they did not know what they were saying. They had 6 kids and 8 mouths to feed (including them), and were pretty overwhelmed. They did not come from the greatest upbringing but they tried their best. They were wonderful parents, but when they got angry they did not know that the words they used would hurt us. I being a very sensitive person took it to heart and the others could let it slide off their shoulders.
Anyway, don't be too hard on Malikye, he knows not what he speaks.
Thanks,
HOPEFULL
Most of us have people in our lives that don't know they are being verbally abusive. That does not make the pain any less. I have used the tactic of Malikye many times in my life, but it gets you nowhere and just shows how insecure we really are.
The better advice is from glass, but does anyone know how to stop the feelings of anger and hurt?
When ever I am called stupid or you don't know how to shop, or damn you can't do anything ritht, I know the person is just saying something in frustration and does not know how to use words, but at the time I get so mad that I could just hit that person. I am learning to curb my temper, but how do you stop the flip flop of your heart or your stomach? Even at work we will get generalized emails from customers that are acutally directed at the comany, but if I am the one that opens it, I get insulted.
I was verbally abused by my parents for most of my growing up years, but I now know they did not know what they were saying. They had 6 kids and 8 mouths to feed (including them), and were pretty overwhelmed. They did not come from the greatest upbringing but they tried their best. They were wonderful parents, but when they got angry they did not know that the words they used would hurt us. I being a very sensitive person took it to heart and the others could let it slide off their shoulders.
Anyway, don't be too hard on Malikye, he knows not what he speaks.
Thanks,
HOPEFULL
He sure doesn't.Anyway, don't be too hard on Malikye, he knows not what he speaks.
hugs&kisses,
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
I think he should be banned as well, Barb.Originally posted by Barb G.:
Malikye, You should be banned!!
hugs&kisses,
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
KARILYN, I NOW HAVE BEEN VERBALLY ABUSED THEEE TIMES ON THIS THREAD. YOU SEEM TO SHOW UP ON EVERY THREAD THAT MIGHT TURN INTO AN ARGUMENT.I WILL SPLAIN YOU. NEVER TREAT VERBAL ABUSE WITH SILENCE.THAT IS GIVING THEM POWER. YOU GIVE IT RIGHT BACK AT THEM. WE DON'T LIVE IN THAT WORLD. OUR SPIRIT DIES IF WE DON'T STAND FOR IT.....................................MALIKYE
What the heck are you talking about.
hugs&kisses,
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."
Karilynn
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Frank Herbert
"How you climb up the mountain is just as important as how you get down the mountain. And, so it is with life, which for many of us becomes one big test followed by one big lesson. In the end, it all comes down to one word: grace. It's how you accept winning and losing, good luck and bad luck, darkness and the light."