Hey to everyone -- haven't been on in a while. I've been feeling REALLY GOOD the past few months until earlier this week. Trouble with my business, DH's job and general finance worries have kind of put me into a spin. You know how something that seemed fine a couple days ago now is like the ONLY thing you think about? I've been fine with our debt (albeit know we need to be working on it) but the past few days I've become OBSESSIVE -- can anyone relate?
Anyway, I could feel the anxiety building, and I tried to keep it at bay. I even tried telling myself that this IS an actual something to feel anxious about -- and allowing myself to feel it. But then the spacey feelings started and last night I slept about an hour (REAL fun...) So now I'm spacey, tired, and still trying to get back on track.
I want to go back and listen to a lesson but not sure which is most appropriate.
Could really use some encouraging words. I know this "episode" will pass, as they all do, but I'm just feeling rough.
Thx. for reading. Happy Friday!!
Ick - speed bump.. would love some advice
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I know what you mean because I've had a speed bump this past couple of months myself.
I was talking to my counselor yesterday about 'feeling it building' and I didn't know what that was about. He reminded me that that is anticipatory anxiety and that when we fight the feelings, we just add to the anxiety.
I like to remind myself that I've been through these set-backs before, but every time you learn more skills so it is never as bad as the last time. I am finding that I'm sort of "pulling out" of this latest 'round faster than the last time. I'm guessing that will be the case for you, too.
I'm also going through some financial worries so I can relate to that as well.
Hang in there!
I was talking to my counselor yesterday about 'feeling it building' and I didn't know what that was about. He reminded me that that is anticipatory anxiety and that when we fight the feelings, we just add to the anxiety.
I like to remind myself that I've been through these set-backs before, but every time you learn more skills so it is never as bad as the last time. I am finding that I'm sort of "pulling out" of this latest 'round faster than the last time. I'm guessing that will be the case for you, too.
I'm also going through some financial worries so I can relate to that as well.
Hang in there!
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honestly...this is an irrational fear also. what is the worst that can happen? honestly? odds are you are not going to lose your house or car. whatever comes, will come and you can handle it. do your best and this time REALLY let GOOOO! and let GOD! he's not gonna let you lose all. just have faith....like i said, whatever happens you can handle and i'm sure it's not as bad as you think, it never EVER is!
smile...
smile...
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mm2bys
as a single mom raising 2 kids ( with no child support ) ive had my share of financial worries, so i understand that finances are a difficuly thing. 2yrs ago i was taken off work due to panic, agoraphobia and all that other fun stuff. disability $ barely made a dent, but i was grateful it was there. ultimately i lost my job because the dr kept me out of work for a year. i would get sooooo anxious and worked up about how i was going to manage. i made myself even more sick by all that worrying. i pray a lot for guidance. and one morning my then 10 yr old daughter brought me a picture she drew of me throwing money up in the air. I have no idea why she drew this picture. But i kept that picture in my bill box. everytime i had to face these bills that picture made me think of just surrendering this thing i had no control over at the time...money (or lack of it). i felt such a sense of peace. of course i still had to pay the bills but i knew i could only do so much and i left the rest to God. it was amazing that once i stopped obsessing changes in my life began to happen for the better. i didnt win the lottery or anything.lol. trust me worrying wont get you anywhere but sick. i still have that picture my daughter drew, and when i get anxious about anything now i imagine myself throwing my arms up in the air and just letting go. it doesnt always take all my anxiety away but it does make me smile.
as a single mom raising 2 kids ( with no child support ) ive had my share of financial worries, so i understand that finances are a difficuly thing. 2yrs ago i was taken off work due to panic, agoraphobia and all that other fun stuff. disability $ barely made a dent, but i was grateful it was there. ultimately i lost my job because the dr kept me out of work for a year. i would get sooooo anxious and worked up about how i was going to manage. i made myself even more sick by all that worrying. i pray a lot for guidance. and one morning my then 10 yr old daughter brought me a picture she drew of me throwing money up in the air. I have no idea why she drew this picture. But i kept that picture in my bill box. everytime i had to face these bills that picture made me think of just surrendering this thing i had no control over at the time...money (or lack of it). i felt such a sense of peace. of course i still had to pay the bills but i knew i could only do so much and i left the rest to God. it was amazing that once i stopped obsessing changes in my life began to happen for the better. i didnt win the lottery or anything.lol. trust me worrying wont get you anywhere but sick. i still have that picture my daughter drew, and when i get anxious about anything now i imagine myself throwing my arms up in the air and just letting go. it doesnt always take all my anxiety away but it does make me smile.