does Anxiety and Depression ever completely go away ?

happy2b · Post by **happy2b** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 7:52 am

I have had off and on going anxiety and depression for over 30 years. I have done the program several times, and it helped me tremendously, but I seem to go through a time at least twice a year when I start up again feeling bad. I have the tools to work with, and I take Effexor, does anyone else experience this like this ? It scares me, I never want to feel the way I used to. Also, when this happens, I get all these thoughts and fears that my husband will die and leave me alone, and that I won't be able to cope. I have cildren and grandchildren, and friends, but when I feel this way, I feel totally alone. I need someone to tell me they know what I am feeling, and how to I ever get completely over this ? Thanks for listening, Bonnie

kyeric · Post by **kyeric** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 10:06 am

Bonnie,

Anxiety and depression are in many ways signals to ourselves that we are out of balance, stressed out and not focusing on the things in life that help us. We are motivated to help as many people as we can, but rarely take the time to give ourselves the time and attention that we really need.

This program has helped me more than anything ever has. I have not suffered with these things nearly as long as you, but I can relate, so when I tell you that we have the power to change, the power to create a new world without the pain, indifference, the scary thoughts, the sleeplessness...it can and will happen.

This doesn't mean that the anxiety or depression ever goes away because these are natural human emotions that everyone has. To take these away would mean that we would be numb to many things that make us special, unique and, well, us.

Managing the symptoms on a daily basis is the best, all-natural, no side-effect way to rid ourselves of the ickyness of these things and when we finally do them enough, we don't think about it. This program can retrain the way we talk to ourselves, the way we feel about the symptoms and how to treat ourselves with more love and respect.

Does it last? Of course, but we must be willing to do the work and maintain it through our lives.

We don't take one bath and expect to be clean for the rest of our lives and we must cleanse our minds with positive, encouraging thoughts and soak our hearts in love each and every day.

Good luck on your journey!
Eric

~*schnauzermom*~ · Post by **~*schnauzermom*~** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 10:44 am

It scares me, I never want to feel the way I used to.

The vicious circle starts. It scares us. I know what you mean, I felt much the same way.

I NEVER wanted to feel THAT way ever again. Just thinking about how I used to feel scared me because I never wanted to feel that way. See my vicious circle. Feeling and thinking, thinking and feeling about stuff like this over and over can scare us.

But the skills of the program CAN sustain you! I know when I first started to feel better, I thought it was too good to be true. I thought that I would slip back but never did. Sure I have good days and not so good days, but goodness life has been SO much better! I know everything will not be good, perfect and in my favor all the time and that is OK too!

I finally gained self confidence and self esteem in myself that I can achieve great things alone, without my safe person. I have faith in my actions and judgement and although I may not always be right and correct I have learned to accept that too. I am not flawless and that is OK. I am weak and vulnerable and I am strong and intelligent too! I am human, that IS the way I am supposed to be. I feel, I think, I experience! I know I can't be everything to everyone and that is fine too. I have to set realistic expectations for myself and lower my expectations of others in order not to get into that same hole I was in.

What is triggering you feeling bad? Is is weather, lack of light (seasonal affective disorder?) job stress (work got busier or slower), more responsibilities? Or maybe your spouse, kids, friends are busier and you do not spend time with them? Maybe your routine, diet, sleep pattern has changed?

You are not alone though. I get down here and there and sit under the full spectrum lamp. That perks my mood up! I also need to remind myself that I will not always be elated and joyful, that I will feel aye, so-so or maybe a bit down and tired...and that is OK too as long as it does not last for weeks. I remind myself that things will look better in a day or two. Sometimes it is just the weather or something I ate that does this to me. But it passes! Use the skills and keep going!

happy2b · Post by **happy2b** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 3:00 am

Thanks for your reply, I know that's all true, I just have to push myself into thinking that way. I do think that SAD, and the Holidays being over definitely affects me. I know it does, because this time of year always sets me off. Again, Thanks for your encouragement. Love, Bonnie

LCE · Post by **LCE** » Sat Jan 12, 2008 12:19 pm

Does a full spectrum light only help people with SAD? I live in the South and getting enough light during the winter isn't an issue here. Would a full spectrum light help someone with ordinary depression? If so, where do I get one?

ASALIA · Post by **ASALIA** » Sat Jan 12, 2008 2:03 pm

YES DEPRESSION WILL GO AWAY OK DON'T WORRY IT WILL I HAD IT FOR 21 YEARS AND SINCE I HAVE THE PROGRAM I FEEL MUCH BETTER IT WILL GO AWAY IT IS BECAUSE SOMETHING IS GOING ON YOUR LIFE THAT PROBABLY YOU DON'T WANT TO ADMIT OR ACCEPT BUT THAT IS NORMAL OK IT WILL PASS DON'T WORRY I'M VOLUNTEERING IN A SCHOOL AND THAT HELPS ALOT YOU FEEL DEPRSESSED BECAUSE YOUR THOUGHTS THAT'S ALL DON'T WORRY GOOOD LUCK