How many males are here on this forum? Its hard trying to be a man with this crap.

MeloTrauma · Post by **MeloTrauma** » Sat Dec 29, 2001 8:43 pm

Just curious because Im male and for the most part I see alot of females here. I just want to know how you feel. I feel like I am not as much of a man as I use to be 4 years ago before I had any of this. I cant do the things I use to do. Please respond if your male.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 30, 2001 6:41 am

Hey There,

I am a male and have had this now for 3 years. I understand you completly. Whats worse is that I am 25 and sometimes feel like I am 4 and want my mommy or something.....It can make you feel like a looser but just remember that you are not. Hang in there. It does go away. Mine has come back, but it did go away before, so I can get it to go away again.

Good luck with it,
You are more of man in the end!

Brandon

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 30, 2001 7:26 am

Melo,
Maybe real men aren't afraid to say they have a problem out loud and do something about it. Maybe real men express their problems in public and don't hide them. Maybe real men...But what is a real man?

Peace,
Steve

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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Dec 30, 2001 1:19 pm

MeloTrauma:

I think you will be surprised at how many males are on this forum. This qyestion went around a few months ago and I was shocked. Statistics say that 80% of panic sufferers are women. However, here on the forum it is sometimes 50-50.

EXCEPT that the statistics might be scewed because men suffer in silence (or in a bar self-medicating).

You are not alone.

By the way, I am not a man. <IMG SRC="http://bbs.stresscenter.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

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Always Hopeful, Betsy H.
Marietta, GA (East Cobb)
Get out and walk...five minutes today, six minutes tomorrow...until you work your way up to 30-45 minutes and day and see how much better you feel in just a few weeks.

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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 02, 2002 7:42 am

I'm male .... 30 .... from Canada.

It is very hard to deal with this as a male. I feel like a little kid. Men pride themselves in being strong mentally and physically. I don't feel either. I am going to beat this thing .... I know I'm strong ... and I think the program will now give me the needed tools. I'd pay $10,000 to feel better.

KDlady · Post by **KDlady** » Wed Jan 02, 2002 10:44 am

Hi guys,
I just want to say I think it is great you are working on this anxiety. I know of two men at the moment that have it but don't want to take the time to face it and overcome it. One is my hubby. He gets busy and well, you know, there is always something else to do. The other is a friend/co worker. He has regular panic attacks and limitations but he wants a pill to fix him or its something else causing it in his mind. He listened to my first 4 tapes but then he gave up. I hope soon they will feel the need to work on this. I think we all come to it in our own time. ANyways, I think you are definitely on the right track in working on this. Keep up the great job. ps. (it sucks for the women too. <IMG SRC="http://bbs.stresscenter.com/ubb/smile.gif"> )

Admin_1 · Post by **Admin_1** » Fri Jan 04, 2002 5:23 am

I am new to this forum. I just received the "program" yesturday. I am a 50 year old man who has been struggling with anxiety and depression for at least the last 38 years. I bristled when I read the original post. Those of us who are males are MEN. We can not be men, whe just are. The stereotypes are full of it. John Wayne always rode off lonely into the sunset with only his horse and a bottle of rot gut.

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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 10, 2002 5:03 pm

I was under the impression more men had panic attacks than woman. I've had panic attacks for about 15 years and have learned they become more frequent the older I have become. My father has it and deals pretty well in my eyes without medication or help. Upon talking to my mother he's just as bad as I am. I then discovered my grandfather had it and his before him. I now understand it is hereditary and is passed down. I hope my daughter doesnt get them. It has held me back on alot of things that I wished I had done now. I am taking the steps to get better and one day I will do those things I wont do now. <IMG SRC="http://bbs.stresscenter.com/ubb/smile.gif">

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:58 am

yeah, i'm male and i just got the program 2 weeks ago. i'm 24 and i've got a rough childhood, i did a lot of drugs as a teen, which i think worstened things, and i was without my father for most of my teens as well, which really leaves a mark of insecurity. the thing that sent me over the edge was when i was about 19, i got hit HARD with anxiety and depression. i stopped doing drugs cold turkey! i had my heart broken by this chick after i had gotten over another one. i felt there must have been something wrong with me. my mind was so weak, i had been far from God, and honestly i felt empty and alone. so depressed i couldn't socialize,, i had no confidence with girls anymore,, no confidence to stop people from walking all over me,, then i got labled and harrassed, people called me a "pussy, fag, dork, loser, weirdo" i was so down and weak i started to question myself. i knew it was all just bully type bs, but at the time it was frightening to ponder on my self image. i felt so far out from the crowd. the good thing is i came closer to God, realized i'm not any of the things i was labeled, and realized that my mind was my own enemy. lemme be arrogant for a sec here: when i'm NOT worrying about everything,, i'm the man!!! when i'm worrying about stuff, i'm an insecure wreck ready to snap!!! i drank, smoked ciggarrettes, criticized everyone else. just last week i was engaged to be married to the most amazing woman i've ever been with. everything was perfect. but MY ANXIETY DESTROYED OUR RELATIONSHIP. we were ganna get married on june 30th. we cancelled it on june 20th. talk about stress for all!!! soon as it started to screw things up, i realized i had a serious problem that needed to be worked out. can't fix these things overnight,, just sucks cause her parents are still in control over her and they kinda prefer to keep us apart(we come from two different worlds). it's all part of God's plan though,, that's all that gets me through this.

this program i feel is part of an answer to my prayers and probably that of many others.

YEAH, ANXIETY IS TOUGH FOR MEN.

soon as i get over the anxiety/depression, i'll tackle talking too much!!!

god bless guys, we're all tough here!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 24, 2007 7:54 am

hey your not alone.ijust got the program last week. im 29 in july and been dealing with this my whole life.Due to my fears ive pusheg away everyone that cares and worried about people that didnt matter. i always thought that if you didnt have feelings they could not get hurt BOY WAS I WRONG!!! now imsitting here like a egg shell i ether have my chest out and no one is good enough or hunched over and im not good enough there just doesnt seem to be a in between