Completely Humble and Gentle

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Completely Humble and Gentle

Ephesians 4:1 - 3. Unity and Maturity in the Body of Christ

"As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."

Why do you think Paul connects humility, gentleness, and patience with good relationships and unity? Recall examples of your own experience in which the above attitudes have made a positive impact on relationships.

Read 1 Samuel 25. What can we learn from the actions of Abigail and David regarding proper behavior in difficult and tense situations?

The story of David, Nabal, and Abigail provides an excellent example of successful social interaction. Results vary significantly depending on how individuals present themselvesas superiors, as equals, or as humble friends or associates.

David sent his soldiers to Nabal with a fair request. We have protected your men and your property; give us whatever you can find (1 Sam. 25:7, 8, authors paraphrase). But Nabal didnt know about kindness or diplomacy. We are told that he was a harsh and evil man. Other translations use terms such as surly, mean, brutish, rough, dishonest, churlish, and rude. And he surely displayed these traits before Davids warriors.

In contrast, notice Davids initial attitude. Even though he held the military power, his message was full of care and humility, wishing Nabal and his household long life and good health, introducing himself as your son David (vs. 8, NIV).

As for Abigail, the Bible tells us that she was intelligent and beautiful. Notice her behavior: she provided an abundant amount of choice food; she ran to appease David, bowed down before him, addressed herself as your servant and David as my master, and asked for forgiveness. She also reminded David that as a man of God, he needed to avoid needless bloodshed.

The result of Abigails tactful and humble action brought about a complete turn in Davids intentions. He praised the Lord for sending her and praised her for her good judgment. This effective mediation, full of godly spirit, saved the lives of many innocent men. As for Nabal, David did not need to shed blood, because the man diedprobably of heart failurea victim of his own fear.Its easy (usually) to be kind to those we like. But what about those we dont? Think of those you find very disagreeable. How would they react if you displayed a humble and gentle attitude toward them? Through Gods grace, give it a try (remembering, too, that you might not always be the most likable and lovable soul either).