Anime Guy on a Date
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There are going to be times where you lose your motivation. If you can come up with questions that make you look at what you lose by not following through and what you gain by following through, you can remotivate yourself. My suggestion would be to copy out those questions I posted at the beginning of this year and go through them either every 2 weeks or if you start to feel the motivation start to fall or you become very doubtful and discouraged with yourself. This is what you may want to do when trying to change any habit or belief and replace it with something new that is more beneficial.
THH
Sorry about your cousin
Your very welcome and I'm happy to have been apart of your journey! I'm also happy that I can share my insight with others.
Ha I thought you'd like the perv thing. If you open the hole up more and more, you might find the end of the rainbow and a mean obnoxious lepracaun.
My advice for the list. Just put something down on paper and then revise it instead of trying to do it the "right" way. I think I wasted many hours doing it that way. I found that it really started to come together after I asked myself why it would be important to place these values in the order I have. Thats when I really started to eliminate, add and restructure my list to better suit me. I also found that some of the values worked together so I placed them together. I am pretty proud of my accomplishments, thank you.
Karen L
What happened just before the obsessive thoughts?
I'm getting better at asking these questions. I think it got alot better once i figured out my values and started to take a good look at my beliefs and how they affect my life. If I were you I'd actually write those questions down and use them when you start to go back into that old thought pattern.
You said you actually felt sorry for the guy. What has this guy done to you?
How many times has he manipulated you?
How many times has he really considered your feelings?
How many times has he actually done something for you just for the sake of doing it and not in order to get something in return?
How many times has he used you as an excuse not to change?
How has he treated you for the most part since you've known him?
How disrespectful was it to use flowers to manipulate you into getting back with him?
Was he respecting your feelings and actually talking about working through problems or did he just want you to forgive him and forget about the past?
He's done all these things and you feel bad for him?
Your right he is a huge hindrance! You deserve to have a happy life and him being apart of your life will keep you from achieving this. It'll steal away your potential moments of positivity and replace them with misery. Even the thought of him does that to you!
How many minutes, hours or even weeks have been ruined because of it?
Has it empowered you or disempowered you?
Has it made you more clear minded or more overwhelmed?
Has it helped you make better quality decisions or lesser quality decisions?
How has it affected your energy level? Has it given you more energy or taken more away?
Has it enhanced your feelings of self-worth or has it made you feel more worthless?
Does it help you in your goals or does it push you further away from achieving your goals?
Does it allow you to experience deeper feelings of joy, love, happiness, excitement and satisfaction or does it take away from it?
Well was thinking more of the X thing for the obsessive thoughts but we can work on the car thing. First of all I'd definately imagine it to be bumper cars. Second I think I would make the driver of the car some kinda cartoon character like pookaroo. Maybe you hit him out of the way kind of like in a game of curling and you hit him right out of the center and you slide in his place winning the game. He jumps out of his car and starts swearing at you but of course he is pookaroo so all he can say is pookaroo. Not knowing what he is saying you take it as a compliment and you hug him and he gets so angry he turns red and then explodes and then it rains skittles or m&ms...maybe candy corn or men. HOw do you think you would feel if you said that to yourself or imagined it everytime you got into that situation? Would you still be able to feel anxious?
Thank you, that list took me many hours to create because I kept trying to do it the "right" way instead of just putting something on paper and then continue to revise it...well I did do that after I got frustrated but it took many hours to get frustrated enough.
Ha you read that comment I posted for THH eh? I'm glad you liked it.
Mike
just kidding. I think thats really awesome that you are destroying that limiting wall.