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To ALL
Merry Christmas and Happy New Years!
Ok so we've been doing the challenge for probabbly around 15 weeks already and we started off going really strong in the beginning. We talked about facing our limitations and using the skills and it was really wonderful! We were taking action and we were getting results and that was really great and you should all be proud of that but where did that go?
Personally I haven't felt very satisfied with how the challenge has been going, I also haven't been satisified with the level of effort I was putting towards the skills either. I am determined to make 2011 diffrent!
Do any of you feel satisfied with the level of effort you are putting into overcoming this condition? Or into using the skills?
[I really want you to take a hard look at these questions and be really honest with yourself. If the answers bother you then good, I hope they do bother you enough that your brain says enough! And you become more motivated to change! The brain will want to change if you truely aren't satisfied and you are willing to look at it in its entirety! If you think that you should avoid this because its too painful then I want you to think which pain is more...the pain you are going to get by not taking action or the pain you will get by looking at your pain. To put it more in perspective which is more horrible for you? several minutes of pain or decades of consistently increasing pain? Would you rather wait for a very serious tragedy, terminal illness or loss of a very significant relationship in order to motivate you or would you rather answer a few questions and get the motivation now?]
Is living the way you are right now satisfactory to you?
Is living the way you are right now going to help you achieve all your dreams and become the person you always wanted to be?
Is it creating more joy, excitement, passion, love, success and passion or is it creating more misery and suffering?
Does how you live right now increase and enhance your mental, physical and financial health or does it hinder it?
Does it enhance your relationships with others as well as yourself and create deeper and stronger feelings of love?
Is living the way you are now enhance your ability to feel positive or does it enhance your ability to feel negative?
Is how you live right now going to create a brighter future and create positive long term effects or will it lead to a darker, more miserable future and create more negative long term effects?
Will living the way you are in life right now going to increase your feelings of worth, your self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence or is it going to make you feel more worthless and make you look down on yourself and your abilities?
Is living the way you are now creating more accomplishments and increasing your ability to contribute and enhance the quality of what you do or does it take away from it?
What will your life be like if you continued to live the way you are now for another 5 years? Will you be more satisfied or less satisfied?
What will your life be like in 10 years if you continued to live the same way and not change at all? What goals and dreams would you have had to give up?
If you continued to live your life for 20 more years living the way you are now what will your life be like? Who would not be in your life anymore? What kind of health problems would you be having?
Does it create more suffering or pleasure in the short term?
Is it going to create more suffering or pleasure in the long term?
Are you now satisfied with how you are living right now or do you want to change it?
If you realize that change is something you want now then I highly recommend you use the challenge in order to share your experiences with the skills, with facing your limitations and with the action assignments in the workbook. This opportunity may never come again! This opportunity can be one of the best if you truely want to overcome this condition as quick as possible and if you let it go well then you may not move along as fast and have the same support when you finally decide that now is the time you change your life.
I love you guys and I wish the best for you and want you to be happy but because of secondary gains in which giving people attention for their suffering can enable people, I from now on will not respond to posts unless they are about facing a limitation, working with skills, working with the action assignments or anything that is actually going to help overcome the anxiety and depression. You are all free to still vent or post whatever you like and I do not want to make you feel like you shouldn't do that. I just want you to know how I will choose to respond and I you deserve to know why just like you all deserve to have wonderful lives! Everyone of you who reads this deserves to have a wonderful life and I am more concerned with helping people achieve this instead of being nice and I place more importance on this instead of being a nice guy and trying not to hurt feelings.
I will still post my experiences and the things that I'm learning and I will still post videos and fun things and such. I still want to put my heart into my posts and be myself (which by the way is greatly changed!)
I do hope everybody understands me and to not end on a painful note I want to ask more questions.
How would your life be like if you continued to use the skills you learn from the program on a daily basis?
How would they enhance your relationships? Would they create a potential for deeper feelings of love or take away from it?
How would living with the skills from the program affect your self-esteem and self-image? Would you feel better about yourself or worse?
How would practicing using the relaxation cd on a daily basis effect your stress level? Would you be able to tolerate more stress or less?
How would using the relaxation cd effect your sleep? Would it potentially create a better quality of sleep?
How would using the relaxation cd affect your emotions? Would it potentially enhance your ability to feel the positive emotions or hinder it? Would it potentially increase your ability to work through and handle the negative feelings?
How would using the relaxation cd affect your ability to handle your limitations? Would it make you think clearer, make better decisions and potentially set you up for a better outcome or would it make you more spacy, make more mistakes and lead to a less favorable outcome?
How would using the skills affect your communication with others? Would you potentially be able to communicate better with others or worse?
Would living with the skills from the program help you to achieve your dreams or goals and become the person you want to be or would it work against your dreams and goals and work against your goal to become who you want to be?
Will living with the skills from the program make you feel more satisfied with life or less satisfied?
Will it create more hope or less?
Will living with the skills on a daily basis gain more respect from others or less?
Would living with the skills from the program create better relationships with your children or other family members?
Would living and using the skills from the program on a consistent basis make you more prepared to handle difficult situations or make it worse?
Would living and using the skills from the program on a daily basis potentially increase your mental, phyisical or financial health or hinder it.
What would your life be like if you continued to live with the skills from the program on a daily basis for 5 years?
Would would it be like in 10 years? What would have you accomplished because of it?
Would would it be like if you lived your life with the skills on a daily basis for 20 years? How much respect would you have? What kinds of people would you surround yourself with? What kinds of things would you say to yourself? What dreams would you accomplish? What kind of person would you be?
So what outcome do you really want? Would you rather go down that path that you saw after answering the first set of questions or would you rather go down the path that you see after the 2nd set of questions?
You deserve to feel happy and enjoy life to its best don't you?
Mike
I am really watching my expectations, people even family (lol) are always going to be the same people. It does not mean that I am right with my thoughts on things, I can hear their thoughts and ideas and give things a chance, instead of taking everything personal and linking it to the last 5 conversations and making it 10 times more than even what it is???! This has been good for me. 
Well this will be fun to come back to next year. 
Paislee