First let me say I have a call in to my Psychologist.
2nd- honestly up until 440pm this has been my best day in 5 years. Didn't need anything and at this moment (6pm) I am still ativan free. So far.
Backstory: 8 year old boy and 13 year old girl. 10 years marriage. He is not my daughter's biological father but adopted her when we got married.
I was a stay at home mom until August. Husband lost 110+k/year job in July. Now total income 50k/year with my job and his unemployment (maybe stress his contributing factor)
Never a happy marriage. Gets better then worse but never good.
Start:
My husband got in an argument at around 440pm. Really just me defending myself and really not the issue here. Details: He was putting me down and I just decided to tell him to stop. That he isn't any better. It got pretty heated and he went somewhere and I could hear him hit the wall or something.
Problem: My son comes up and hugs me and comforts me. Then proceeds to tell me how mean dad is to him in the mornings. My daughter chimes in and they both tell me how scared they are of him in the morning.
This morning he took a belt and was flinging it around and threatening my son with it and hitting it on furniture. I guess he yells and screams profanity at them every morning before taking them to school. My son and him are like oil and water. Actually both are just alike and that's why they fight.
I am soooooo stressed about this. I feel like if he doesn't change I have to divorce him. He has always been kind of a jerk but wow- this is another level. My kids are scared of him. Thank goodness tomorrow I take the kids to school and then I am off work until after the new year.
What do I do? Is this something that can be fixed? I know he has to want to fix it? I am sitting here wanting an ativan but wanting to do it on my own? With something this terrible is it possible for me to lose my mind? Because if I lose my mind then while I am in the hospital getting fixed the kids will be with him the whole time. That doesn't solve anything. HELP ME!!!!! PLEASE!!!! Should I take the ativan or finally deal with something without clouding it and running away from it? Can I mentally do it??????? Help.
Why can't the chat line be up or why can't my therapist call back. UGH!!! Pray!!!
CRISIS MODE please advise....
Psychologist called me. First house call I have ever had. Talked to me about marriage counseling and told me I would be ok without the ativan and NOT go crazy. Anyway I go in tomorrow if I need to. Of course- If I really feel I have to take an ativan go ahead. So far so good but husband gets home in about 15min. Practice ends at 7. I am to talk to him about the kids being scared of him and how we can fix this. I hope he wants to go to marriage counseling. Maybe he would agree to personal counseling if not.
"Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees you are in the perfect position to pray."
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Paisleegreen
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I am now reading your post, but I'm glad the Dr called you and you will have a chance to talk to your husband. Yes, financial difficulty can really stress a marriage and really makes the "bread winner" irritable. Even more so if they are prone to express themselves like that.
Hang in there...hope to hear from you soon.
paislee
Hang in there...hope to hear from you soon.
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SilverLining
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Hi shello, Sent a prayer up for you and your family. Like Paislee, glad the psychologist called you back and at least answered your question about the meds. Hope you are able to work things out. Take care, Tammy
Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
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SilverLining
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