Honesty

TKasprzak · Post by **TKasprzak** » Sun Dec 12, 2010 7:18 am

Does anyone else have a probelem with being honest? Not only to other people but to yourself? If so, can you please share with me how you fight that?

SoWhatif · Post by **SoWhatif** » Sun Dec 12, 2010 3:21 pm

Find away to make yourself accountable.
A journal helps, counselor, and do you like yourself?
The Truth will allways prevail in the end.

Keeping the Faith · Post by **Keeping the Faith** » Tue Dec 14, 2010 1:43 am

I have a problem with being honest when I fear I will hurt someone else.....but in the long run it's only ME who's truly hurt.

It's something I struggle with a lot. Don't get me wrong; I don't LIE, but I don't always honestly tell someone how I feel either.

I think there's a happy medium between being DIRECT vs. being honest. I work around several people who think being direct is just being honest, but it's their DIRECTNESS and bluntness that hurt.

Honesty shouldn't hurt, it should just inform.

Flyer99 · Post by **Flyer99** » Thu Dec 16, 2010 2:31 am

I love the part of your post that mentions being honest to yourself. I know that I am honest with others, although I don't always open up and tell everything that is on my mind. The parts I do tell, however, are honest. Interestly enough, though, I have a tougher time being honest with myself. This shouldn't be as we should be able to tell ourselves anything. But sometimes I try and kid myself. Perhaps if I could just open up and have a good, honest discussion with myself. It's hard to explain this in words but I'm sure many know what I am talking about.

Paisleegreen · Post by **Paisleegreen** » Thu Dec 16, 2010 5:51 am

I understand what you mean, flyer99. Sometimes, we have to be ready to be honest with ourselves. Our brains can only take so much input, then it goes on overload and we can't cope with too much information at one time. For Example: If a person was sexually or physically abused at a certain time in their life. They have suppressed that information or incident to protect themselves until they are a "grown up" and ready to remember or face it while they are a healthy adult.

Such as the movie or book about "Sybil".

Another example is when I lost my son to suicide. I went into shock and a deep depression, but gradually I had to face the reality that I wasn't going to see this son again in this life. I was numb and checked out from the world. I was never going to be the same person I use to be before that happened.

So everyday, I'm facing the truth as each year goes by that I am not seeing this son grow up while my other children do.

Maybe this is too deep for the question asked, but it can have meaning to the smallest "lie" or "truth" kept hidden from yourself to protect yourself.

Unfortunately, life doesn't stay the same until you're ready to face the truth and that is what makes it even harder. I always wish that the world would stop turning until I get my act together or myself figured out.

I hope this helps...even if my examples might be extreme. We have big truths and small truths to face as we journey each day on earth.

Paislee

Flyer99 · Post by **Flyer99** » Thu Dec 16, 2010 10:41 am

Great post Paislee, makes a lot of sense! Thanks!