This is just stupid funny!
Mcshope;
12 hours is a long drive especially if you have anxiety over it, that could be difficult.
She sounds like a very nutty sister-in-law!!! I used to be like her in my teenage years actually so I can understand the mentality. She must spend alot of time feeling attacked, insecure and angry. How has this lady offended everybody? She honestly sounds like one of us but many many stages behind us in the anxiety and depression topic. It sounds like he is going to have a hard time with her anyways. Sometimes walking on eggshells gets too frustrating and we just give up, we're going to offend the person no matter what we say. Its almost like the person chooses to be offended and there definately is choice involved. What do you mean that them having it mexico city means its not going good?
Congratulations on doing the 2nd interview and facing the anxiety! Now for the dreaded waiting, so frustrating!
Paisleegreen;
Excuses! That walking around in the living room in one place sounds so very boring! Not to mention you are looking at all the things you have to do vs the benefits so of course you aren't going to be very motivated to do it. That would demotivate anybody. Its like having all the food you have to eat in your entire life just sitting in front of you. Would that motivate you to eat the food? By the way the Jacuzzi sounds like it would be a nice "reward" for your efforts! What could you do to make exercising more enjoyable? Could you add music? Can you do it with someone else? Can you add incantations or visualizations about achieving the goals you have for yourself?
The questions I asked THH and her answers might be some of the same questions from the cards but no I didn't take them from the cards. I took them from Tony Robbins! Well alot happens all around us in our environment and we cannot pay attention to everything. We pay attention to a small band of experience and this is determined by our values (Health, Success, Freedom, Happiness). Our values are the target and the beliefs determine if we have reach our targets, they are the rules or things we must fulfill in order to feel healthy, successful, free, happy...etc. So yes things having to be a certain way because of our beliefs. When we have conflicting beliefs it can lead to self-sabotage. This means when we working on changing something big in our life and we put effort into it and then we stop after awhile. Its because of the conflicting belief or rather the belief of a negative value. We will do more to avoid pain ie if we have a belief that mistakes are bad then we might fear failure and do anything we can to not fail. Does that make sense?
THH;
So is Family then Love that you get? Um independance from nature maybe? (I'm trying to figure out what kind of feeling it creates...ie health, confidence...etc. Art would be creativity. Spiritual can be just spiritual I think...if you can feel spiritual that is.
How much time do you spend feeling successful vs not feeling successful? And how much time would you like to feel successful?
Well since my lymph nodes are swollen in my groin I'll have lots of time to explain more about this. I'll put it in another post and I will be posting about my own values and beliefs however it may take me awhile to do this as I have many things that have to happen in order to feel my positive values and I have a long list of things that can create the negative feelings/values. Then I'll change them too. You very well might have quit challenging yourself before the program...especially if you were perfectionistic. Perhaps you didn't try many things because you were afraid of failing and your mind would do anything to avoid that pain. Yes moving helps to burn that extra energy. Like Lucinda says, its like being in high gear with your breaks on! I"m really happy with this new morning routine myself!
Lindalee;
Welcome back!!! It likely isn't because your computer is new that you lost the post. If you open a post window and it is open for too long and then you go to post...it can do that. It can do that sometimes without a long opened window but that isn't as likely. In order to avoid that I right click and click select all and copy. If it goes away then I right click and click on paste.
What do you need to add and change up?
Last couple of days!
I've been a little overwhelmed with things lately and haven't posted as much as I would have liked to but I will have more time to do that now. The lymph nodes in my groin area are swollen and my upper leg is achy. My body needs to rest. I'm making sure my legs are elevated, I also put some of the red (strong) tigerbalm on the affected area along with a plaster patch.
I've listened to some more Tony Robbins audio program and have been working with my values and beliefs a little bit. I think I put too much emphasis on getting it done perfectly right and in the right order but it isn't as important to do it that way. My top value on my list of positive values is Security. Which makes sense and you will probabbly be amazed at what has to happen in order for me to feel secure. Doing this exercise is a great way to figure out expectations or rules we have for each other.
Oh and I met someone yestaurday off a dating site who I found out was a psychologist. It was pretty cool and we were talking about many things. One of those things was guilt and I figured that it would be a good idea to work through everything I belief about guilt and everything that causes that feeling. I came up with 58 diffrent things so far...well some of them are similar, I'm just writing things down as I think them and then will go through them and cross some off. Then will replace those beliefs with more realistic ones like I did with sleep. Amazing how guilt just leads to more and more guilt! I wonder if my first anxiety/panic attack was a guilt attack.
I'm still working on my sleep and I got to sleep around 11ish instead of pushing myself to stay up later and post. I was happy! It took me awhile to fall asleep but that was ok. I also set my alarm for 7:30am and well it took me an hour to get up and then I went out the door and did my hour of power and felt better. It was hard with the lymph node issue though. I am now going to comitt myself to waking up at 7am everyday, no matter what!!! Well cept for those days where I stay up late after a party or whatever but other then that 7am!!
Mike
I even got my DD and I a t-shirt one year for Christmas time that had a white fluffy cat biting into the string of Christmas lights! That part always cracks me up...