DON'T WANT TO SCARE ANYONE SENSITIVE WITH THIS POST-NEGATIVE....
Hey everyone. As in my previous posts, my dad had a massive stroke. Although he's progressing and was moved to a rehabilitation hospital, he does have small clots in his legs (not uncommon, he hasn't really moved much yet) and my mom told me awhile ago he was transported to the hospital to get something inserted so the clots don't travel.
My father reached for me with his 'good' arm and hugged me before I left yesterday so I know he gets 'it'. I have hope.
Except for last night, I found out my cousin (a couple of years younger than me 38), has a brain tumor. THIS IS MY GROWTH SPURT!!!
I know what the program says, but I feel like I am just waiting for the sky to fall down on me. Every time the phone rings, I expect it to be BAD, BAD news. I can't believe I am in this situation, trying to stay positive and strong with nothing but terrible news. Can anybody give me more hope, more positive, more happy thoughts or anything? It's very appreciated!
Me
Okay Guys, give me strength.....
I'm sorry for all that is going wrong in your life right now. I too feel like it doesn't rain but it pours. I never seem to have one issue, I have a bunch. Try not to dwell on it. It seems like it I do that more "badness" happens. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers for better days. Email me if you want to "chat" more.
Hi Karmerri-
I'm sorry that all this ickiness is crashing around you. My happiest thoughts for you are to keep on doing what you know is correct, despite any "feelings" and respect your boundaries in all this. And... the biggest thing.. lay all this at the feet of God. He will take the burdens away or help you bear them. He is a great friend.
Hugs to you and your family.
I'm sorry that all this ickiness is crashing around you. My happiest thoughts for you are to keep on doing what you know is correct, despite any "feelings" and respect your boundaries in all this. And... the biggest thing.. lay all this at the feet of God. He will take the burdens away or help you bear them. He is a great friend.
Hugs to you and your family.
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bevhembree
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I'm so sorry your loved ones have fallen ill. I'll bet you wish you could do something to make everything better for them. But you can reach out, offer to help and just love and support them. I, from experience, know you just have to face each day and each situation one at a time and not let the fear of other "what else's" get to you or the severity of the current situations. I don't know if I'm making any sense. It seems like you were just finding hope when you got sucker-punched with more bad news.
Try to take deep breaths, revisit the sessions, LOOK for the good in your life, whether it be your bringing a smile to someone's face in showing your love or maybe just a hug you get or give or, sometimes for me, a tail wag from my little dog. Start small and the good will add up and make you stronger. Hope I've helped in some small way.....
Try to take deep breaths, revisit the sessions, LOOK for the good in your life, whether it be your bringing a smile to someone's face in showing your love or maybe just a hug you get or give or, sometimes for me, a tail wag from my little dog. Start small and the good will add up and make you stronger. Hope I've helped in some small way.....
"Here and happy because of my three little angels- Marie, Chad and Cady."
Thank you so much for your replies. You know, we hear all the time to look for the good in our lives, but we don't do that NEARLY as much as focusing on the negatives. I will take all of your replies and gather the strength to overcome these "scary" feelings and scenarios that have creeped into my head lately. Hopefully, I'll be able to update in the near future with some positive news....until then..
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Paisleegreen
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I just want to add that my mother had strokes too. But the thing I love about what has happened to your Dad is that he reached out to you. I think that is very special. Cherish that experience and the feeling you felt.
Second, right when I thought my trials were over after moving into our home we live in now, 20 odd years ago. I sat on the deck overlooking at the time prairie land and then thought, okay, what's next? You all through my married life I've had ups and downs. So I waiting for the next trial to show up and it did. My husband ended up with a brain tumor and we didn't have any health insurance at the time.
Anyway, long story short, he survived the tumor, it was a cyst that was blocking spinal fluid from draining from his brain. It caused him terrible pain for years but we didn't kno w it was tumor. Until, finally he succumbed to the pain and went into a coma. I didn't know it was a coma a the time, but I was blessed with wisdom to get him back to a hospital when they gave a wrong diagnosis for his headache pain in the ER.
He was treated and was released and he could go back to work as usual. We were also blessed to have his bill written off. We didn't yet own the house we were in and our business was still very young. The Lord truly answered our prayers. Since then we have upped his Life Insurance and we have always had health insurance just in case.
We since have had many more trials in life, but you will be given the strength and wisdom to take care of them, that I know for a surety. It just is not always fun or what you expect.
Second, right when I thought my trials were over after moving into our home we live in now, 20 odd years ago. I sat on the deck overlooking at the time prairie land and then thought, okay, what's next? You all through my married life I've had ups and downs. So I waiting for the next trial to show up and it did. My husband ended up with a brain tumor and we didn't have any health insurance at the time.
Anyway, long story short, he survived the tumor, it was a cyst that was blocking spinal fluid from draining from his brain. It caused him terrible pain for years but we didn't kno w it was tumor. Until, finally he succumbed to the pain and went into a coma. I didn't know it was a coma a the time, but I was blessed with wisdom to get him back to a hospital when they gave a wrong diagnosis for his headache pain in the ER.
He was treated and was released and he could go back to work as usual. We were also blessed to have his bill written off. We didn't yet own the house we were in and our business was still very young. The Lord truly answered our prayers. Since then we have upped his Life Insurance and we have always had health insurance just in case.
We since have had many more trials in life, but you will be given the strength and wisdom to take care of them, that I know for a surety. It just is not always fun or what you expect.
I also know how you are feeling, I lost my dad in September 2010 and my best friend who I haven't seen in a while is very ill and I am just getting over being in a bad car accident on July 3 2009, it just seems like one thing right after the other, and I have just bought the program and I am really looking forward to making myself a happier person and looking for the positive in life because what I have been doing lately isn't working and everyone has problems especially as we get older, some just deal with them better than others, I know if we think positive good things will happen.
Karmerri,
My mother had a very serious stroke nine years ago. It affected much of her functioning including speech, eating, etc. She was in a rehab facility for several months, and progressed very well. She was then able to go home, although with some limitations. My family has all helped to take care of her since. It has been one of the best experiences of my life! We've gotten so close to our mother, and have seen things about her that we might not have, had she not had the stroke. So many positives have resulted. Rehab can usually do wonders with most stroke patients. It's amazing to see it. I hope this gives you hope and faith!
Take care
Joe
My mother had a very serious stroke nine years ago. It affected much of her functioning including speech, eating, etc. She was in a rehab facility for several months, and progressed very well. She was then able to go home, although with some limitations. My family has all helped to take care of her since. It has been one of the best experiences of my life! We've gotten so close to our mother, and have seen things about her that we might not have, had she not had the stroke. So many positives have resulted. Rehab can usually do wonders with most stroke patients. It's amazing to see it. I hope this gives you hope and faith!
Take care
Joe
I am so happy I got on here today and got to read the other replies to my post! You guys have been great. Olive, I am so glad you got the program, because although it's been hard at times these past few weeks, I don't want to know where I would be if I didn't do the program in the past. And yes, I've been listening to the tapes that pertain more to my situation right now. They are a Godsend.
JJ, thank you so much for your post. I do know what you mean about the positive side of such a bad situation. The way I've dealt and talked to my siblings in the past few wks really show how grown and mature and how much we all really love each other..and Dad and Mom. Rehab, although he's only been in a few wks, has been great. My mother called a little while ago so happy because she walked into his room at the rehab hospital and he was sitting in a wheelchair, which was the first time my mom has seen him sit up since that night of the stroke. I felt like I won the lottery when I heard her cry with happiness! I will be seeing him at the end of the week, I can't wait. Thank you all....bless you all.
JJ, thank you so much for your post. I do know what you mean about the positive side of such a bad situation. The way I've dealt and talked to my siblings in the past few wks really show how grown and mature and how much we all really love each other..and Dad and Mom. Rehab, although he's only been in a few wks, has been great. My mother called a little while ago so happy because she walked into his room at the rehab hospital and he was sitting in a wheelchair, which was the first time my mom has seen him sit up since that night of the stroke. I felt like I won the lottery when I heard her cry with happiness! I will be seeing him at the end of the week, I can't wait. Thank you all....bless you all.
I get the DailyOm in my email box every day. I always seem to get just the right message at just the right time. This one might give you some peace of mind:
June 17, 2010
Below the Surface
Finding Deep Strength
We have all have times in our lives when we think we don’t have the strength to carry on. You do, and you can.
We have all faced moments in our lives when the pressure mounts beyond what we feel we can handle, and we find ourselves thinking that we do not have the strength to carry on. Sometimes we have just gotten through a major obstacle or illness only to find another one waiting for us the moment we finally catch our breath. Sometimes we endure one loss after another, wondering when we will get a break from life’s travails. It does not seem fair or right that life should demand more of us when we feel we have given all we can, but sometimes this is the way life works.
When we look back on our lives, we see that we have survived many trials and surmounted many obstacles, often to our own amazement. In each of those instances, we had to break through our ideas about how much we can handle and go deeper into our hidden reserves. The thought that we do not have the strength to handle what is before us can be likened to the hard surface of a frozen lake. It appears to be an impenetrable fact, but when we break through it, we find that a deep well of energy and inspiration was trapped beneath that icy barrier the whole time. Sometimes we break through by cutting a hole into our resistance with our willpower, and sometimes we melt the ice with compassion for our predicament and ourselves. Either way, each time we break through, we reach a new understanding of the strength we store within ourselves.
When we find ourselves up against that frozen barrier of thinking we cannot handle our situation, we may find that the kindest choice is to love ourselves and our resistance too. We can simply accept that we are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stretched, and we can offer ourselves loving kindness and compassion. If we can extend to ourselves the unconditional warmth of a mother’s love, before we know it, the ice will begin to break.
June 17, 2010
Below the Surface
Finding Deep Strength
We have all have times in our lives when we think we don’t have the strength to carry on. You do, and you can.
We have all faced moments in our lives when the pressure mounts beyond what we feel we can handle, and we find ourselves thinking that we do not have the strength to carry on. Sometimes we have just gotten through a major obstacle or illness only to find another one waiting for us the moment we finally catch our breath. Sometimes we endure one loss after another, wondering when we will get a break from life’s travails. It does not seem fair or right that life should demand more of us when we feel we have given all we can, but sometimes this is the way life works.
When we look back on our lives, we see that we have survived many trials and surmounted many obstacles, often to our own amazement. In each of those instances, we had to break through our ideas about how much we can handle and go deeper into our hidden reserves. The thought that we do not have the strength to handle what is before us can be likened to the hard surface of a frozen lake. It appears to be an impenetrable fact, but when we break through it, we find that a deep well of energy and inspiration was trapped beneath that icy barrier the whole time. Sometimes we break through by cutting a hole into our resistance with our willpower, and sometimes we melt the ice with compassion for our predicament and ourselves. Either way, each time we break through, we reach a new understanding of the strength we store within ourselves.
When we find ourselves up against that frozen barrier of thinking we cannot handle our situation, we may find that the kindest choice is to love ourselves and our resistance too. We can simply accept that we are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stretched, and we can offer ourselves loving kindness and compassion. If we can extend to ourselves the unconditional warmth of a mother’s love, before we know it, the ice will begin to break.
"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose." -Dr. Seuss
You can steer yourself any direction you choose." -Dr. Seuss