Mike -
It took me about a year to build up from never exercising to running regularly. I did this back when attending college. I started off slow, first running a block then walking. I'd repeat this for as long as I could during the session. Eventually the walk portions got shorter and then I was running the entire time. In the process I ended up losing about 55 pounds.
While I am allergic to nuts, the allergies are not extremely severe. I can usually get away eating foods pre-made with the warning label that they are processed in a facility that also processes nuts. I typically know immediately if I've eaten something with nuts and can take an antihistamine to stop or reduce the reaction, which I always carry with me. I would have to eat quite a bit of nuts for it to be a serious problem, the worst case-scenario that my throat would swell closed and prevent breathing. Otherwise, I just get some swelling in my mouth and throat and often have to vomit.
I am sensitive to dairy as well, but I can tolerate some things. I usually do fine with cheese or any of the high-fat products. This makes sense since the higher the fat content, the lower the lactose content. I can even tolerate some brands of yogurt. I'm not sure why some brands are worse for me than others but I've learned from experience what works for me and what doesn't. Otherwise, I tend to use soy products. I have had rice milk, but soy milk is easier to find and less expensive.
To be truthful, when I found out Freddie Mercury was gay, that made things even worse. I was closeted at the time and I didn't want anything to do with things that might question my masculinity or sexuality. It was a horrible way to live. But now I'm very comfortable with myself and am happy that I am who I am. Now that I'm essentially married to a man I don't let things like the sexuality of the artists I listen to bother me, LOL!
That's good that there are only a few friends that you're having trouble with. After reading your other posts, it became more clear that this friend wasn't intentionally trying to hurt you. It sounds like he was just being insensitive and was unaware how it might affect you.
Lastly, I'm very sorry to hear about your great aunt. Even when you're not that close, it still can hurt a lot. I know for me, I don't usually cry about these situations until well after the event. It's as though it takes days or weeks for my brain to fully process. The other issue is that you may be too stressed from your anxiety, exhaustion, and depression to even react. That's normal. You can only deal with so much at one time and typically we tend to deal with the most pressing issues first.
Jamie
The Challenge...Lesson 5
My goals today are acceptance, putting effort towards my skills and interrupting negative habits. As long as I follow these goals, I will end up becoming that person I want to be and have that life I desire, that will be inevitable and I don't need to worry about it. I spend my time nourishing my mind and body with positive productive things.
Diet and exercise have been like a black shadow over my head most of my life. I have been overweight most of my life, there was only one time that I was in a weight that I felt fine with. So, I have been on “diet” all my life. Exercise was never my friend, I think it was because I was never good at it. Being overweight in a place where almost everybody was thin, was not an easy way to grow up. The worst part is that looking at pictures of when I was a kid, I was not fat, however I grew up with the idea that I was. Being overweight became a label and the main way to measure my self-worth.
I have tried to deal with that idea for a long time. I am sure that being overweight and feeling fat also marked the way I approached relationships. It was very difficult to believe that someone could be interested in me and thinking back, there were a few guys that were really interested, I just couldn’t believe it.
Since I started this program I have made an effort to exercise. I am 43 years old, and I know the main reason that I don’t lose weight is because I don’t exercise. I eat fairly well, however the lack of exercise doesn’t help. I also have high blood pressure, so regular exercise will help with that too.
I just wish I can keep up exercising almost every day.
Hope
Diet and exercise have been like a black shadow over my head most of my life. I have been overweight most of my life, there was only one time that I was in a weight that I felt fine with. So, I have been on “diet” all my life. Exercise was never my friend, I think it was because I was never good at it. Being overweight in a place where almost everybody was thin, was not an easy way to grow up. The worst part is that looking at pictures of when I was a kid, I was not fat, however I grew up with the idea that I was. Being overweight became a label and the main way to measure my self-worth.
I have tried to deal with that idea for a long time. I am sure that being overweight and feeling fat also marked the way I approached relationships. It was very difficult to believe that someone could be interested in me and thinking back, there were a few guys that were really interested, I just couldn’t believe it.
Since I started this program I have made an effort to exercise. I am 43 years old, and I know the main reason that I don’t lose weight is because I don’t exercise. I eat fairly well, however the lack of exercise doesn’t help. I also have high blood pressure, so regular exercise will help with that too.
I just wish I can keep up exercising almost every day.
Hope
"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, it empties today of its strength." – Unknown
Karen,
I am responding to some old posts, I think 2 hours raking leaves counts for a workout. Is it a nice feeling of mission accomplished, right? It is good that you try to go out driving almost every day. Good for you.
Chocolate, for us is a double hit, caffeine and sugar. I know that white chocolate doesn’t have caffeine, and I have been able to find some chocolates that are sugar free, I can’t tell the difference. After being caffeine free for a couple weeks, I can tell you that my morning anxiety has been reduced a lot.
Good job on going to the Alanon meeting, it is good to be among people who understand what we are going thru. It is ok that you left, maybe next time you could stay a little longer… baby steps remember.
Smoking, not an easy one. I have not been able to quit, I am afraid I will gain more weight. I think once I get going with the exercise, I will be able to cut back, maybe even quit. One thing at a time, and now my focus is on getting better and exercise regularly.
About the Alanon meeting, I don’t think the alcohol is the one to blame, he treated you bad, and I bet it was not only when he was drunk. I think that an alcoholic is powerless over alcohol, they can’t control their drinking. The same way, you can’t control an alcoholic, you can’t control his drinking… what you can control is how long you stay there, how long you accept him treating you bad… You are right by being upset, even mad and angry… why?... because you have spent a long time feeling guilty, feeling that it was your fault, feeling that maybe you deserved it….. FINALLY YOU REALIZED THAT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, IT IS HIS FAULT. Believe it or not, being angry is a step forward.
Sorry to hear you are getting sick, but it will be a 3 days thing, and YOU ARE NOT going to get a sinus infection. Do not program yourself to get one.
You are doing good, you are doing good.
I am responding to some old posts, I think 2 hours raking leaves counts for a workout. Is it a nice feeling of mission accomplished, right? It is good that you try to go out driving almost every day. Good for you.
Chocolate, for us is a double hit, caffeine and sugar. I know that white chocolate doesn’t have caffeine, and I have been able to find some chocolates that are sugar free, I can’t tell the difference. After being caffeine free for a couple weeks, I can tell you that my morning anxiety has been reduced a lot.
Good job on going to the Alanon meeting, it is good to be among people who understand what we are going thru. It is ok that you left, maybe next time you could stay a little longer… baby steps remember.
Smoking, not an easy one. I have not been able to quit, I am afraid I will gain more weight. I think once I get going with the exercise, I will be able to cut back, maybe even quit. One thing at a time, and now my focus is on getting better and exercise regularly.
About the Alanon meeting, I don’t think the alcohol is the one to blame, he treated you bad, and I bet it was not only when he was drunk. I think that an alcoholic is powerless over alcohol, they can’t control their drinking. The same way, you can’t control an alcoholic, you can’t control his drinking… what you can control is how long you stay there, how long you accept him treating you bad… You are right by being upset, even mad and angry… why?... because you have spent a long time feeling guilty, feeling that it was your fault, feeling that maybe you deserved it….. FINALLY YOU REALIZED THAT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, IT IS HIS FAULT. Believe it or not, being angry is a step forward.
Sorry to hear you are getting sick, but it will be a 3 days thing, and YOU ARE NOT going to get a sinus infection. Do not program yourself to get one.
You are doing good, you are doing good.
"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, it empties today of its strength." – Unknown
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Searunner;
You worked up to running regularly by doing it gradually. Thats a really good idea. I think in the past I would go from not really running at all to trying to run for 30minutes and that probabbly isn't the best way to go about it. I walk an hour to the gym and an hour back. Maybe I can start to add a little bit of running in that sense the way you did. Thank you for that idea.
Thats very fortunate that you aren't severely allergic. You carry around an Epipen i take it then?
I didn't know that the higher the fat the lower the lactose. I haven't even tried diffrent brands of yogurt to see what would work.
That friend is insensitive and can be very disrespectful and self-centered. I am starting to question and evaluate this friendship right now.
Thank you, ya it hurts a bit and I could be really stressed and exhausted and depressed and well I heard the words but it just still doesn't feel real for me. Its like a numb sort of thing. I guess I'm still processing it.
Mike
You worked up to running regularly by doing it gradually. Thats a really good idea. I think in the past I would go from not really running at all to trying to run for 30minutes and that probabbly isn't the best way to go about it. I walk an hour to the gym and an hour back. Maybe I can start to add a little bit of running in that sense the way you did. Thank you for that idea.
Thats very fortunate that you aren't severely allergic. You carry around an Epipen i take it then?
I didn't know that the higher the fat the lower the lactose. I haven't even tried diffrent brands of yogurt to see what would work.
That friend is insensitive and can be very disrespectful and self-centered. I am starting to question and evaluate this friendship right now.
Thank you, ya it hurts a bit and I could be really stressed and exhausted and depressed and well I heard the words but it just still doesn't feel real for me. Its like a numb sort of thing. I guess I'm still processing it.
Mike
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Jamie,
As Karen said, you should get one of those pill holders, the one that has for all days of the week. I started using one of those about a year ago, because with all the pills I take, I would forget if I already took a particular med or not. I fill it up once a week and I don’t have to worry about it. I also take vitamin C, probiotics, and a natural pill to help with my mood.
I would recommend the book “Eat, drink and be healthy”, it is written by a Harvard professor. It explains very clearly the best way to eat in order to be healthy.
You can cook a few thinks and freeze them. That is what I do, I like to have some chicken and ground beef already cooked and ready in the freezer, that way I only have to add some sauce, maybe some vegetables.
Hope
As Karen said, you should get one of those pill holders, the one that has for all days of the week. I started using one of those about a year ago, because with all the pills I take, I would forget if I already took a particular med or not. I fill it up once a week and I don’t have to worry about it. I also take vitamin C, probiotics, and a natural pill to help with my mood.
I would recommend the book “Eat, drink and be healthy”, it is written by a Harvard professor. It explains very clearly the best way to eat in order to be healthy.
You can cook a few thinks and freeze them. That is what I do, I like to have some chicken and ground beef already cooked and ready in the freezer, that way I only have to add some sauce, maybe some vegetables.
Hope
"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, it empties today of its strength." – Unknown
Mike,
I have heard about eating something fresh before a meal. The way I learned it is that if you eat a fresh fruit or a salad before your meal, that helps with the enzymes needed for digestion. I also learned about food combinations, but there is a lot of controversy about it. Mainly the idea is not to combine meat and fine carbs in the same meal. So, you have a salad or fruit, then some vegetables and meat OR vegetables and pasta, for example. I did that for a while and I not only lost weight, but also I didn’t feel full/sick.
Other theories suggest to not combine fruits with any other food, because if affects the digestion of the fruit.
I stopped drinking soda (always diet) because I started drinking tea, I found some “calming” teas, so I started drinking that. Once I tried to drink soda again, I realized that it made me feel like I had a UTI, which is not a nice feeling, that also happened with canned juice. So now I only drink tea, water and CAFIX (coffee substitute no caffeine). From time to time I make some “crystal light”, but only the ones that have no caffeine. I stopped the caffeine because I realize that it was making me anxious. I first changed to decaf coffee, and after a while I found the coffee substitute.
For the treadmill I have my DS9 videos… Yes, I am a Star Trek Fan… My favorite is Deep Space 9, so I play one episode while on the treadmill… it is like a reward, I only watch DS9 if I am on the treadmill.
THH
Good job on painting the room, I love to paint, it gives the house a look of new
I have heard about eating something fresh before a meal. The way I learned it is that if you eat a fresh fruit or a salad before your meal, that helps with the enzymes needed for digestion. I also learned about food combinations, but there is a lot of controversy about it. Mainly the idea is not to combine meat and fine carbs in the same meal. So, you have a salad or fruit, then some vegetables and meat OR vegetables and pasta, for example. I did that for a while and I not only lost weight, but also I didn’t feel full/sick.
Other theories suggest to not combine fruits with any other food, because if affects the digestion of the fruit.
I stopped drinking soda (always diet) because I started drinking tea, I found some “calming” teas, so I started drinking that. Once I tried to drink soda again, I realized that it made me feel like I had a UTI, which is not a nice feeling, that also happened with canned juice. So now I only drink tea, water and CAFIX (coffee substitute no caffeine). From time to time I make some “crystal light”, but only the ones that have no caffeine. I stopped the caffeine because I realize that it was making me anxious. I first changed to decaf coffee, and after a while I found the coffee substitute.
For the treadmill I have my DS9 videos… Yes, I am a Star Trek Fan… My favorite is Deep Space 9, so I play one episode while on the treadmill… it is like a reward, I only watch DS9 if I am on the treadmill.
THH
Good job on painting the room, I love to paint, it gives the house a look of new
"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, it empties today of its strength." – Unknown
SeaRunner,
The whole showing horses really has lots of life lessons. I try to remember them and apply them to my life now days even though so many things have changed. Some things have not.
I have not seen arrogant people stay that way for very long!
I'm so glad to hear you being comfortable with yourself and happy that you are you! That is how it "should" be! Good for you, it was a big challenge you had to face and you did it!
The whole showing horses really has lots of life lessons. I try to remember them and apply them to my life now days even though so many things have changed. Some things have not.
I have not seen arrogant people stay that way for very long!
I'm so glad to hear you being comfortable with yourself and happy that you are you! That is how it "should" be! Good for you, it was a big challenge you had to face and you did it!
Mike,
I think I too tend to be hard on myself. Lack confidence at times.I am doing better though. I have to depend on myself more to strengthen my confidence that I can do this.
Yes the program has helped me. It has made me realize that MY thinking negative thoughts all day long was making me sick.
As I said before, I never thought of myself as being negative. So it pointed out what those thoughts could be. You helped as well as others on this forum by posting and me reading all the great things people shared on this site. The group sessions were great hearing other people talk about things that I would never say openly about what I was thinking or doing. Then it hit home.
I noticed that I can control a panic attack! I knew in the past when I would take zanix I could tell the second it made me relax, it kicked in. I could tell that was just what my body needed to do. My stomach got better, my IBS got better, I could deal with everyone's problems with out getting upset. So I knew if I could just figure out how to do it mentally with my mind I would not need the zanax. But I could not put it into thoughts, words or what ever. That is what the program did for me. It broke all this down into pieces that took time for me to understand,(still digesting much of it) but when I got something I really got it. It was very great and I figured out where to use this piece and that. It is on going for me, as everyone, but it is a big start with great results.
I have changed so many things its hard to remember them all. Mostly again, being positive. I can wake up with a thought, Oh another crummy day, raining, cold, everything aches, feel like I didn't get enough sleep. To Thank you GOD for another day, I can see good, I can walk even with a limp, I can eat, swallow, breath. Thank you for my warm house, a great husband to share my life with, fun critters to play with and business to pay my bills. I am blessed.
I am still growing, but I have grown though, again, just by having a positive out look, going places, being with people, looking out for my self, setting myself up better for all the different challenges life brings my way.
That brings improvement on my confidence issue.
How about you? Has the program helped you? What things have you changed, grown though improved on and feel more confident about?
Oh Mike, so sorry to hear about the loss of your Great Aunt. Its okay that your not all upset. You didn't have a really close relationship. Once a year is hard to keep a bond going. It is Okay.
On a side note. I entered a contest at our bank, "pet Idol" you enter a picture (any pet, I did my dogs) with your donation to the local shelter. They pick 3 pictures from each branch, then pick 3 winners from all the branches. The contest ended Sept.
today at my bank, they said I have a honorable mention. I don't know what that means. we will see. Maybe nuttin! LOL...
The winners get their dogs picture on the deposit envelopes! And a gift card to Pet Smart. I'll post more when I know.
I think I too tend to be hard on myself. Lack confidence at times.I am doing better though. I have to depend on myself more to strengthen my confidence that I can do this.
Yes the program has helped me. It has made me realize that MY thinking negative thoughts all day long was making me sick.
As I said before, I never thought of myself as being negative. So it pointed out what those thoughts could be. You helped as well as others on this forum by posting and me reading all the great things people shared on this site. The group sessions were great hearing other people talk about things that I would never say openly about what I was thinking or doing. Then it hit home.
I noticed that I can control a panic attack! I knew in the past when I would take zanix I could tell the second it made me relax, it kicked in. I could tell that was just what my body needed to do. My stomach got better, my IBS got better, I could deal with everyone's problems with out getting upset. So I knew if I could just figure out how to do it mentally with my mind I would not need the zanax. But I could not put it into thoughts, words or what ever. That is what the program did for me. It broke all this down into pieces that took time for me to understand,(still digesting much of it) but when I got something I really got it. It was very great and I figured out where to use this piece and that. It is on going for me, as everyone, but it is a big start with great results.
I have changed so many things its hard to remember them all. Mostly again, being positive. I can wake up with a thought, Oh another crummy day, raining, cold, everything aches, feel like I didn't get enough sleep. To Thank you GOD for another day, I can see good, I can walk even with a limp, I can eat, swallow, breath. Thank you for my warm house, a great husband to share my life with, fun critters to play with and business to pay my bills. I am blessed.
I am still growing, but I have grown though, again, just by having a positive out look, going places, being with people, looking out for my self, setting myself up better for all the different challenges life brings my way.
That brings improvement on my confidence issue.
How about you? Has the program helped you? What things have you changed, grown though improved on and feel more confident about?
Oh Mike, so sorry to hear about the loss of your Great Aunt. Its okay that your not all upset. You didn't have a really close relationship. Once a year is hard to keep a bond going. It is Okay.
On a side note. I entered a contest at our bank, "pet Idol" you enter a picture (any pet, I did my dogs) with your donation to the local shelter. They pick 3 pictures from each branch, then pick 3 winners from all the branches. The contest ended Sept.
today at my bank, they said I have a honorable mention. I don't know what that means. we will see. Maybe nuttin! LOL...
The winners get their dogs picture on the deposit envelopes! And a gift card to Pet Smart. I'll post more when I know.
Hi Everyone,
Avoiding caffeine and chocolate have really helped me. I loved iced tea and how good the fresh brewed tea made me feel. I was using it to elevate my mood too. But I found that it was making me feel edgy and having a faster heart rate. I loved chocolate too and can never stop with eating just one piece. I usually binge on it once I start. So it was difficult avoiding them both especially caffeine. But after a week, I stopped craving them. I feel a lot better. Eating too much chocolate also made me feel depressed. Not right away, but usually the next day. I can tolerate small amounts of sugar, but have found that it's easier just to avoid that too. I always feel good after exercise. It's like a natural anti-depressant.
Joe
Avoiding caffeine and chocolate have really helped me. I loved iced tea and how good the fresh brewed tea made me feel. I was using it to elevate my mood too. But I found that it was making me feel edgy and having a faster heart rate. I loved chocolate too and can never stop with eating just one piece. I usually binge on it once I start. So it was difficult avoiding them both especially caffeine. But after a week, I stopped craving them. I feel a lot better. Eating too much chocolate also made me feel depressed. Not right away, but usually the next day. I can tolerate small amounts of sugar, but have found that it's easier just to avoid that too. I always feel good after exercise. It's like a natural anti-depressant.
Joe
Hope,
For me I was a skinny little kid, most of my life. I could not gain a pound forever. I too was self conscience as when all the other girls had curves, I was straight! LOL...
Then 40's came, and now 50's I gained, I'm not really over weight but I could loose a few pounds and look better, maybe feel better too. I hated to exercise! Even though I was moving I wasn't doing exercise to exercise! Getting on a treadmill was like walking my dog in the basement!
We have actually been thinking about buying one, so maybe this winter we can encourage each other to get on it! LOL...
Maybe just go for walks. That is a start and it might give you more motivation. Its hard, I know. It can be a goal???
Have a good peaceful night.
For me I was a skinny little kid, most of my life. I could not gain a pound forever. I too was self conscience as when all the other girls had curves, I was straight! LOL...
Then 40's came, and now 50's I gained, I'm not really over weight but I could loose a few pounds and look better, maybe feel better too. I hated to exercise! Even though I was moving I wasn't doing exercise to exercise! Getting on a treadmill was like walking my dog in the basement!
We have actually been thinking about buying one, so maybe this winter we can encourage each other to get on it! LOL...
Maybe just go for walks. That is a start and it might give you more motivation. Its hard, I know. It can be a goal???
Have a good peaceful night.