uncomfortable with visitors

[Maria Angie]

My daughter comes to visit from out of state with her boyfriend. Then about 8 members of his family come over to visit and I am feeling uncomfortable. I feel if they wanted to visit he should have gone over there, I dont know his family and feel uncomfortable with them here. Am I wrong, or is he wrong to have so many of his family members come over my house to visit. I am not comfortable with a lot of company because I live alone and I am kind of an introvert. I think it is kind of inconsiderarte of him and his family...

[Guest]

Maria, This is alot of people to just SHOW up all of a sudden.. If you are verbal like I am, I would politely say...Oh my gosh, so many people all at once, can someone help me out here?
Absolutely NOT....dont let other people lead you to just think you are going to be THEIR MAID FOR A NIGHT...no way.. If it were a funeral or something serious, then its a different scenario....everyone must pull their weight...if they showed up without notice...then everyone has a job to do. If they are GOOD people they will understand...and I am sure they will. Dont let people walk all over you.

[Guest]

PS...someone should have notified you about these 8 people showing up. I would say "well lets see we have some leftovers from last night, or some hard cheese you can munch on with crackers, and I have some nice cold water out of the faucet....GEEZ.....IF they are considerate and thoughtful they will understand or pull one of them out of the group that seems sensible to discuss the matter and try to fiqure it out. There is always someone there in a group that has a head on their shoulders.

[Guest]

Maria Angie--
I also uncomfortable with visitors. For me it's not about the work I would be expected to do as 'hostess'. It's just people being in my home! I would have politely excused myself to leave my daughter with her guests and spent time in my own room while they visited.