One More Step

jillzmind · Post by **jillzmind** » Mon Sep 06, 2010 5:27 pm

I have had some setbacks recently but this morning when I tried to go back to bed I tossed and turned and then got up and showered and decided against a pity party and chose to refresh myself. I know it's a dumb thing since bathing is not a big deal but bathing just lifts your spirits when you get in that "I don't give a rats.. booty" about life mentality. Which is a struggle for me. So clean slate. New week. Bright hopeful future and pressing on ahead.

J~

SeaRunner · Post by **SeaRunner** » Mon Sep 06, 2010 9:27 pm

Jill -

Good for you! And I don't think bathing and getting yourself ready for the day is a small thing. It prepares your body and mind to be active and sets the tone that you expect to get things accomplished today. So by all means, make this a habit every morning whether you're going out or not.

Also don't limit yourself to "clean slate, new week." You can do this pretty much any hour of the day. If your day starts of bad, you still have the choice to get yourself out of bed and into the shower. Pardon the pun, but there's no reason to throw in the towel just because you aren't bathed and dressed by 8:00 AM.

Keep up the good attitude,
Jamie

berengar · Post by **berengar** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 12:11 am

Thank you all for your kind words. Yes, ending the engagement was the most difficult thing I've ever had to do (next to seeking out this program and facing the fears I have been running from since I was a child).

I will catch up with everyone soon. I am so busy at work this week and have a huge project to finish. I will definitely need to vent and unwind here by the end of the week!

Peace to everyone this week

berengar · Post by **berengar** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 12:41 am

One more thing before the busiest week of my life really begins... I must say that Searunner's post had a statement that really stuck out for me, one that I think we should all repeat to ourselves so it is completely ingrained in us:

'There's too much I've given up to accommodate false fears and untrue beliefs.'

I have found that repeating certain statements to myself until I TRULY believe them has been quite helpful. This one I found extra insightful.

SeaRunner · Post by **SeaRunner** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 2:42 am

Beranger -

Good luck with your week. Remember to give yourself at least a little time to relax and de-stress, if only for a few minutes. If nothing else it should at least help clear you mind for the next task at hand.

I'm glad you liked that sentence. Every once in a while I come up with something good...

Jamie

THH · Post by **THH** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 3:13 am

SeaRunner, Good point, on the relationship. I guess for me I was thinking of both partners being so involved we loose ourself. That is a little bit of me. My husband & I have worked out of our home, in a sucessful business for 25 years. It is good and all but it does present a set of its own challanges.
A good balance between personal time, business time & relationship time is the healthy way! And the challange! LOL...

I agree it was a huge step, and I'm thankful that I got to really feel it.

I'm looking forward to seeing what more we can learn and how we might better apply what we have already been practicing.

Well said, me too!

SeaRunner · Post by **SeaRunner** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 3:19 am

THH -

That's good that you not only recognized that you needed some personal time but that you also followed through. I can imagine how it could be difficult to live with, work with, and spend all of your free time with the same person. Hopefully you two get along really well!

Take care,
Jamie

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 4:26 am

yes having the skills and not using them is also not going to get you better, you need both things in order to recover.

I think Lucinda says it many times in the workbook as well as in the tapes. I believe she even mentions it in lesson 2.

go to find then go to advanced search...type in a word or couple of words like "relaxation" and then type in the name of the person in the author part.

Mike

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 4:58 am

Alright here is the first part thread for redoing the program challenge;

http://bbs.stresscenter.com/ev...7412001#543007412001

Mike

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Tue Sep 07, 2010 2:11 pm

Hello everyone !

The past few weeks have been good ones ! There was definitely trying times, but for the most part, I'm winning. I haven't started back to WW yet, but I'm doing good following the old books at home ! If I find that I'm slipping, I'll go back.

As for the goal of not caring what people think....... SUCCESS !!!!!!! I went into work today and completely stayed away from the gossip, backstabbing and bad attitudes and stepped into my own little world. When it came to work related stuff, I was in the conversations, but once the 5 year old came out in everyone, I stepped back and stepped away. I no longer care for that stuff. It's those things that make the work environment poor. I choose to live my life the way I need to to keep it as stress free as possible. I feel that my work in general has improved too. It wasn't bad before, but I can see it getting better everyday. When I make mistakes at work, I don't beat myself up anymore either. THAT was a tough one to work through.

I've been getting plenty of exercise around the house. I'm goiong to be gutting the bathroom and closet off my bedroom and re-doing them. I'll get in plenty of exercise doing that.

Overall, I think that my health and attitude have improved quite a bit......I still have my moments, but they are fewer and farther between.

I did have something happen last Friday. I made a doctor and an eye doctor appointment. I'm hoping it's nothing. I get the beginning sympoms of a migraine about once every few months(eye sparkles, kaliedoscope vision, lighting bolts nausea etc) but this time it was different. I never get the actual headache. It all stops after the beginning symptoms. Evidentally, that's quite common. This time it kind of scared me. I lost partial vision in one eye. It came back after 20 minutes. I just want to make sure that everything's going to stay ok.

New goal........ummmmmmm.....I'll think about that one.

Hope everyone is doing well and is staying on course !