THH -
Thanks for the nice comments. I love how much support we give and receive on this site. It's very encouraging and motivating.
Jilly -
You're so crazy (in a good way). Dance away!
FY06 -
Keep fighting. There will always be hills and valleys. Try not to let the downs keep you down. As long as you are willing to keep trying and taking risks, you're guaranteed to improve. It may take time, but you'll get there.
Jamie
One More Step
I think Searunner hit the nail on the head... 'I am fully capable of dealing with a panic attack...I am safe wherever I go and whoever I'm with, including being alone.'
I need to remind myself that a panic attack won't hurt me and that spacey feelings are ok to have. I am not abnormal for feeling them, and I can float through them. Over a year ago I got really good at this, but then had a huge break from anxiety. So, when life became stressful recently, I hadn't practiced my skills recently enough to deal with these feelings properly. I think this is just a wake-up call that I need to slow down and stop thinking I can take on so much.
I sometimes wish there was a more private forum for us members where the general public couldn't view our comments since there are things I would like to get all of your feedback on, but can't because I wouldn't want anyone I know to be able to identify me!
Keep up the great work everyone!
I need to remind myself that a panic attack won't hurt me and that spacey feelings are ok to have. I am not abnormal for feeling them, and I can float through them. Over a year ago I got really good at this, but then had a huge break from anxiety. So, when life became stressful recently, I hadn't practiced my skills recently enough to deal with these feelings properly. I think this is just a wake-up call that I need to slow down and stop thinking I can take on so much.
I sometimes wish there was a more private forum for us members where the general public couldn't view our comments since there are things I would like to get all of your feedback on, but can't because I wouldn't want anyone I know to be able to identify me!
Keep up the great work everyone!
Beranger -
I wish I could take credit for the statement, but I was just repackaging Lucinda's guidance that "I am my own safe person, I am my own safe place." But it's good advice however it's worded.
Like you, I also went through a long time of feeling "normal". This is my second bout of high anxiety with agoraphobia. During the good times, I let my skills slip away thinking I would never need them again. But I'm realizing that the things we are learning are tools we need to keep in use all the time, probably for the rest of our lives.
This is not a bad thing. These skills are healthy and are beneficial all of the time. In fact, I would recommend much of them to people that don't suffer from an anxiety disorder just to deal with daily stress. I now am viewing my anxiety skills like a car engine: if I want to keep myself in top working order, I need to do maintenance. This most certainly includes the times I'm feeling my best as well as when I'm having trouble.
Jamie
I wish I could take credit for the statement, but I was just repackaging Lucinda's guidance that "I am my own safe person, I am my own safe place." But it's good advice however it's worded.
Like you, I also went through a long time of feeling "normal". This is my second bout of high anxiety with agoraphobia. During the good times, I let my skills slip away thinking I would never need them again. But I'm realizing that the things we are learning are tools we need to keep in use all the time, probably for the rest of our lives.
This is not a bad thing. These skills are healthy and are beneficial all of the time. In fact, I would recommend much of them to people that don't suffer from an anxiety disorder just to deal with daily stress. I now am viewing my anxiety skills like a car engine: if I want to keep myself in top working order, I need to do maintenance. This most certainly includes the times I'm feeling my best as well as when I'm having trouble.
Jamie
"Common things occur commonly. Uncommon things don't. Therefore, when you hear hoofbeats, think horses, not zebras." -- C.J. Peters
Thanks Berengar amd THH for your responses to my post about driving and my horse. Sometimes I have trouble finding the place I posted to see responses.
My horse did founder, 3 years ago- she had had trouble with white line disease and going bare foot had been suggested to me since where I live is constant rain and mud from Nov. to May. So I made the decision to use these bare foot trimmers that did a "modified Stausser Trim" on her. She suffered a severe road founder, and has had trouble ever since. I feel guilt, tremendous guilt for this. Especially since the trimmers kept telling me the pain she was having was a normal transition from shoes to bare foot and I believed them. I didn't have them stop trimming her until after the Vet came to do spring shots and told me in no uncertain terms that my horse was foundering, not transitioning.
I'm so angry at those trimmers, I thought about suing but I didn't feel I could face that.
Our personality traits set us up for anxiety, I believe this. My low self esteem also sets me up to be gulible, to value someone elses judgement over mine. I thought she would heal eventually, this is going to be very hard to forgive myaelf for.
My horse did founder, 3 years ago- she had had trouble with white line disease and going bare foot had been suggested to me since where I live is constant rain and mud from Nov. to May. So I made the decision to use these bare foot trimmers that did a "modified Stausser Trim" on her. She suffered a severe road founder, and has had trouble ever since. I feel guilt, tremendous guilt for this. Especially since the trimmers kept telling me the pain she was having was a normal transition from shoes to bare foot and I believed them. I didn't have them stop trimming her until after the Vet came to do spring shots and told me in no uncertain terms that my horse was foundering, not transitioning.
I'm so angry at those trimmers, I thought about suing but I didn't feel I could face that.
Our personality traits set us up for anxiety, I believe this. My low self esteem also sets me up to be gulible, to value someone elses judgement over mine. I thought she would heal eventually, this is going to be very hard to forgive myaelf for.
Lindalee, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Many people have been "duped" by this barefoot trimming fad. These trimmers prey on people, trying to get them to do whats best for thier horse. Unfortunately these trimmers have been brain washed that all shoeing is bad for horses and thier way is the only way to do it. We have seen many people use these trimmers, and it seams that the horses are always lame. A horse should NOT be lame after it is trimmed. They cover up thier ineptude by saying its noraml to be sore. On rare occasions when someone changes the angle on a horse, or pulls off shoes after having them on for a long period of time, they sometimes maybe a little "ouchie" for a couple of days.
I imagine that your vet may have already recommended a compentent Farrier who works the area where you live. If he has not, ask him who deals well with founder situations. Unfortunately as you probably know this may become costly. As ideally it would be benifical to have some recent x-rays to see the depth of sole, amount of rotation, ETC. However, an expericanced Farrier maybe be able to read his foot well enough to help your horse. Be up front with the vet & Farrier that cost at this time is a very real issue. Is the white lines cleared up? You need a good structure to help hold the coffin bone in place. For white lines, usually the farrier debride's the affected part And can be then treated with a product called "Clean-trax".
We usually "start" a horse in shoes, a thick leather pad with silocone packing for passive frog support for laminitis. However, your farrier who has seen the horse may have some other ideas for the best interest of your horse. If the horse was to go barefoot though, its inperative to have as much depth of sole as possible. I hope this helps you and that you can find someone to help you with your horse.
Yes our personality trait does set us up, but doing this program will help how to deal with this weekness in a way that we set ourselves up better to have a positive outcome. Remember "gut" instint rules, or should get a second look anyway. Don't beat yourself up over all this with your horse. You were trusting that things were being handled properly. Let me know how it goes, My best to you.
I imagine that your vet may have already recommended a compentent Farrier who works the area where you live. If he has not, ask him who deals well with founder situations. Unfortunately as you probably know this may become costly. As ideally it would be benifical to have some recent x-rays to see the depth of sole, amount of rotation, ETC. However, an expericanced Farrier maybe be able to read his foot well enough to help your horse. Be up front with the vet & Farrier that cost at this time is a very real issue. Is the white lines cleared up? You need a good structure to help hold the coffin bone in place. For white lines, usually the farrier debride's the affected part And can be then treated with a product called "Clean-trax".
We usually "start" a horse in shoes, a thick leather pad with silocone packing for passive frog support for laminitis. However, your farrier who has seen the horse may have some other ideas for the best interest of your horse. If the horse was to go barefoot though, its inperative to have as much depth of sole as possible. I hope this helps you and that you can find someone to help you with your horse.
Yes our personality trait does set us up, but doing this program will help how to deal with this weekness in a way that we set ourselves up better to have a positive outcome. Remember "gut" instint rules, or should get a second look anyway. Don't beat yourself up over all this with your horse. You were trusting that things were being handled properly. Let me know how it goes, My best to you.
berengar, That alone, being your own safe person is a big deal. It is for me, anyway. When I really felt like I got that it really helped me. I spend alot of time alone.
You did good in realizing the wake up call. Its so easy to feel good and fall back into the old thinking pattern. Its hard to keep all those thoughts penned up and put away forever!Be kind to yourself!
I know what you mean with the general public, I don't really like it either. They do have email, and private messages if you ever want to try that.
Searunner, I agree. I never really could figure things out on my own, but using these skills they are so beneficial to use to work out whats bothering me. I also like knowing that I am not alone. That was really a big one for me. I was afraid to say what I was thinking. Its a journey thats all.
You did good in realizing the wake up call. Its so easy to feel good and fall back into the old thinking pattern. Its hard to keep all those thoughts penned up and put away forever!Be kind to yourself!
I know what you mean with the general public, I don't really like it either. They do have email, and private messages if you ever want to try that.
Searunner, I agree. I never really could figure things out on my own, but using these skills they are so beneficial to use to work out whats bothering me. I also like knowing that I am not alone. That was really a big one for me. I was afraid to say what I was thinking. Its a journey thats all.
Jamie,
great analogy with the car engine, and very true that even people who don't suffer anxiety would do well with these skills. It's so easy to forget them when you don't think you need them for a while. I am trying to make myself little reminders to stay connected with these tools, even in good times!
THH,
thank you... Searunner sent me instructions on how to set up private conversations. I think I was just being lazy before
Lindalee,
you can subsribe to this area and you will get an email any time someone posts something new. The email will give you a hyperlink to click on that will bring you right to the new message. At the very top of this webpage, click on the 'Notify' tab, which will allow you to subscribe so you don't have to keep locating this series. You can then save one of the emails in your inbox so you have the hyperlink handy in the event you want to post something right away instead of waiting for someone else to post in order for you to get the notification.
Subscribing to this area gives me a constant email reminder to keep working on my skills.
great analogy with the car engine, and very true that even people who don't suffer anxiety would do well with these skills. It's so easy to forget them when you don't think you need them for a while. I am trying to make myself little reminders to stay connected with these tools, even in good times!
THH,
thank you... Searunner sent me instructions on how to set up private conversations. I think I was just being lazy before
Lindalee,
you can subsribe to this area and you will get an email any time someone posts something new. The email will give you a hyperlink to click on that will bring you right to the new message. At the very top of this webpage, click on the 'Notify' tab, which will allow you to subscribe so you don't have to keep locating this series. You can then save one of the emails in your inbox so you have the hyperlink handy in the event you want to post something right away instead of waiting for someone else to post in order for you to get the notification.
Subscribing to this area gives me a constant email reminder to keep working on my skills.
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I'm on vacation this week and I'm getting lazier by the day. I had every intention of going for my walk at the river this morning, but I decided to kick back in front of the TV and channel surf. I didn't even do that ! I fell asleep instead. I prefer to do my walk early in the morning, so right now, I'm making a promise that tomorrow morning, I will get out of bed at 7:00am, get dressed and go for my walk at the river. I will do this Wednesday, Friday and Sunday morning. There ......now I'm comittied.........oh boy.........
I guess this afternoon, I'll get up off my butt and mow the front and back yard....AND pull the weeds. .........wish me luck.
I guess this afternoon, I'll get up off my butt and mow the front and back yard....AND pull the weeds. .........wish me luck.