gopens,
just reading your posts....I am fired up for you. Sounds like things are going great. I just wanted to throw a thought out for you. If you have an ipod or mp3 player, use that on your walks. I like to listen to the sessions while I am walking. It keeps me focused and thinking about working on my anxiety and staying stronger than it. Hope that helps!
Some ups and some downs
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So Friday, I went to lunch with a couple friends which has been very hard for me over the past few years. The restaurant was not busy at all, but still a nice feeling to do that. Then after lunch me and my roommate went to the local Christian store to buy me a new book. Gods so awesome. Even when I get anxious, I have to remember Jesus has full control of EVERYTHING.
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gopens-
I'm so glad for you. For the strides you are making because you are TRYING to use the info. that you have learned. You can't get better if you don't try. And you can always try again-- it's not a contest.
I, for one, love to hear the updates.
Do you practice the relaxation CD so you know what proper breathing is? I used to feel anxiety, etc. sometimes when walking, and so often I will listen to a radio program when I take the dog out or something. That way, the program is a surprise and I have to pay attention to it to know what is going on. I like to listen to talk radio and focus on the conversations. I forget about myself that way. If I go running, I listen to music usually.
I'm glad you got your pork and vinegar and went out to dinner with friends. You are really making strides.
I'm so glad for you. For the strides you are making because you are TRYING to use the info. that you have learned. You can't get better if you don't try. And you can always try again-- it's not a contest.
I, for one, love to hear the updates.
Do you practice the relaxation CD so you know what proper breathing is? I used to feel anxiety, etc. sometimes when walking, and so often I will listen to a radio program when I take the dog out or something. That way, the program is a surprise and I have to pay attention to it to know what is going on. I like to listen to talk radio and focus on the conversations. I forget about myself that way. If I go running, I listen to music usually.
I'm glad you got your pork and vinegar and went out to dinner with friends. You are really making strides.
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I just registered ... frankly I had to write to you!
I just wanted to tell you that I think your posts are terrific and it gave ME the drive to dust off my anxiety tapes, books etc. and see if I can make a change (one of which would also be a 100 pound weight loss!)
Thanks for helping to inspire me.
I just wanted to tell you that I think your posts are terrific and it gave ME the drive to dust off my anxiety tapes, books etc. and see if I can make a change (one of which would also be a 100 pound weight loss!)
Thanks for helping to inspire me.
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So over the past couple days I have been feeling pretty good. Anxiety is nice and low. I am making sure I at least do something every single day that challenges the anxiety even if its just small.
Sunday me and my girlfriend went for a pretty long drove out in the country to where if something bad would of happened to me, there is no way an ambulance would of made it to me before I killed over. But the good news is I didn't die. haha
I make sure to get out and drive EVERY SINGLE DAY. Even if its just 3 miles into town; which is becoming pretty easy to do. Just 3 months ago or so, I could not go into town at all. So I am happy about that for sure.
@mlgbluet. Welcome to the boards. Glad you decided to dust off the tapes and dig in. They are so worth it. I bought the tapes originally back in 1997. I made it through tape 3 and started to feel better and stopped. Bad decision.
Its important to go through all the tapes. I finished the program a couple weeks ago and I started to do the set all over again just because its kind of like a movie you watch. Every time you watch that same movie, you always catch something in it that you didn't see the last time. I will make these tapes a daily routine for the rest of my life.
As far as the weight lose goes, just remember you can do it. Its hard at first but once you start seeing results, its addictive. It feels so good to fit in smaller clothes. Keep your head up and stay positive. God Bless to all
Sunday me and my girlfriend went for a pretty long drove out in the country to where if something bad would of happened to me, there is no way an ambulance would of made it to me before I killed over. But the good news is I didn't die. haha
I make sure to get out and drive EVERY SINGLE DAY. Even if its just 3 miles into town; which is becoming pretty easy to do. Just 3 months ago or so, I could not go into town at all. So I am happy about that for sure.
@mlgbluet. Welcome to the boards. Glad you decided to dust off the tapes and dig in. They are so worth it. I bought the tapes originally back in 1997. I made it through tape 3 and started to feel better and stopped. Bad decision.
Its important to go through all the tapes. I finished the program a couple weeks ago and I started to do the set all over again just because its kind of like a movie you watch. Every time you watch that same movie, you always catch something in it that you didn't see the last time. I will make these tapes a daily routine for the rest of my life.
As far as the weight lose goes, just remember you can do it. Its hard at first but once you start seeing results, its addictive. It feels so good to fit in smaller clothes. Keep your head up and stay positive. God Bless to all
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Well today has not been a great day.
I am in a relationship that is not good--and has not been for about 4 years or so. To be honest, it has been terrible. I am just afraid to be a lone. I am scared that, even though I am getting better, I will not have her to help me run errands if I feel anxious. So I keep her around; even though she is not the one for me.
Its just hard to let her go and take all the pressure of just being 100% fine and doing EVERYTHING on my own. I don't think we are suppose to be afraid to swim, then just jump into the deep-end, right??
I think its a slow exposure thing, and I have been doing that.
I don't know. Its just hard to deal with. I am staying positive and using positive self-talk.
I am in a relationship that is not good--and has not been for about 4 years or so. To be honest, it has been terrible. I am just afraid to be a lone. I am scared that, even though I am getting better, I will not have her to help me run errands if I feel anxious. So I keep her around; even though she is not the one for me.
Its just hard to let her go and take all the pressure of just being 100% fine and doing EVERYTHING on my own. I don't think we are suppose to be afraid to swim, then just jump into the deep-end, right??
I think its a slow exposure thing, and I have been doing that.
I don't know. Its just hard to deal with. I am staying positive and using positive self-talk.
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Yikes- that is a big revelation. I think probably cutting the relationship off cold turkey is not the best for your anxiety. You are doing well in practicing your skills and bettering your life. Did you continue to pursue the job thing?
I guess doing more and more on your own is the way to go. And then you are going to have to jump out of the nest. Have you talked to her at all? If the relationship has been terrible, then maybe being free of it and free of the obligations will be just the thing to get the wind under your wings. Remember how you said that the real fear you have is being embarassed?? Is that deadly or just uncomfortable?? You have accomplished so much and bettered yourself a ton from what you have posted. Don't quit on yourself now and settle. I think you just being able to write about this and think about it and see it from a rational perspective for the truth that it is is a huge, mature step in being a healthy person. You are on your way and you have run face to face into a crutch that you are now recognizing.
I pray God's blessings and peace on decisions that you will be wrestling with.
I guess doing more and more on your own is the way to go. And then you are going to have to jump out of the nest. Have you talked to her at all? If the relationship has been terrible, then maybe being free of it and free of the obligations will be just the thing to get the wind under your wings. Remember how you said that the real fear you have is being embarassed?? Is that deadly or just uncomfortable?? You have accomplished so much and bettered yourself a ton from what you have posted. Don't quit on yourself now and settle. I think you just being able to write about this and think about it and see it from a rational perspective for the truth that it is is a huge, mature step in being a healthy person. You are on your way and you have run face to face into a crutch that you are now recognizing.
I pray God's blessings and peace on decisions that you will be wrestling with.
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Yeah ending the relationship is just tough for me right now. At the same time, I hate to waste my time in this relationship. I am 33 and I need to get on with my life. I do love her and she is a good person. But we just don't get along as a couple. Its not her fault or my fault. We are just stubborn people and that does not work when both are head-strong like us. hahaOriginally posted by newrunner:
Yikes- that is a big revelation. I think probably cutting the relationship off cold turkey is not the best for your anxiety. You are doing well in practicing your skills and bettering your life. Did you continue to pursue the job thing?
I guess doing more and more on your own is the way to go. And then you are going to have to jump out of the nest. Have you talked to her at all? If the relationship has been terrible, then maybe being free of it and free of the obligations will be just the thing to get the wind under your wings. Remember how you said that the real fear you have is being embarassed?? Is that deadly or just uncomfortable?? You have accomplished so much and bettered yourself a ton from what you have posted. Don't quit on yourself now and settle. I think you just being able to write about this and think about it and see it from a rational perspective for the truth that it is is a huge, mature step in being a healthy person. You are on your way and you have run face to face into a crutch that you are now recognizing.
I pray God's blessings and peace on decisions that you will be wrestling with.
Theres not much really going on with that job right now. I have been it touch with the big wigs. They still want me, but it might not not be for another month or two; which works great for me to get just that much better. I pray I become a stronger person and am able to take this job. But we have to remember its all Gods will, right? Gods working on me and I will be where he wants me to be.
Whats funny is I know that when I am over this stupid anxiety, I will be way better off then a person that has never really dealt with this anxiety stuff before--because I (and all of you) learn life skills that really help us with daily bumps in the road. Its kind of weird to say this, but in a way I am blessed to have been dealt this condition. Because of this anxiety I have tightened up my walk with the Lord.
So who knows, maybe God saw me really straying away and decided to grab me, put me in his arms, and just love me like he does to all. Who knows. But I will be a better person.
I know there will be many ups and downs. But with the program and most importantly God, I will be just fine
Heres a great son I have always liked. Check it out. God Bless
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xi0yLRX4d2M
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