How Do You Deal with Disappointment, Frustration, Feeling Down, Minimal Expectations

Kathie C. · Post by **Kathie C.** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 3:25 am

Am just reading that our success at nearly anything comes mostly from our own self-image. We feel we have self-worth, especially if we have a relationship with God; but do we have CONFIDENCE in that feeling? People who do, seem to be magnets for having things handed to them on a silver platter. Ever notice that? (Yeah, I hate it too, when I feel like my past is one big failure). But I don't allow those thoughts to linger or play out any more. I always thought I was a magnet for failure and unhappiness. But if I focus in a more positive direction, I can remember many blessings that were miracles in my past--totally unexpected out-of-the blue blessings when I was about to give up. We've got to find self-acceptance, confidence, and our troubles will mostly take care of themselves. We are not doomed to a life of unhappiness and failure. When you realize how old this program of Lucinda's is and listen to those who went through it so many years ago and are still doing well, that's proof. So let's focus on our potential--not our limitations.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Thu Jul 22, 2010 1:12 pm

Thanks for the responses. I am feeling tired will be crashing early. I have an interview tomorrow. I will reply in detail during the weekend.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:30 am

Originally posted by THH:
Oh good on the distractions!!!
I always seam to find comfort in nature. Nature always takes care of its self. Kittens are a riot. Too bad they grow up! LOL...

I too hae been spun up, this heat is enough to stress out anyone. I have some big events this weekend and its going to get hotter?! 100*!I know this will pass and I'm reasuring my self this is not the first hot spell I've lived in. But I can relate.

Sorry they are passing on you, but remember that maybe it was not the best job for you. There is something better that will come your way.

I think we get desprate for something / anything and focus on it and get all disapointed when it don't happen or take what we can find just to get working again.

My Brother in law who I told you got hired? He was laid off again! That too was stressful for him, they were working him 10 hours a day. Hes getting too old for 10 hour days, plus the stress of learning a new job.

Something will come to you try to relax and wait it out.
Good for you too on the no salery deal, thats not right.
Maybe that was not from the Lord? LOL...Keep your feelers out there!

HE GOT LAID OFF AGAIN???!!!

OMG! He just hired! I am sorry. I know you said about the stress and the 10 hrs. Is this their reason for letting him go?

Yeah, I love the kittens. And you're right: too bad they grow up. That's how I feel about my favorite niece; I'd like to keep her small forever.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:37 am

Originally posted by Kathie C.:
Am just reading that our success at nearly anything comes mostly from our own self-image. We feel we have self-worth, especially if we have a relationship with God; but do we have CONFIDENCE in that feeling? People who do, seem to be magnets for having things handed to them on a silver platter. Ever notice that? (Yeah, I hate it too, when I feel like my past is one big failure). But I don't allow those thoughts to linger or play out any more. I always thought I was a magnet for failure and unhappiness. But if I focus in a more positive direction, I can remember many blessings that were miracles in my past--totally unexpected out-of-the blue blessings when I was about to give up. We've got to find self-acceptance, confidence, and our troubles will mostly take care of themselves. We are not doomed to a life of unhappiness and failure. When you realize how old this program of Lucinda's is and listen to those who went through it so many years ago and are still doing well, that's proof. So let's focus on our potential--not our limitations.

Great post, Kathie C.

I have never been one to get things on a silver platter. Or a plastic one. I am always getting things delayed, altered, or never. It seems like God always has a lesson for me instead of or way ahead of what I want. Honestly, He can keep the lessons.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:44 am

Originally posted by Mrs T Bones:
Hi Charlie Brown ,
Everything is going to be just fine, just you wait and see!!! Patience builds character, my friend!!! If God be for you, who can be against you???

Have a great night's rest knowing that the Creator of every single thing you see has it all under control!!! He fights our battles for us!!!

May God richly bless you Charlie !!! Cloie

Thanks for thinking of me before sleeping.

Sometimes I wish God wasn't for me. I am tired of the need for patience and His character lessons (ex: inner strength, overcoming depression.) It seems like He always has to have me go through long delays/frustration/rejection/etc before granting me what I want. How about just granting what I ask for (success with my project, and a job) instead always tacking on some lesson?

I had a conversation with another friend (not the one that had OCD). This other friend has parallel situations to mine, and he also wondered like have. I am trying to be like him, because he's pretty much let go of the questioning. I am now just a little riled up about the interview I was just on.

Thanks again, T.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:51 am

I just came back from a job interview. It wasn't one of my better ones but we'll see.

One the job application I had to fill out before the interview, there was a line where I had to fill out my SS #. I wasn't thrilled by it for identify theft concern. I filled it out, but it still sticks in my craw. The company is a mult-million entity but I am still concerned about ID theft. I did not say anything to the managers I spoke with but I didn't want it to appear that I had something to hide. (Granted, I could have voiced my concern about ID theft).

Anyone know about companies asking for your SS #during the interview process or on a job app--is this legal? Can you voice your concern and not fill it out? Will this offset the interview process?

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:52 am

I did a quick reply last night because I was SLIGHTLY under the weather. I just wanted to crash early and be fine for today's interview.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 8:14 am

Mrs T Bones ! - Glad to see you're looking after Chuck........he needs all the help he can get ! LOL (.....just kidding Chuck).

Chuck - I've never been asked for personal info until after I've been hired. If it's a big company you've applied to, it may be different. On the other hand, I went to go for testing about 7 years ago to apply to a college here and they asked me for my info and I gave it to them. They acutally photocopied my birth certificate and SS #. Check the Better Business Bureau and see if there's ever been any reports on them as far as that stuff goes. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Sun Jul 25, 2010 12:49 pm

Thanks for the replies Cloie and man.

I just got back from my wife and I spending the weekend at my brother-in-law's. It was a wonderful mini vacation since I spent alot of time with my beloved niece. Late this afternoon, my thoughts went south.

It hit me that I hate myself for what I did, or precisely I didn't do: save my money when I was younger. All of this job and project crap would be avoided and/or alleviated if I had saved. I thought I had forgiven myself for this. Apparently I am wrong. Maybe one day I will truly forgive myself.

As for God: He can do what He likes. It comes down to that (if you're a Christian): He does/doesn't do when He wants/doesn't want. I don't care anymore. I am just along for the ride; it's His train and He's the engineer. I will keep striving, and working at my project and looking for a job, but I know He isn't going to make it easy for me. He never has. With Him it's always delays for some self-improvement educational reason.

But I still give praise. I don't remember from where the quote is but it goes something like "Even though he [smite] me, I will still give praise."

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 4:20 am

Thank you, Cloie.