Already "What If" Thinking
I received the program in the mail last Friday and started in on Saturday. I have listened to session 1, understood it all, am really happy to be in the program, but already I am asking "What if this doesn't work for me". What a defeatest attitude! I feel like I am pinning all my hopes on this program, and I don't want to set myself up to fail. Anyone else feel like this?
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Guest
Hi Penny, I think I felt the same way when I started the program back in October '09. The program was a great help to me but not my only source. I also read other books, prayed ALOT, read the Bible, etc. I do believe the program is a great tool to help overcome anxiety issues and would highly recommend it to anyone looking for help. Just take one day at a time and you will see change. 
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Hi Penny!
I do the same thing--and then I think I'm being reasonable by Expecting To Be CURED right now. Or soon. Or forever!
And then I lose all hope and give up...I become either all or nothing, and that's really how I self-sabotage what I truly want--which is just to feel better about myself and life, and to just actually be able to do any of the things I want to do.
Please don't worry to much about feeling anxious. What you're feeling is really common but the truth is, that it's a gradual process and that ANY progress, no matter how small or large, IS worthwhile...and the successes add up over time.. I always have scared myself away by thinking , 'omg, what if I can be cured and I'm still an awful human being?' or something equally as self-defeating...
Try breaking down your package in smaller parts; if you can only manage to do 1 cd, or just read a couple pages, then just do that and build up slowly...I've just started too, and I'm still avoiding some of the exercises, so my goal right now is just to do one or two things in the program every day--and make it a habit until I can pick up a little more steam...And I can tell, that I am certainly not cured,,oh HELL NO!
But, I sure feel so much better and am starting to take care of myself again, far more, and far happier than I did even two weeks ago...
Hang in there...just do a little bit each day, and do it at your own pace--
Good luck, you've already made progress just by being here!! And really, just hearing you say these things actually helps me not be quite so afraid myself, so thank you for sharing,
Give yourself a pat on your back today; starting is tough but you're trying...
One day at a time
Karen
I do the same thing--and then I think I'm being reasonable by Expecting To Be CURED right now. Or soon. Or forever!
And then I lose all hope and give up...I become either all or nothing, and that's really how I self-sabotage what I truly want--which is just to feel better about myself and life, and to just actually be able to do any of the things I want to do.
Please don't worry to much about feeling anxious. What you're feeling is really common but the truth is, that it's a gradual process and that ANY progress, no matter how small or large, IS worthwhile...and the successes add up over time.. I always have scared myself away by thinking , 'omg, what if I can be cured and I'm still an awful human being?' or something equally as self-defeating...
Try breaking down your package in smaller parts; if you can only manage to do 1 cd, or just read a couple pages, then just do that and build up slowly...I've just started too, and I'm still avoiding some of the exercises, so my goal right now is just to do one or two things in the program every day--and make it a habit until I can pick up a little more steam...And I can tell, that I am certainly not cured,,oh HELL NO!
But, I sure feel so much better and am starting to take care of myself again, far more, and far happier than I did even two weeks ago...Hang in there...just do a little bit each day, and do it at your own pace--
Good luck, you've already made progress just by being here!! And really, just hearing you say these things actually helps me not be quite so afraid myself, so thank you for sharing,
Give yourself a pat on your back today; starting is tough but you're trying...
One day at a time
Karen
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Guest
Penny and abstractartgirl,
There is a whole CD on what if thinking. Lucinda says instead of negative "what if thinking" do positive "What if thinking." Like "What if I get better? What if I get so I can do anything I want?" You have started and that is the key. Now keep it up and you will make progress. I am now going through the program the second time and am learning even more this time than the first time. Good advice on doing it at your own pace and absorbing it as you go. You'll find that you will probably need some parts of the program more than other parts.
good luck with turning those negative thoughts into positive thinking!!
There is a whole CD on what if thinking. Lucinda says instead of negative "what if thinking" do positive "What if thinking." Like "What if I get better? What if I get so I can do anything I want?" You have started and that is the key. Now keep it up and you will make progress. I am now going through the program the second time and am learning even more this time than the first time. Good advice on doing it at your own pace and absorbing it as you go. You'll find that you will probably need some parts of the program more than other parts.
good luck with turning those negative thoughts into positive thinking!!
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Guest
Thanks Samcat!
I was having a difficult time yesterday--I was trying to take a couple of tasks that I've been putting off but didn't finish, and then went to the tv to escape...all frreaking day....and now especially, am just seeing how 'all or nothing' I still am. Well, good news is that I'm not like that with everything, and your words of encouragement and support are just what I needed.
So, today, just going to try again--anything I accomplish will be more than if I don't try at all...
Thanks Samcat!
Karen
I was having a difficult time yesterday--I was trying to take a couple of tasks that I've been putting off but didn't finish, and then went to the tv to escape...all frreaking day....and now especially, am just seeing how 'all or nothing' I still am. Well, good news is that I'm not like that with everything, and your words of encouragement and support are just what I needed.
So, today, just going to try again--anything I accomplish will be more than if I don't try at all...
Thanks Samcat!
Karen
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Guest
Hi Karen,
We all have our good days and our bad days, so cut yourself some slack. That is one thing this program teaches--give yourself unconditional love.
You can do it--you have it in you. Nobody is perfect and you are trying--you are right that anything you accomplish will be more than if you do nothing. Just keep plugging away--I think it gets easier as you go. At first the program can even make you more anxious because you are facing stuff you may have buried. But that is beneficial in the long run. Glad I encouraged you--that makes me feel good myself!
We all have our good days and our bad days, so cut yourself some slack. That is one thing this program teaches--give yourself unconditional love.
You can do it--you have it in you. Nobody is perfect and you are trying--you are right that anything you accomplish will be more than if you do nothing. Just keep plugging away--I think it gets easier as you go. At first the program can even make you more anxious because you are facing stuff you may have buried. But that is beneficial in the long run. Glad I encouraged you--that makes me feel good myself!
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Guest
I'm so glad that I found this post. I have been feeling negative since yesterday, when I had 2 Level 10 attacks. They were the first since I started the program about 2 weeks ago.
I have to stop the negative thinking...which is so easy to say, but very hard to do. I am writing things down now, and cannot believe how many negative thoughts I have. And those "what if's" are just overwhelming at times! But through the Grace of God, I will see this program through.
I have to stop the negative thinking...which is so easy to say, but very hard to do. I am writing things down now, and cannot believe how many negative thoughts I have. And those "what if's" are just overwhelming at times! But through the Grace of God, I will see this program through.