How Do You Deal with Disappointment, Frustration, Feeling Down, Minimal Expectations

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Sat Feb 27, 2010 12:48 pm

Originally posted by jillzmind:
Hello Charlie Brown
Are you feeling any better since you last posted? I have bad days too and sometimes I just need to vent and get away mentally somehow from all the crap..to jump out of the cycle so to speak.We got Netflix back and hopefully we will get some comedies that will make us smile and have some time to chill..heck even if it is just for an hour here and there.
Take care,

Thanks for asking Jill.

Yesterday in the late morning before I posted my reply to missgsr, I went out in the snow for the second interview for a job. I feel I screwed up on describing my work history (alot of jobs) and some of my dates of employment.

Last night I was a wreck. I was talking with my wife and admitted I am bitter (along with the other sentiments I described.) I also gave a great analogy based on the Northeast's weather this month. One snow storm after another has people here in the New York area saying they're it's one storm after another, and they're tired of it.

This afternoon I chilled out with the History Channel and its special on WWII. I also cleaned and organized a draw in my desk that looked like an explosion in a Staples.

I agree about "getting away." Today I didn't want to do anything related to job searching online. Needed a break from it.

Thanks again for the check up message.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Sat Feb 27, 2010 12:54 pm

Originally posted by ship2shore:
Hey Charlie Brown, you could have written my life story. I too have struggled most of my life with feelings of self-pity and the idea that everything I did had to be done the "hard" way. I know that I need to be a lot less thin-skinned about most things but knowing that just doesn't help. I even read this book by Richard Carlson entitled "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" but it only helps me for the minutes that I am reading it; once I put it down the advice is forgotten. I wish I could say something that would help you but at this point I can only commiserate. However, it might help us both to remember Lucinda's advice not to be over-analyzers and overreactors since those are characteristics of the anxious personality.

I appreciate the commiseration. It's sounds like we might be related.

Like I said to my wife last night I know there are people sick, etc., and worse off then I am. A great example is my cousin who is 38 and has been suffering with thyroid cancer and seizures shortly after getting married. But when I am late with my bills, see zero--literally--in the bank account, been going through this on and off for years, unable to advertise my project: I don't think of the worst fortunate.

Stoic · Post by **Stoic** » Mon Mar 01, 2010 1:42 pm

Indeed, there comes a time when we want to look back and question why we haven't rose to certain levels. I refuse to acknowledge these types of questions. The obstacles that I have overcome to become who I was meant to be are what is to be measured. To look at yourself in the mirror and truly love and respect that individual - took a long time. I learned from each experience - rough yes. Abuse - I can relate. I am a work progress. Tenacious spirit in knowing something beautiful was underneath all the pain of the past. Continue fighting, you are worth it. Perhaps, your fight is in another direction of healing. Take Care

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 5:23 am

Stoic,

Thank you for the reply. Very interesting comment about fight as a possible direction of healing. I have often viewed myself as Russell Crowe's character in Gladiator. He was a general who just wanted to stop fighting and go home to his family and his crops. Instead, he is forced to fight, and endure unwarranted hardships.

Stoic · Post by **Stoic** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 6:47 am

I like the idea of a general - one who has a command and a deep understanding of who he/she is and how he/she must use different techniques in the battle to defeat the enemy. The enemy can be the pain of the past. Have you given any thought to how the pain of the past has manifested itself in the choices you have made as an adult? I wish you well in your journey. We do not have to reach the mountain's summit to know that we have lived well.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 3:19 pm

Hey Chuck !

How did today go ?

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 3:57 pm

Originally posted by Stoic:
I like the idea of a general - one who has a command and a deep understanding of who he/she is and how he/she must use different techniques in the battle to defeat the enemy. The enemy can be the pain of the past. Have you given any thought to how the pain of the past has manifested itself in the choices you have made as an adult? I wish you well in your journey. We do not have to reach the mountain's summit to know that we have lived well.

I guess my entrepreneurial aspirations has some general qualities. I've never considered myself a general, though I do enjoy having what I said done.

My parallel to Crowe's character is that he wants things (family, peace) and outside forces give him unwanted things (forced to be a gladiator, the slaughter of his family).

My enemy is definitely from the past: I didn't save money and now I suffer it. My career choices were a pain until I realized if I wasn't on the career path I was on, I wouldn't have met my wife.

I still don't see what the hell it took so long to meet my wife.

I appreciate the post, Stoic.

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Tue Mar 02, 2010 4:02 pm

Originally posted by manofmusic:
Hey Chuck !

How did today go ?

I thank you for checking up on me.

Today, I took off--in a manor of speaking. I slept late, watched TV, hung out with the Mrs and drank flavored coffee. I needed rest, have no stress, and to avoid work related issues, though I was checking to see if the unemployment would get extended and in the last couple of hours cranked out a couple of more resumes.

I also since late this afternoon studied the companies and industries for tomorrow's sales job interviews. I have two, one in AM and PM. I am my usual: hope for good, expect the worse.

I have a question about prayer but I still do it.

Later.

manofmusic · Post by **manofmusic** » Wed Mar 03, 2010 3:03 pm

Just make sure that you keep resting your body and mind. As you know, it can drive you crazy. Are those decaffeinated coffees ????

Charlie Brown · Post by **Charlie Brown** » Thu Mar 04, 2010 6:15 am

Originally posted by manofmusic:
Just make sure that you keep resting your body and mind. As you know, it can drive you crazy. Are those decaffeinated coffees ????

Of course.

In the past 4-6 weeks I have gotten into yoga and violin music to combat the stress. I had a free yoga DVD that McDonald's had given away for free a few years ago. There's a particular yoga exercise called Sun Salutation II which, for me, provides immediate stress relief.

The violin CD I actually have on right now as I reply. I bought it a couple of years ago for the anxiety. My favorite music is rock from the 70s and 80s, but I when I am stressed I will trade Van Halen for violins in an instant.