kkat119 - You sound so much like I was many years ago; always worried about what people thought of me, worried about not being good enough, not fitting in to any social situation. The older I got, I realized that everybody, and I mean everybody, has their own issues and insecurities they are dealing with. I think that because you are worried about what people think of you, you are a very sensitive person who most likely has the awesome ability to empathize with others. It is very easy for us to beat ourselves up with negative self-talk, but try to sit down and write everything you are grateful for, and all your positive traits - when you are done you will realize you have more positive things on your list than you ever thought. Keep that list with you too to remind yourself when you do start to feel you are being judged.
Like equistrian1 recommends, getting Lucinda's book Power to Panic is a great idea. I read that in conjunction with this program. It does work.
Keep positive,
Lisa
So scared
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I insisted a friend get the book that didn't have any money and the local library carried it! So check out your local library and if they don't have it they can get it from another one...and girl if you have to time to worry yourself and be scared, you have the time to do the program...The program will save you money in the long run, if not ask for it for a Bday present, or a gift!
The great thing about anxiety is when you can finally talk about it to other people you find out how many people are actually in the same boat, it's so weird. Of my friends who suffered, I suggested the cd's the friends and it really changed their lives too. You can give them a try! THere is no harm in trying.
The great thing about anxiety is when you can finally talk about it to other people you find out how many people are actually in the same boat, it's so weird. Of my friends who suffered, I suggested the cd's the friends and it really changed their lives too. You can give them a try! THere is no harm in trying.
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thanks equestrian-you are right. i believe my mother is the same way and i'm sure some of it is hereditary. i have read "from panic to power" but i think it's time to get it out again! did the program help you greatly to change your thoughts?
lisa-haha yes i am very sensitive and i consider myself to be empathetic-i'm actually going to school to become a counselor myself. it's like i can see other people's issues well and empathize. i have issues sympathizing too much for others and myself. i need to learn to put what i'm going to tell future clients in practice for myself more now. i believe sensitive people are drawn to these type of jobs because they know what it's like to experience intense feelings related to fears/anxiety.
like you said i need to constantly remind myself what i need to be grateful for-i just need to do it everyday!!
lisa-haha yes i am very sensitive and i consider myself to be empathetic-i'm actually going to school to become a counselor myself. it's like i can see other people's issues well and empathize. i have issues sympathizing too much for others and myself. i need to learn to put what i'm going to tell future clients in practice for myself more now. i believe sensitive people are drawn to these type of jobs because they know what it's like to experience intense feelings related to fears/anxiety.
like you said i need to constantly remind myself what i need to be grateful for-i just need to do it everyday!!
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kkat119,
yes! The program has helped alot! when I started the program, the first word that came to my mind to describe myself was "pathetic".
Now I don't let that negative self talk in. I have had some "knockdowns" lately but I am much stronger and coping better, but I am starting over to find more strength. and this outlet to others is very important to me.
You will make a great counselor!! and helping others is healing in it's self. YOU CAN DO IT!
yes! The program has helped alot! when I started the program, the first word that came to my mind to describe myself was "pathetic".
Now I don't let that negative self talk in. I have had some "knockdowns" lately but I am much stronger and coping better, but I am starting over to find more strength. and this outlet to others is very important to me.
You will make a great counselor!! and helping others is healing in it's self. YOU CAN DO IT!
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Hello K Kat; Someone in the past may have shot down your self esteem...Please don/t focus on them. There is a type of person that enjoys tearing others down, such people need help themselves. There is an easy way to elevate your feelings about yourself, Just before bed time every single night write down 10 things you appreciate about yourself... Each day spend some time persueing a subject that inerests you and involve yourself with that. Regarding negative thoughts that come to your mind, there is a saying " you can't prevent a bird from landing on your head but you don't have to let him build a nest there" so don't entertain negative ideas about yourself. Keep busy and involve yourself in ineresting things and you won't have time to think negative. As for others that you suppose are thinking bad things, likely they are not and if they are, so what? 