help me to understand

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 7:49 am

Yes he does need our help and attention and you were rude to him. I am choosing to be assertive with you because this is not the first time I've seen this behavior from you. This conversation ends here but I'm not going to sit by and watch you be rude to others who as you said yourself...need our help.

Originally posted by deedee00:
stop obsessing over me. Let it go.

This thread is NOT about me. Focus on the poster that NEEDS your help and attention.

I'm not thinking about you, and I don't care what you're saying.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
If you don't get a hold on that, you're gonna have a whole lot of problems in life.

I can tell that you're one of those people that HATE for someone to DISAGREE with you.

I'm not gonna agree with something, if it doesn't sound right to me. And you need to go to the lessons in EXPECTATIONS AND SHOULDS and work on those.

Get it through your head. You called me something in my thread you didn't "disagree" with something. You called me something. I don't think anyone should have to come on a forum that is meant to support an hear you pull stuff out your arse about them. This forum is suppose to be for support not accusations made from guesses like you did with me. Not to mention calling a thread where someone is looking for help "ridiculous" is in bad form...as is name calling. Good day. And good luck.

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 8:35 am

^^^^ Is this how you live your life? So sad!

Girl, you have to learn how to just let stuff go.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 9:25 am

Originally posted by deedee00:
^^^^ Is this how you live your life? So sad!

Girl, you have to learn how to just let stuff go.

LOL my gawd....you are really something. I'll leave this alone now. You are truly the sad one my friend. Let's just say I've had a lot of private support and you are a real piece of work. The admins can deal with this however they see fit. But I'm not going to hijack this thread any further simply because I felt you should be nice to the guy.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 9:49 am

So...back on topic....ksl....have you heard from your wife today?

ksl hopeless romantic · Post by **ksl hopeless romantic** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 3:42 pm

I have not talked to her today. She texted me and said we would talk friday when i got off work that she was going to bed early because we have snow and ice moving in overnight and she had to get up early. She promised we would talk. I told her that was fine but there wouldnt be any arguing. Both of our hearts hurt and she replied back that she didnt want to argue either. I later get a text around 5 pm that says shes going to meet a girlfriend for dinner well its 9:30pm and she still isnt home. Thought she needed her sleep?? My heart says its over.

jillzmind · Post by **jillzmind** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 3:55 pm

ksl
Did you get my PM I sent you? Hang in there.
Maybe someone is giving her bad advice? Who knows but I pray you stay strong and patient.
Pop in another movie and hang with the kiddos.

Jill~

ksl hopeless romantic · Post by **ksl hopeless romantic** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 12:36 pm

Well today is the day she says we talk. Im just glad she has the courage to tell me whats going on. I have a feeling it is over. I will not argue with her if thats what she wants shes not going to get an arguement out of me . I will let you know as soon as i do.

As for you Dee Dee i think you took the wrong program. I think you might want to look into anger management..

jillzmind · Post by **jillzmind** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 12:51 pm

Ksl
I will be praying you stay calm cool and collected and really listen and don't plan on comebacks before she finishes her thoughts. Active listening is soooo hard. Especially if you think what's being said is wrong or hurtful. I know I have been there, but being able to listen and even saying back to them calmly, "are you saying you feel_____?" helps to let them know you heard. I am praying for you both. Take care
Jill
p/s this thread is about you and your marriage ksl not about Dee or Wendy.Lets just stay on course okay? Pretty please with chocolate on it?
Thanks

Shifrah · Post by **Shifrah** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 1:23 pm

ksl all the best to you on this. You are a good man. I hope you two can pursue some kind of counseling before anything. Marriage is not always a smooth road but it has so many rewards. Going on 19 years here myself, with lots of different road conditions!

As for the program, there is session 7 on assertiveness vs. aggression I found it very helpful. Sometimes we have to go through the program more than once depending on which things we need to work on. Have you been through this program?

Take care and my prayers go with you.

Tic Tac · Post by **Tic Tac** » Sat Jan 30, 2010 4:59 am

You are gonna have to learn that people are gonna question things that you say, and disagree with you sometimes. But i'm not the one that started an arguement here. It was Pansy. She had no right to try to tell me what I should say in any post that i made, whether she agreed or disagreed.

Sounds like a contradiction to me. You told him that he "needs to learn" that people are going to disagree with him sometimes. But then you said someone else has no right to disagree with what you said. So essentially what I got from it is you have every right to write what you did but nobody has the right to disagree with you or call you on your behavior. Hello!