help me to understand

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Wed Jan 27, 2010 3:46 pm

I would love to hear her side of the story.

You're trying to make yourself sound too perfect, and her sound like a horrible wife and mother. I know there's no perfect people. That's why this is getting kind of strange to me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 27, 2010 4:10 pm

Originally posted by deedee00:
I would love to hear her side of the story.

You're trying to make yourself sound too perfect, and her sound like a horrible wife and mother. I know there's no perfect people. That's why this is getting kind of strange to me.

While I can understand your point of view that no one is perfect-and I agree. You are making assumptions. I know you did this with me in another thread...accusing me of something that you shouldn't of even had a hint of from what I had typed. I would just like to kindly warn you that sometimes you are coming off a little bit accusatory and therefore hurtful to some people you have replied to. This man could be perfectly honest with us and here for our honest help and you are starting to accuse him of trying to make himself out to be perfect. Yes, he could be. But rather than using the tone in this message I would try rephrasing it to perhaps "Can you think of anything you might have done to set this off in all honesty because there are two people who contribute to a relationship" Or something...i dunno...this is just not the first time i've seen you jump on someone who for all we know is perfectly innocent. You are very quick to jump the gun and I am not saying this in a vindictive manner...I'm saying this out of trying to help you to better yourself like the program wants us all to do. Maybe it's not my place I don't know but it's simply something I've noticed. Peace.

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Wed Jan 27, 2010 7:18 pm

Dont ever come at me like that again!

Your whole thread was ridiculous! Just because I didn't agree with that non-sense that you were talking about?!?!

My opinion, is MY opinion. It is none of your business!

Don't ever come in here and tell me what not to say in a post of mine. I really don't want to hurt your feelings. So it would be best for you to just mind your own business.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
I would love to hear her side of the story.

You're trying to make yourself sound too perfect, and her sound like a horrible wife and mother. I know there's no perfect people. That's why this is getting kind of strange to me.
While I can understand your point of view that no one is perfect-and I agree. You are making assumptions. I know you did this with me in another thread...accusing me of something that you shouldn't of even had a hint of from what I had typed. I would just like to kindly warn you that sometimes you are coming off a little bit accusatory and therefore hurtful to some people you have replied to. This man could be perfectly honest with us and here for our honest help and you are starting to accuse him of trying to make himself out to be perfect. Yes, he could be. But rather than using the tone in this message I would try rephrasing it to perhaps "Can you think of anything you might have done to set this off in all honesty because there are two people who contribute to a relationship" Or something...i dunno...this is just not the first time i've seen you jump on someone who for all we know is perfectly innocent. You are very quick to jump the gun and I am not saying this in a vindictive manner...I'm saying this out of trying to help you to better yourself like the program wants us all to do. Maybe it's not my place I don't know but it's simply something I've noticed. Peace.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 27, 2010 8:06 pm

Originally posted by deedee00:
Dont ever come at me like that again!

Your whole thread was ridiculous! Just because I didn't agree with that non-sense that you were talking about?!?!

My opinion, is MY opinion. It is none of your business!

Don't ever come in here and tell me what not to say in a post of mine. I really don't want to hurt your feelings. So it would be best for you to just mind your own business.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
I would love to hear her side of the story.

You're trying to make yourself sound too perfect, and her sound like a horrible wife and mother. I know there's no perfect people. That's why this is getting kind of strange to me.
While I can understand your point of view that no one is perfect-and I agree. You are making assumptions. I know you did this with me in another thread...accusing me of something that you shouldn't of even had a hint of from what I had typed. I would just like to kindly warn you that sometimes you are coming off a little bit accusatory and therefore hurtful to some people you have replied to. This man could be perfectly honest with us and here for our honest help and you are starting to accuse him of trying to make himself out to be perfect. Yes, he could be. But rather than using the tone in this message I would try rephrasing it to perhaps "Can you think of anything you might have done to set this off in all honesty because there are two people who contribute to a relationship" Or something...i dunno...this is just not the first time i've seen you jump on someone who for all we know is perfectly innocent. You are very quick to jump the gun and I am not saying this in a vindictive manner...I'm saying this out of trying to help you to better yourself like the program wants us all to do. Maybe it's not my place I don't know but it's simply something I've noticed. Peace.

...wow..this was not about agreeing but about pegging someone with something when they are on here looking for some compassion. This wasn't about your opinion in my thread it was about something you accused me of myself...and you were totally off the mark and could very well be about this man. What would this man have to gain by coming on a board full of strangers and lying to us? He's looking for help. Even if he were being one sided...the least we could do is still acknowledge he's going through a hard time and give him any encouragement we can based on what we DO know.

If this is the kind of attitude that's on these forums then it's changed a lot from when I use to come on my old user name back in 2001...and I don't know if I should be here anymore. I'm appalled at accusing someone who is on here looking for help. We're suppose to be compassionate. I don't care if he's being one sided I believe in giving that compassion and encouraging him in any way we CAN. If he's being one sided then our advice won't be of any use anyhow so it's the least we can do in case he's being honest.

....you know what..forget it...waste of breath I suppose. I wish you all peace and luck with your program...including you deedee. C-ya

ksl hopeless romantic · Post by **ksl hopeless romantic** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 12:33 am

You too stop bickering. It is true that you are only hearing one side of the story but as God as my witness when i had my self esteem issues i pulled closer to my wife. with her issues she is pushing me away. No im not perfect by any means we all have flaws. Hopefully today she will talk to me. if she says she cant figure out whats going on in her head well then i will simply ask her what does her heart say. we both hurt and the children see it and it is time to start the healing process. Pleas dont bicker over this it took me a lot of courage to get on here and tell you my life.

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 2:50 am

If you don't get a hold on that, you're gonna have a whole lot of problems in life.

I can tell that you're one of those people that HATE for someone to DISAGREE with you.

I'm not gonna agree with something, if it doesn't sound right to me. And you need to go to the lessons in EXPECTATIONS AND SHOULDS and work on those.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
Dont ever come at me like that again!

Your whole thread was ridiculous! Just because I didn't agree with that non-sense that you were talking about?!?!

My opinion, is MY opinion. It is none of your business!

Don't ever come in here and tell me what not to say in a post of mine. I really don't want to hurt your feelings. So it would be best for you to just mind your own business.

Originally posted by PansWendybird: While I can understand your point of view that no one is perfect-and I agree. You are making assumptions. I know you did this with me in another thread...accusing me of something that you shouldn't of even had a hint of from what I had typed. I would just like to kindly warn you that sometimes you are coming off a little bit accusatory and therefore hurtful to some people you have replied to. This man could be perfectly honest with us and here for our honest help and you are starting to accuse him of trying to make himself out to be perfect. Yes, he could be. But rather than using the tone in this message I would try rephrasing it to perhaps "Can you think of anything you might have done to set this off in all honesty because there are two people who contribute to a relationship" Or something...i dunno...this is just not the first time i've seen you jump on someone who for all we know is perfectly innocent. You are very quick to jump the gun and I am not saying this in a vindictive manner...I'm saying this out of trying to help you to better yourself like the program wants us all to do. Maybe it's not my place I don't know but it's simply something I've noticed. Peace.

...wow..this was not about agreeing but about pegging someone with something when they are on here looking for some compassion. This wasn't about your opinion in my thread it was about something you accused me of myself...and you were totally off the mark and could very well be about this man. What would this man have to gain by coming on a board full of strangers and lying to us? He's looking for help. Even if he were being one sided...the least we could do is still acknowledge he's going through a hard time and give him any encouragement we can based on what we DO know.

If this is the kind of attitude that's on these forums then it's changed a lot from when I use to come on my old user name back in 2001...and I don't know if I should be here anymore. I'm appalled at accusing someone who is on here looking for help. We're suppose to be compassionate. I don't care if he's being one sided I believe in giving that compassion and encouraging him in any way we CAN. If he's being one sided then our advice won't be of any use anyhow so it's the least we can do in case he's being honest.

....you know what..forget it...waste of breath I suppose. I wish you all peace and luck with your program...including you deedee. C-ya

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 2:56 am

I understand what you're saying. It just sounds very one sided.

I hope this turns out good for you! It's hard to say much more because she's not talking.

Take care!

Originally posted by ksl hopeless romantic:
You too stop bickering. It is true that you are only hearing one side of the story but as God as my witness when i had my self esteem issues i pulled closer to my wife. with her issues she is pushing me away. No im not perfect by any means we all have flaws. Hopefully today she will talk to me. if she says she cant figure out whats going on in her head well then i will simply ask her what does her heart say. we both hurt and the children see it and it is time to start the healing process. Pleas dont bicker over this it took me a lot of courage to get on here and tell you my life.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 6:20 am

Originally posted by deedee00:
If you don't get a hold on that, you're gonna have a whole lot of problems in life.

I can tell that you're one of those people that HATE for someone to DISAGREE with you.

I'm not gonna agree with something, if it doesn't sound right to me. And you need to go to the lessons in EXPECTATIONS AND SHOULDS and work on those.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
Dont ever come at me like that again!

Your whole thread was ridiculous! Just because I didn't agree with that non-sense that you were talking about?!?!

My opinion, is MY opinion. It is none of your business!

Don't ever come in here and tell me what not to say in a post of mine. I really don't want to hurt your feelings. So it would be best for you to just mind your own business.

...wow..this was not about agreeing but about pegging someone with something when they are on here looking for some compassion. This wasn't about your opinion in my thread it was about something you accused me of myself...and you were totally off the mark and could very well be about this man. What would this man have to gain by coming on a board full of strangers and lying to us? He's looking for help. Even if he were being one sided...the least we could do is still acknowledge he's going through a hard time and give him any encouragement we can based on what we DO know.

If this is the kind of attitude that's on these forums then it's changed a lot from when I use to come on my old user name back in 2001...and I don't know if I should be here anymore. I'm appalled at accusing someone who is on here looking for help. We're suppose to be compassionate. I don't care if he's being one sided I believe in giving that compassion and encouraging him in any way we CAN. If he's being one sided then our advice won't be of any use anyhow so it's the least we can do in case he's being honest.

....you know what..forget it...waste of breath I suppose. I wish you all peace and luck with your program...including you deedee. C-ya

Get it through your head. You called me something in my thread you didn't "disagree" with something. You called me something. I don't think anyone should have to come on a forum that is meant to support an hear you pull stuff out your arse about them. This forum is suppose to be for support not accusations made from guesses like you did with me. Not to mention calling a thread where someone is looking for help "ridiculous" is in bad form...as is name calling. Good day. And good luck.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 6:29 am

KSL...good luck with your wife...i'd been following this thread for quite some time. Keep the faith okay? I hope it all works out.

deedee00 · Post by **deedee00** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 7:42 am

stop obsessing over me. Let it go.

This thread is NOT about me. Focus on the poster that NEEDS your help and attention.

I'm not thinking about you, and I don't care what you're saying.

Originally posted by PansWendybird:
Originally posted by deedee00:
If you don't get a hold on that, you're gonna have a whole lot of problems in life.

I can tell that you're one of those people that HATE for someone to DISAGREE with you.

I'm not gonna agree with something, if it doesn't sound right to me. And you need to go to the lessons in EXPECTATIONS AND SHOULDS and work on those.

Originally posted by PansWendybird: ...wow..this was not about agreeing but about pegging someone with something when they are on here looking for some compassion. This wasn't about your opinion in my thread it was about something you accused me of myself...and you were totally off the mark and could very well be about this man. What would this man have to gain by coming on a board full of strangers and lying to us? He's looking for help. Even if he were being one sided...the least we could do is still acknowledge he's going through a hard time and give him any encouragement we can based on what we DO know.

If this is the kind of attitude that's on these forums then it's changed a lot from when I use to come on my old user name back in 2001...and I don't know if I should be here anymore. I'm appalled at accusing someone who is on here looking for help. We're suppose to be compassionate. I don't care if he's being one sided I believe in giving that compassion and encouraging him in any way we CAN. If he's being one sided then our advice won't be of any use anyhow so it's the least we can do in case he's being honest.

....you know what..forget it...waste of breath I suppose. I wish you all peace and luck with your program...including you deedee. C-ya

Get it through your head. You called me something in my thread you didn't "disagree" with something. You called me something. I don't think anyone should have to come on a forum that is meant to support an hear you pull stuff out your arse about them. This forum is suppose to be for support not accusations made from guesses like you did with me. Not to mention calling a thread where someone is looking for help "ridiculous" is in bad form...as is name calling. Good day. And good luck.