Feeling sad

ali04 · Post by **ali04** » Fri Dec 25, 2009 4:49 pm

Hi All and Merry Christmas. I am trying so hard to face all this anxiety and loneliness and depression. I just want the mood to lift. I have alot to be thankful for but still feel sad. I am a mom of 4 great kids often challenging but that is just parenting in general. I have a great husband but I don't think he understands. He just says it is a choice to feel happy and positive. Trust me I want that. I am overwhelmed and can't seem to even get the house completely cleaned anymore. I get side tracked. I often get migraine headaches and feel so spacey and lost. I go everywhere alone unless sometimes husband or kids want to go. It feels very lonely. I feel like I have lost contact with almost everyone in my life, old friends and some family members. My family all lives far away from me and my kids and I get sad with that. My mom's brother passed away yesterday which set the mood for sadness. I don't like this and feel like why do I have to always feel so low and sad. Any sugg. on supplements or anything I am up for. I am also worrying about monday having to leave for 5 days to visit husbands family in calif. I am uncomfortable around them because they never make me feel like they even care about me. When my mother in law calls it is always first to my husbands cell phone and she never asks to talk to me or kids. It is hurtful and maybe I am thinking and expecting to much. I then start beating my self up with what ifs like maybe I am just unfriendly or weird and they don't have time. I think they call it stinking thinking. I don't know but I don't like this and want it to end. I do have the program and have never completed it. I started listening to the cds again out of desperation. Sorry to vent I have no one to turn too. Hope to get some good advice to the road to recovery.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 25, 2009 5:42 pm

I am sorry you are feeling so sad. Depression is devastating. I absolutely hate it when my husband tells me it is my choice. Why, pray tell, would anyone choose to be scared and feel hopeless everyday? If it were simply a choice, we would choose happy. No, you do not choose to feel sad. Those that do not know how true depression feels need to be thankful, not judgemental...it can affect anyone. You hang in there. Take some good stress reduction CD's to listen to when the in-laws get to your head. Let their problem be their problem, not yours.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 4:24 am

Fire Island,
Thanks so much for the great advice. I am glad that I am not making this choice to be depressed. I hate being told that. I am glad to have some support here. I will go to barnes and noble to look for some stress reduction cd's. Too you have any suggestions. Thanks again and I want to make the change and have tried several times and this time for the new year that will be my goal.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:15 am

Hi Ali, I am so sorry your suffering was minimized and even dismissed by your husband as a selfish choice. That was really insensitive. Pretty much all of us on here know what you are going through and how real and debilitating it is, though our particular circumstances are different. Please know that it's not your fault, it's just that you don't have the tools to think and react and view things differently. If you did, of course you would "choose" differently! The best thing I EVER did for myself was purchase this program. You mention going to Barnes and Noble. I really really encourage you to try this program, especially since you mention that you already have it. There really isn't anything out there that's on the level with this program. It is an expert set of instructions and tools that equips you to "choose differently". It is an expensive program, but for me the life I was living was far more costly to my health and well-being. As far as supplements go, the ones my therapist has talked about as research backed are fish oil, vitamin D, and B vitamins. Of course talk to your doctor, do your own research. I think I remember that originally when I got the program it came with some sample vitamins called Good Days.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Dec 26, 2009 4:16 pm

Thanks Cuttingirl You helped me alot. I am going to stay focused on the program again. I have started listening to the cds. I just havent done the workbook. I have started taking my fish oil again and hope it starts working. I really want to change I am just having a hard time with the motivation. I have had such low energy lately but it probably is stemmed from the feelings of depression.

Thanks again I appreciate the encouragement.