My dad overdosed on pills at work last night he was so doped up he scared me.
Right now i heard from my grandmother a few minutes ago that he was there and she ask me what will i do when he goes and then she blamed me for him taking pills becuase i dont clean the house good enough and said it made him depressed.
Now i feel even more worse with her blaming me for his overdose.. I dont know what to do my chest hurts so bad i didnt get hardly much sleep last night because of my nerves my chest hurts it feels so tight.. My mind is thinkign wwhat will i do what willl he do? i want him to get help but he never listens to me.. I feel alone really bad.. Last night when he left for work i prayed to god he didnt get in a wreck because i was scared and he didn't .. i'm glad he is safe but i don't know what to do about his pill problem.. This is making the anxiety 100 times worse i feel like im goign to have a panic attack my chest hurts so bad.. I don't know what to do .............
Someone Please help me...
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just wanted to let you know i read your post and am thinking about you. you really made me think about how i must make my kids feel...when i am really irritated i take ativan right in front of them and now know that they must think it is their fault i am taking them cause i am taking everything out on them. what kind of pills is your dad taking? how old is he? how old are you? is it just you and your dad in the house? i don't understand how your grandmother could do that to you?
thinking of you
Suzi
thinking of you
Suzi
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Reading that made me angry for you! This is a tough one because it's all tied up with love for your Dad and a feeling of familial obligations BUT.... and you might think this is being a bit harsh but I will say it anyway.
If your dad has a pill problem then that problem is your dads, not yours. If he has chosen to handle his problems with overmedicating that was HIS conscious decision, not yours. Did you hand him the pills? No! Did you encourage him to take them? No! He is an adult and any problem he has needs to be handled by him. And your grandma laying some kind of guilt trip on you like that? Well, grandma needs to realize that perhaps she is laying her own guilt at whatever failures she is dealing with on the wrong party. YOU. This could NEVER be your fault! And for not cleaning the house?? Thats like realizing that the milk is out of date and trying kill yourself over it. Its a house, it's dirt, get over it. And, if the house is that bad and dad is that sensitive to it, why didn't grandma get off her duff and help? Really....
The best thing you can do is TAKE CARE OF YOU. If you are a mess then you aren't going to be in a position to help anyone, much less your dad. It feels selfish at first but you have to do it. Realize that your first priority is YOU. Not taking care of yourself is just going to keep you sick and afraid and anxious.
If you want to help your dad, get him the number to rehab facility or to AA or Narcotics anonymous. Offer to go with him. But feeling horrible and anxious about is only hurting you.
Take it one day at a time...
If your dad has a pill problem then that problem is your dads, not yours. If he has chosen to handle his problems with overmedicating that was HIS conscious decision, not yours. Did you hand him the pills? No! Did you encourage him to take them? No! He is an adult and any problem he has needs to be handled by him. And your grandma laying some kind of guilt trip on you like that? Well, grandma needs to realize that perhaps she is laying her own guilt at whatever failures she is dealing with on the wrong party. YOU. This could NEVER be your fault! And for not cleaning the house?? Thats like realizing that the milk is out of date and trying kill yourself over it. Its a house, it's dirt, get over it. And, if the house is that bad and dad is that sensitive to it, why didn't grandma get off her duff and help? Really....
The best thing you can do is TAKE CARE OF YOU. If you are a mess then you aren't going to be in a position to help anyone, much less your dad. It feels selfish at first but you have to do it. Realize that your first priority is YOU. Not taking care of yourself is just going to keep you sick and afraid and anxious.
If you want to help your dad, get him the number to rehab facility or to AA or Narcotics anonymous. Offer to go with him. But feeling horrible and anxious about is only hurting you.
Take it one day at a time...
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My dad won't go.. and he is still taking pills. And when i asked him why he takes them and why hes doing this he keeps making jokes calling me stupid or a dumbass or say things like "because you don't clean the house " or "because you panic about everything" then he mimics me having an anxiety attack thinking its funny and blames me for not doing alot like cleaning the house.. i do the clothes and dishes but thats not good enough. He always finds something.. and i can't move out because of my situation. And he is part of my anxiety since when he leaves the house i feel more calm and relaxed since i can ggo in the living room wtihout being insulted or worrying about him falling over on the floor overdosing like last time. So.... not only am i dealing with anxiety im dealing wtih family issues. I just hope this works out. And pray to god that i can get through all of this crap.
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Lost girl, I am so sorry for your pain. May I ask if there is somewhere else you can stay? Is your mother in your life? Do you have other family members you can speak to about this? My heart goes out for you. If you want, you may contact me via private email and we can exchange numbers. My prayers are with you!!!