Divorced/Single Mom/Stressed Out/Depressed
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Heather Rowan
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- Joined: Sun Oct 18, 2009 1:34 pm
I get no sleep without taking medication. I can't function thru a day without having 2 or 3 panic attacks and my body has to have medicine now to control it. It is almost as if I am addicted. I am slowly trying to come off of xanax, but I am so stressed. I am a single full time mom/full time teacher with no help from the father. I am so stressed out about many things and it is hurting my health,job, friendships, and my son. I worry about money, my sanity,my son's well being, and being lonely. I have been divorced for over a year now. The father has moved on with his life and has nothing to do with his son. I worry that I will live the rest of my life lonely because I have no time to date and fear bringing another guy into my four year old's life. I worry about my son growing up without a father. I get so angry that his father has moved on with another woman and her children, but takes no time for his own son. This woman goes out of her way to make sure that she upsets me and reminds me that she has my husband and my house now while my son and I are struggling to make ends meet. I fear that I will one day loose my mind. I do the best that I can to just make it thru the day without lashing out and that terrifies me. I want to be free from the medication and the dependency that I have on it. I want to deal with things normally. Please help me with any advice that you have.
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Guest
Oh my Dear!
No wonder you are stressed! What you are going thru' is so very difficult.
But you can do it!!!
I remember how hard it was. I went thru' that too. Only I had 3 teenagers. And I was nearing 40. I thought my life was over indeed!!
Honestly , you can make it.
For one thing, try and accept where you are. I know it seems so unacceptable. But you can do it. And if you possibly can , just let him go.
That is easier said than done. But sooner or later you have to so try to make it sooner. So you won't hurt as long.
Before you start to date - learn how to be happy and complete on your own. That is important.
Because you don't have to have a husband to be happy. Yes there is some loneliness. But you'll find a good life. I promise.
If you can find your way to having a spiritual life that will help. It really will. A year is not very long. It seemed like it, I know.
But you are going to learn a new way to live.
I wish I had more advice for you but you are going to find your way thru' this.
I was in those shoes in 1967. Then in 1992 my daughter went thru' it. Yes it is painful but you will survive. And you will be happy again.
God bless you and i will say a prayer for you.
Mary jane
No wonder you are stressed! What you are going thru' is so very difficult.
But you can do it!!!
I remember how hard it was. I went thru' that too. Only I had 3 teenagers. And I was nearing 40. I thought my life was over indeed!!
Honestly , you can make it.
For one thing, try and accept where you are. I know it seems so unacceptable. But you can do it. And if you possibly can , just let him go.
That is easier said than done. But sooner or later you have to so try to make it sooner. So you won't hurt as long.
Before you start to date - learn how to be happy and complete on your own. That is important.
Because you don't have to have a husband to be happy. Yes there is some loneliness. But you'll find a good life. I promise.
If you can find your way to having a spiritual life that will help. It really will. A year is not very long. It seemed like it, I know.
But you are going to learn a new way to live.
I wish I had more advice for you but you are going to find your way thru' this.
I was in those shoes in 1967. Then in 1992 my daughter went thru' it. Yes it is painful but you will survive. And you will be happy again.
God bless you and i will say a prayer for you.
Mary jane
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Guest
Keep your faith. God is always with you even if you can't feel it. You may need meds to get you through this horrific time. You will feel happy again. I will pray for you!-
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Heather Rowan
I really feel for you. That would be such a hard, tuff situation to be in and with the holidays here, well, you could feel even worse. Are you doing the program? I realize things are tuff, but parts of the program would be great for you. Dealing with your anger and worry would help tremendously. Don't beat yourself up about the medication. I think it's great that you don't want to depend on it and that in itself means in time, you won't.
You need to be strong and healthy for your child. If you don't have the program, get Lucindas book From Panic to Power. And like the other poster's said, keep the faith. Try to get a hold on your anger and resentment of your child's father (which is soooo difficult) and take care of yourself. Try your best to control your stress. The things you can't control (your husbands actions etc.) let them go. The best revenge is a good life. Now, go live it with your child. Good luck and God bless.
I really feel for you. That would be such a hard, tuff situation to be in and with the holidays here, well, you could feel even worse. Are you doing the program? I realize things are tuff, but parts of the program would be great for you. Dealing with your anger and worry would help tremendously. Don't beat yourself up about the medication. I think it's great that you don't want to depend on it and that in itself means in time, you won't.
You need to be strong and healthy for your child. If you don't have the program, get Lucindas book From Panic to Power. And like the other poster's said, keep the faith. Try to get a hold on your anger and resentment of your child's father (which is soooo difficult) and take care of yourself. Try your best to control your stress. The things you can't control (your husbands actions etc.) let them go. The best revenge is a good life. Now, go live it with your child. Good luck and God bless.