Anxiety About Attractive Women/Boyfriend
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Natii Beester
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- Joined: Wed Oct 07, 2009 9:46 pm
OK this may sound weird but I get abnormally anxious/jealous/angry when there is a very attractive girl around my boyfriend or on television. I know I am pretty myself, and my boyfriend thinks I am the most beautiful girl in the world but I cant stop the mind racing thoughts and feelings that I feel when there is even a pretty girl on TV! He is wonderful and never even called another girl pretty. I just get panic attacks and in the most awful moods. It's more of an anger at myself. Sometimes I'll even shake and sweat and my heart will race at the thought of it. I do have sort of a low self confidence, but I know there is more to it. What's wrong with me???
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Sounds like you have some self esteem issues going on.
Check your self talk at these times when you're freaking out over these women. Listen to what you're telling yourself. I'm sure the statements are negative.
Turn them around to positives. It may not change your mind, or make you feel good or secure on the first try, but practice really does make perfect, or close to perfect.
The more you do this, the more positive self esteem you'll acheive. It really works.
Another thing, at least once a day, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself good things about you. You may feel stupid, silly, or like you're lying, but very soon you'll start believing what you're saying. YOu will start feeling so good about yourself that youwont care whose around. Because you'll feel soooo secure.
Check your self talk at these times when you're freaking out over these women. Listen to what you're telling yourself. I'm sure the statements are negative.
Turn them around to positives. It may not change your mind, or make you feel good or secure on the first try, but practice really does make perfect, or close to perfect.
The more you do this, the more positive self esteem you'll acheive. It really works.
Another thing, at least once a day, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself good things about you. You may feel stupid, silly, or like you're lying, but very soon you'll start believing what you're saying. YOu will start feeling so good about yourself that youwont care whose around. Because you'll feel soooo secure.
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Don't get angry at yourself. It's not your fault. You are just reacting to irrational thoughts that comes into your mind.
You don't have to believe everything that you think. Not all of the thoughts that comes into your mind are true.
You have to do those thoughts the same as you do the other negative thoughts.....you have to stop overreacting to them and tell yourself that they are NOT true, and that they are only thoughts, and you don't have to believe them.
When you start working on your self esteem, you're gonna be amazed at how soon you'll start to get better.
Take care, you'll be fine.
You don't have to believe everything that you think. Not all of the thoughts that comes into your mind are true.
You have to do those thoughts the same as you do the other negative thoughts.....you have to stop overreacting to them and tell yourself that they are NOT true, and that they are only thoughts, and you don't have to believe them.
When you start working on your self esteem, you're gonna be amazed at how soon you'll start to get better.
Take care, you'll be fine.