newbie and hurting
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Hi, Scott you will learn with the program that there is no such thing as failure. That you can not be perfect and none of us are just do your best and that is good enough. I know how hard that is. Tomorrow will be here soon enough so try to enjoy today. Whatever you like to do, do it. Go get some exercise that always helps me. It's alot of hard work but just hang in there it will get better. Remember this stuff always passes. Just try to relax and breathe. Lots of luck
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Hi Scott (I'm in PA, too!) Just remember, we are not promised "tomorrow", so live for today. Try to focus on the positive. What is the worst thing that can happen to you?? We are not perfect, and that means any one of us. Try to "look beyond" your work & focus on something peaceful.
I am going thru a really tough time right now, too, but it is not quite the same as your situation. I don't even have enough "courage" to go out & get a job. I just need to build up my self esteem & quit being so negative.
Hang in there!
I am going thru a really tough time right now, too, but it is not quite the same as your situation. I don't even have enough "courage" to go out & get a job. I just need to build up my self esteem & quit being so negative.
Hang in there!
I have a question for everyone. How do you spend those twenty minutes, 3 times a day thinking the calming, soothing thoughts without the bad ones peeking in around the edges? I find that if I do the relaxation CD first, and then the calming thoughts, it's much better. But those nasties sneak in around the edges, sometimes seemingly out of the blue.
Also, to those of you who work full time, how did you manage your daily schedule of getting all of your tasks done? I'm a newbie to all of this and I'm just getting started and kind of want to get into a rhythm. Nothing concrete to stress me out, but a sort of comfortable routine.
While I was waiting for the program to arrive, I started practicing the positive thoughts, and "catching" myself when I was being negative to myself. That helped to practice before the program arrived.
I've had a day today where from the minute that I got up things were trying to work against me. I was all thumbs, kept dropping stuff, was 15 minutes late to work and even something as simple as my pen getting in the way of my mouse was irritating me. I was pretty grumpy for awhile, but now that I'm thinking about it, getting upset over little stuff is silly. The Earth isn't going to rotate off its axis because of a pen.
And talk about being an over-reactor, that was me big time this morning. I entered our company payroll online and when I clicked submit, it logged me off. I checked back a couple of minutes later and I didn't receive a report so I submitted the payroll again. As soon as I hit the submit buttom, I freaked out. Hot flash, butterflies in the stomach, rush of fear. I was so freaked that I sent the payroll twice. Even though rationally I a. should have known that not receiving a report should have been an indicator that it didn't go through and b. even if it did go through twice, it could be fixed. I started with all of the what ifs and panicky feelings. I read somewhere in the literature that little things like that you shouldn't let get to you. I too am using that mental stop sign. I talk out loud to myself sometimes too. Re-assuring myself. And I think sometimes we just have to let stuff out too, you know?
Also, to those of you who work full time, how did you manage your daily schedule of getting all of your tasks done? I'm a newbie to all of this and I'm just getting started and kind of want to get into a rhythm. Nothing concrete to stress me out, but a sort of comfortable routine.
While I was waiting for the program to arrive, I started practicing the positive thoughts, and "catching" myself when I was being negative to myself. That helped to practice before the program arrived.
I've had a day today where from the minute that I got up things were trying to work against me. I was all thumbs, kept dropping stuff, was 15 minutes late to work and even something as simple as my pen getting in the way of my mouse was irritating me. I was pretty grumpy for awhile, but now that I'm thinking about it, getting upset over little stuff is silly. The Earth isn't going to rotate off its axis because of a pen.
And talk about being an over-reactor, that was me big time this morning. I entered our company payroll online and when I clicked submit, it logged me off. I checked back a couple of minutes later and I didn't receive a report so I submitted the payroll again. As soon as I hit the submit buttom, I freaked out. Hot flash, butterflies in the stomach, rush of fear. I was so freaked that I sent the payroll twice. Even though rationally I a. should have known that not receiving a report should have been an indicator that it didn't go through and b. even if it did go through twice, it could be fixed. I started with all of the what ifs and panicky feelings. I read somewhere in the literature that little things like that you shouldn't let get to you. I too am using that mental stop sign. I talk out loud to myself sometimes too. Re-assuring myself. And I think sometimes we just have to let stuff out too, you know?
"Come to me, all who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28)"
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Wow, I'm not doing so good here, another bad day after a bad night. I seem to be getting worse as the day goes on and I didn't go to work, because my wife's cousin died overnight and my wife is in Ky until tonight. I was just outside working with my father and that didn't even calm me down?? Breathing works for a little while, but I too am concerned with how to handle this when I go to work tomorrow. I know, take today first, but I'm a nubbie and scared off my rocker today?
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I have days like that where I can not calm myself down and literally wander around the house or office like a caged animal. I, too, have tried to distract myself with other activities and that didn't work either.
Even after only one week on the program, I'm feeling the teensiest tiniest bit better. I think the one thing you could do is keep up with the breathing, take a walk, even if you just get away from your work area for a little while and definitely keep up with switching positive thoughts for the ugly negative ones. I find that inner catching of the negative thoughts helps to positively reinforce to me that yes, I AM going to get better. Looking forward to that day when I've got this under control is a good motivator for me. And be kind to yourself, and not so hard on yourself. I'm a perfectionist too, so it's difficult for me to delegate or to let go of things. Just keep your inner voice talking to yourself as well. Good soothing stuff. Take care.
Even after only one week on the program, I'm feeling the teensiest tiniest bit better. I think the one thing you could do is keep up with the breathing, take a walk, even if you just get away from your work area for a little while and definitely keep up with switching positive thoughts for the ugly negative ones. I find that inner catching of the negative thoughts helps to positively reinforce to me that yes, I AM going to get better. Looking forward to that day when I've got this under control is a good motivator for me. And be kind to yourself, and not so hard on yourself. I'm a perfectionist too, so it's difficult for me to delegate or to let go of things. Just keep your inner voice talking to yourself as well. Good soothing stuff. Take care.