HELP My bad time is night

Pickles · Post by **Pickles** » Mon Aug 18, 2008 3:17 am

I know we all have the same issues. I keep exploding all in my head. I cannot sleep. I may fall asleep then 10 min later wake up anxious. We are getting a large rv for our family, we can afford it, blah bla blahhh. I keep second guessing it. We are completely committed to the huge expense now. I have driven my family nuts with worry and stress. This should be a good thing right? All I keep doing is worrying, price, seeing it on my property will turn me into an attack each time. I am so afraid if we go somewhere I will freak out. I throw up, runs, tremble, can't eat, sleep. I do want it and mostly don't want it cuz of the anxiety I am going through. I just want to run and keep running away. I have been reading the books and are trying to apply these methods. I have no one to talk to and feel I am going crazy and, well, bad stuff is going through me head. I wish this would just go away and I could just enjoy something for a change and live life happy. I am so miserable I can't even describe it. Are there any pills to take to help with sleep or this feeling? I feel I am going over the edge.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 18, 2008 4:26 am

Pickles- I can relate to your fears- but remember you are not going crazy. I also have similar symptoms from what you describe.

What I am learning is people with anxiety have a hard time making decisions(even good ones) because we lack self confidence and second guess everything. It brings up a lot of What ifs?

It seems the purchase brought up anxieties and fears you were not ready to deal with perhaps? Money? Where will we go in the RV? Will I beable to cope if we travel?

You are not alone- I wish you the best that oneday we all will be free of this!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 18, 2008 6:30 am

Did you just begin the program? You are what if'ing which is the Session 8 material, where I am currently working. This session is great, and the homework is key. I find a lot of my what if thinking stems from Session 3 self talk chatter.
We all do what you're doing. Every time I trade in my old vehicle for a new one, for several weeks I get up three or four times a night to check my carport and see if the old vehicle found its way home! You don't need pills. You might want to learn to understand why you do this, and then learn how to stop the silly stuff that makes you miserable.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 18, 2008 7:07 am

Dear Pickles, Oh boy do I hear you and feel right with you. You are not going crazy you are however over thinking the situation. I have been there. My son was concerned about my excessive worrying and wrote out the following saying for me. "If the problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good." My son and I discussed this saying and he encouraged me to ask myself can this problem/situation be solved...no matter what the answer...yes or no... worrying won't make it different. Now if I can't sleep I get up (leaving lights low) get myself a cup of warm milk with a teaspoon of honey and a dash of ginger. Slowly sip the warm milk and think soothing thoughts. I can change how I am thinking and so can you. Pleasant rest to you.

Luli · Post by **Luli** » Mon Aug 18, 2008 7:26 am

Please get yourself a box of Celestial Seasonings Sleepytime Tea, or Sleepytime Extra with Valerian. They are mild, and will take the edge off so you can go to sleep naturally without meds. Add honey and sip until you begin to relax, I use it in the daytime when I have anxiety, as well as a thing I found at the health food store. It's a chewable tablet called Calms by a company called Hylands. I chew half a tablet when I'm especially obsessive or fearful (I get anxious lately just trying to buy a new purse,,,!!! I can sympathize with your anxiety over this big purchase, try to let yourself enjoy it). I also found a super radio station, called WLRD in Willard Ohio, (don't know if you can listen online???) It's a Christian station, Southern Gospel, it completely encourages me all day long... Some wonderful songs, "I find the answers when I fall down on my knees, Peace in the midst of my storm tossed life,,, His eye is on the sparrow and I know He watches me) just some of the encouraging lyrics, it never fails to cheer me and remind me that Jesus is there to help me, that He cares and has a good plan for my life, and for yours too I'm sure! I just checked and they can be heard from Cleveland, to Toledo, and south to Marion! If you live in Ohio, do give a listen!
Blessings,
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