Safe Person

Rosaslie1 · Post by **Rosaslie1** » Mon Sep 29, 2008 6:09 am

My husband is my safe person only because he has had anxiety before and can comfort me when i need him. When I go to work I freak even though I don't show it but I get real shaky and all these scary thought come into my head about getting sick and my body gets tense. After a while I am ok but I am still anxious the rest of the day cause he is not here. Does anyone else have this safe person problem?

Jane · Post by **Jane** » Mon Sep 29, 2008 6:30 am

My safe person is my fiance but lately I am not even comfertable around him cuz I know that he doesn't really understand what I am feeling. I come to work and on the train ride and walk here I am fine but once I step in the building this overwhelming feeling traps me. But my fiance comes to my work for care and when he walks in the door I feel safe. You are not alone in this matter but we will get over it and be able to be without them comfertabley. We are our own safe place and person, we just don't see it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:01 pm

Hello,

I think alot of us can relate to that. I'm the same way to an extent with my wife. If other people are in our car, I need her in the front. If I'm in an anxious setting, I feel I need her to tell me what to do and make my decisions because I feel like I can't think. I've actually not been doing my lessons for a few months because of being out of town, but I'm getting back into them now. And I remember from before that as we start to practice being out own safe person, that reliance on someone other than ourselves goes away. We know how to handle the anxiety/scary thoughts or whatever else we have to deal with.