Since my anxiety I pretty much cut myself of from everyone, Since going through the program I decided to call up some of my old friends, friends I hadn't seen in a couple of years. We arranged a night out lastnight, it was a big thing for me because of my anxiety and also social anxiety. We met up sure I was anxious as hell but I used my self talk and had such a great night, and they must of enjoyed my company as they even arrived around this morning and we chatted and had more laughs, and laughing is something I aint done alot of in the past months/years.
But now I feel so down and depressed, I had such a good time. Its like there is a price to pay for happiness.
Same can be said for going on days out. We took the kids to the Zoo last week, We all had a ball, but as soon as I got home to humdrum life again the depression hit me. I say depression its like a sadness just comes over you and you basically feel like crying.
Can any relate to this?
Grr.. Why is there always a price to be paid for having a good time?
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dj417002,
I can relate exactly to what you are saying. I went to visit some friends in Las Cruces this weekend and I had the time of my life did not think about depression, scary thoughts, or anxiety the whole weekend and it was like the second I got back home all those feelings came pouring back into my head and my emotions. I think it was because reality is calm and at ease and we are high strung people that love the business and excitement of going going going and I am hoping that this program will show us that life is great all the time doing something or just doing nothing.
I can relate exactly to what you are saying. I went to visit some friends in Las Cruces this weekend and I had the time of my life did not think about depression, scary thoughts, or anxiety the whole weekend and it was like the second I got back home all those feelings came pouring back into my head and my emotions. I think it was because reality is calm and at ease and we are high strung people that love the business and excitement of going going going and I am hoping that this program will show us that life is great all the time doing something or just doing nothing.
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I think the problem is that once you return home, and are no longer distracting yourself by having fun, then, you realize that everything is "still the same"...You have come home to face issues you do not want to face at home, and you are facing them "head on"..
It could be the responsibilities you are coming home to deal with. It could actually be a host of things!!!! You will have to figure that one out for yourself!!!
Let me let you in on a secret...When I return home after being out for a while, and begin feeling a little down, I just accept that down feeling, and after a few minutes it passes!!!
I know this sounds very strange, but, accepting whatever feeling you are experiencing is the key to overcoming the feeling, and also helps to lesson its life-span!!!!!
Just try this a few times, and monitor how you are feeling after a few minutes. Make sure to check in on how you are feeling, once, you have accepted the feeling.
Accept that feeling, and it will pass much sooner..This technique has always worked for me...God Bless!!!
BTW...You can never resist your own feelings and win. Your feelings are a part of you, so, when you accept them, you are accepting a part of your own self!!!!
It could be the responsibilities you are coming home to deal with. It could actually be a host of things!!!! You will have to figure that one out for yourself!!!
Let me let you in on a secret...When I return home after being out for a while, and begin feeling a little down, I just accept that down feeling, and after a few minutes it passes!!!
I know this sounds very strange, but, accepting whatever feeling you are experiencing is the key to overcoming the feeling, and also helps to lesson its life-span!!!!!
Just try this a few times, and monitor how you are feeling after a few minutes. Make sure to check in on how you are feeling, once, you have accepted the feeling.
Accept that feeling, and it will pass much sooner..This technique has always worked for me...God Bless!!!
BTW...You can never resist your own feelings and win. Your feelings are a part of you, so, when you accept them, you are accepting a part of your own self!!!!
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Hi,
I'm just noticing a pattern to this post and your post about not being able to enjoy the Holidays. I think you are having problems with what is called an "adrenaline drop".
When we have anxiety and even positive excitement, we experience a surge of adrenaline to give us energy to get through the event, whether it is work or an exciting event. After the event is over, we experience a drop in adrenaline. This adrenaline drop can cause the boredom, depression, and sadness that you are referring to. We can then become addicted to adrenaline-although we don't like anxiety, we don't know what to do with ourselves when we aren't experiencing the surge of adrenaline. However, we have to become more stable to be healthy.
I really used to have such a problem with this. I am so much better now. First of all, after an anxious or exciting event, if I experience a small drop-which is so much less severe than it used to be, I know what it is, so I don't think I'm going to be stuck that way forever:). "This too shall pass", and knowing that my body just needs to rest after the ordeal really helps.
Secondly, I think exercise really, really helps us burn off excess adrenaline and boost the "feel good hormones" such as seratonin which means that the body uses adrenaline more effectively, and we aren't only dependent on adrenaline to give us a "rush". I hope I'm explaining that properly, but exercise gives you something to do during the down time and it helps you feel better:).
Thirdly, learning to relax is the key. Learning to do soothing activities and to be happy being "bored" sometimes is a good goal. Our bodies aren't meant to run 24/7. Sometimes during those down town times, we can experience normal feelings of sadness, and sadness is healthy to feel sometimes. We have to learn to feel comfortable feeling normal feelings of sadness when it is appropriate and know that it's not going to overwhelm us. After, having a great night out and goodbye time with friends, it's normal to feel a little sadness the next day. I don't think that it's healthy to have a goal to never feel a negative emotion. It's normal to feel sad sometimes for many reasons, it's just when we feel sad all of the time about everything that is a sign that something is wrong. We have to learn how to feel all of our emotions, both good and bad and handle them healthily.
So, it's just my opinion that you are experiencing an adrenaline drop about the Holidays and the meeting with your friends. I hope something I said helped:).
Take care,
luvpiggy
I'm just noticing a pattern to this post and your post about not being able to enjoy the Holidays. I think you are having problems with what is called an "adrenaline drop".
When we have anxiety and even positive excitement, we experience a surge of adrenaline to give us energy to get through the event, whether it is work or an exciting event. After the event is over, we experience a drop in adrenaline. This adrenaline drop can cause the boredom, depression, and sadness that you are referring to. We can then become addicted to adrenaline-although we don't like anxiety, we don't know what to do with ourselves when we aren't experiencing the surge of adrenaline. However, we have to become more stable to be healthy.
I really used to have such a problem with this. I am so much better now. First of all, after an anxious or exciting event, if I experience a small drop-which is so much less severe than it used to be, I know what it is, so I don't think I'm going to be stuck that way forever:). "This too shall pass", and knowing that my body just needs to rest after the ordeal really helps.
Secondly, I think exercise really, really helps us burn off excess adrenaline and boost the "feel good hormones" such as seratonin which means that the body uses adrenaline more effectively, and we aren't only dependent on adrenaline to give us a "rush". I hope I'm explaining that properly, but exercise gives you something to do during the down time and it helps you feel better:).
Thirdly, learning to relax is the key. Learning to do soothing activities and to be happy being "bored" sometimes is a good goal. Our bodies aren't meant to run 24/7. Sometimes during those down town times, we can experience normal feelings of sadness, and sadness is healthy to feel sometimes. We have to learn to feel comfortable feeling normal feelings of sadness when it is appropriate and know that it's not going to overwhelm us. After, having a great night out and goodbye time with friends, it's normal to feel a little sadness the next day. I don't think that it's healthy to have a goal to never feel a negative emotion. It's normal to feel sad sometimes for many reasons, it's just when we feel sad all of the time about everything that is a sign that something is wrong. We have to learn how to feel all of our emotions, both good and bad and handle them healthily.
So, it's just my opinion that you are experiencing an adrenaline drop about the Holidays and the meeting with your friends. I hope something I said helped:).
Take care,
luvpiggy
It could be the responsibilities you are coming home to deal with. It could actually be a host of things!!!! You will have to figure that one out for yourself!!!
Bingo for me! Coming home to the responsibilities is a big one for me. I can see that now. I am also afraid of not doing it perfectly. Hmmmm. Can anyone add on to this? Vets?
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