"I will recover, I am recovering, and each and every day I get closer to overcoming my fears. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitation. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources."
Hi all -
I'm just popping in for a moment. Once again I've gotten myself into a situation where I feel like there's too much to do an not enough time. Oh well, I guess I'll just have to make do with 24 hours, LOL!
Sounds like everyone is handling things well, even if you're having trouble giving yourself credit for what you've all accomplished. Take a step back and look at the big picture. I think you'll see that you've made some good decisions, even if some perceived mistakes were made along the way. Remember, we must never measure ourselves against perfection because it's not a real goal.
I'll pop back in again and fill you in on my progress as well as share my thoughts on some of the specific concerns that people have posted.
Have a great Friday. The day is yours, seize it!
Jamie
The Challenge...Lesson 3
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I will recover, I am recovering, each and everyday I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitation I will every encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources.
Hello everybody,
I am just getting back to read all of your posts. Sorry I haven't posted for a couple days, I lost track of myself for half a day. I had a wonderful day on Wednesday, I was able to exercise and meditate, I also cleaned the livingroom, which was a huge mess. Since my son came back home, I had clutter all over the house. I was able to clear 1 room, and I felt great about it.
Yesterday it started as a good day, I started my day with a lot of energy, taking care of a few things that had been sitting there for weeks. My husband called to let me know that he was planning on going fishing with my son this weekend. They will leave tonight and come back tomorrow night. He asked me if it was ok, and I said yes. However that sent my mind rushing and the anxiety started again. I listened to lesson 3, however I was not able to concentrate. My mind was uneasy. The anxiety did not get out of control, and I didn't have to take any xanax, which made me feel good. The idea of spending the night alone scared me and I started what iffing. I didn't wanted to think too much about it, however the feeling was there.
I said that I lost myself because that is the feeling, like loosing time or remember things as a dream. Has anyone felt like this?.
My husband came home last night and asked me to help him at the print shop today, his secretary is on vacation and he has some billing that needs to be done. So now I am facing two fears, 1. to go to the print shop, and 2. spending the night alone.
I know I can do it, however the fear of the fear is getting to me.
Hello everybody,
I am just getting back to read all of your posts. Sorry I haven't posted for a couple days, I lost track of myself for half a day. I had a wonderful day on Wednesday, I was able to exercise and meditate, I also cleaned the livingroom, which was a huge mess. Since my son came back home, I had clutter all over the house. I was able to clear 1 room, and I felt great about it.
Yesterday it started as a good day, I started my day with a lot of energy, taking care of a few things that had been sitting there for weeks. My husband called to let me know that he was planning on going fishing with my son this weekend. They will leave tonight and come back tomorrow night. He asked me if it was ok, and I said yes. However that sent my mind rushing and the anxiety started again. I listened to lesson 3, however I was not able to concentrate. My mind was uneasy. The anxiety did not get out of control, and I didn't have to take any xanax, which made me feel good. The idea of spending the night alone scared me and I started what iffing. I didn't wanted to think too much about it, however the feeling was there.
I said that I lost myself because that is the feeling, like loosing time or remember things as a dream. Has anyone felt like this?.
My husband came home last night and asked me to help him at the print shop today, his secretary is on vacation and he has some billing that needs to be done. So now I am facing two fears, 1. to go to the print shop, and 2. spending the night alone.
I know I can do it, however the fear of the fear is getting to me.
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Guest
I will recover, I am recovering, each and everyday I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitation I will every encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources.
Mike,
I agree with you about not letting the goals become expectations. It is so easy to start feeling pressure if I don't exercise one day or two. I will keep in mind that it is a goal, not a rule.
Good job!
You were able to keep your anxiety down while doing the shiatsu and the hip-hop. I can relate to the way the mind has a hard time to focus.
Your goals for the week are great, facing the things that make us anxious is the way to success, I know sometimes the idea of facing stuff is enough to make the anxiety go up. Maybe, besides writting down the negative thinking, we could write down every time that we are able to face an anxious situation.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves time to process our progress. Instead of keep pushing to accomplish more, it is nice to stop and "smell the roses", and enjoy the moment.
Mike, sometimes it is not easy to get over the anxiety. This is a process and we will have good and bad days. I completly understand the feeling of using the 6 steps and feeling little relief. We both did very good during a couple days and maybe we felt dissappointed because we didn't keep it up. One day at a time, we have to remember that we are in the path of recovery. It is a process.
Slow down, take time to "smell the roses".
Hope
Mike,
I agree with you about not letting the goals become expectations. It is so easy to start feeling pressure if I don't exercise one day or two. I will keep in mind that it is a goal, not a rule.
Good job!
You were able to keep your anxiety down while doing the shiatsu and the hip-hop. I can relate to the way the mind has a hard time to focus. Your goals for the week are great, facing the things that make us anxious is the way to success, I know sometimes the idea of facing stuff is enough to make the anxiety go up. Maybe, besides writting down the negative thinking, we could write down every time that we are able to face an anxious situation.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves time to process our progress. Instead of keep pushing to accomplish more, it is nice to stop and "smell the roses", and enjoy the moment.
Mike, sometimes it is not easy to get over the anxiety. This is a process and we will have good and bad days. I completly understand the feeling of using the 6 steps and feeling little relief. We both did very good during a couple days and maybe we felt dissappointed because we didn't keep it up. One day at a time, we have to remember that we are in the path of recovery. It is a process.
Slow down, take time to "smell the roses".
Hope
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I will recover, I am recovering, each and everyday I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitations I will ever encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources.
First of all I wanted to say its pretty cool to see people's diffrent variations of the quote. These quotes are better if you can add your own words to it.
Lindalee
I'm glad they helped because you did seem really discouraged. I had read your post and the first thing that came to mind was that story Lucinda said about that one lady who hadn't drove for a few years and she decided to get into the car and attempt to drive. Things didn't go the way she had expected and she dumped all over herself about how bad she did and then Lucinda had told her to look at what she is saying and pointed out the things she did right and that she should be praising herself. I could see you doing something similar. This is what makes the challenge so great that we can give each other this kind of support and what would have happened if you didn't recieve this support and shown how irrational your thoughts were? Now how motivated do you feel before you went through this problem and now after you read the encouraging thoughts? On top of that, everybody who is reading these posts will see how you went through this struggle and will be more likely inspired with a similar situation and saw how you reacted before and after the positive self-talk of others. If any of us can give ourselves this same kind of self-talk we can make ourselves feel just as good.
I've had that same problem with the breathing before especially if i'm walking or standing. That is a good response you take to overcome that issue.
Mike
First of all I wanted to say its pretty cool to see people's diffrent variations of the quote. These quotes are better if you can add your own words to it.
Lindalee
I'm glad they helped because you did seem really discouraged. I had read your post and the first thing that came to mind was that story Lucinda said about that one lady who hadn't drove for a few years and she decided to get into the car and attempt to drive. Things didn't go the way she had expected and she dumped all over herself about how bad she did and then Lucinda had told her to look at what she is saying and pointed out the things she did right and that she should be praising herself. I could see you doing something similar. This is what makes the challenge so great that we can give each other this kind of support and what would have happened if you didn't recieve this support and shown how irrational your thoughts were? Now how motivated do you feel before you went through this problem and now after you read the encouraging thoughts? On top of that, everybody who is reading these posts will see how you went through this struggle and will be more likely inspired with a similar situation and saw how you reacted before and after the positive self-talk of others. If any of us can give ourselves this same kind of self-talk we can make ourselves feel just as good.
I've had that same problem with the breathing before especially if i'm walking or standing. That is a good response you take to overcome that issue.
Mike
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I will recover, I am recovering, each and everyday I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitations I will ever encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources.
Searunner
Are you pulling a me and pushing yourself too hard?
Very well said. Perfection really isn't a real goal and it saps the joy of growing and becoming better. Perfection is a fixed idea which doesn't allow growth. Why not feel satisfied where you are and as you improve feel even more satisfied? Thats much more motivating and productive. Perfection is an expensive thing to work towards.
mcshope
Thats great you didn't need to take the xanax. Sounds like being alone scares you and maybe it would be a good idea to work through those thoughts. Have you tried doing the so what-ifs?
IE So what-if i'm alone for the night, its only one night. I'll feel anxious, I'll get through it and tomorrow it will be back to how it was.
Dr.David D Burns had something very useful to address this kinda thing. He suggested to do activities alone and keep track of the level of satisfaction. So you would make a column chart where you would put the date, the activity, the assumed level of satisfaction and then the actual satisfaction. You write down the activity and how satisfied you expect to be and then fill in how you actually felt doing it. Its a real eye opener.
So you are in a situation where you have to face your limitations. You know you can do it and I know you can do it. What is your plan of action to handle it? Do you have people you can call or talk to on msn if you need to? You could also post on here if need be.
thank you for the encouragement with my shiatsu and hip-hop. I have generalized anxiety and so I have a huge struggle focusing the whole day. I think I could also benefit from LindaLee's post about constantly reminding myself that this condition makes it hard to focus and do things as well as I'd like. Also about how its not an easy condition to live with. I agree with Carolyn and Ken in the tapes where this can be easier to give positive words to others to make them feel better. Its anxiety, its not me.
Yes i'm actually trying to get my anxiety to go up so I can use my skills to bring it down so i'm not as afraid of it. I've started to write down those situations where I handle those kinds of situations. I call it my practice opportunity section, I did that after reading one of Searunner's posts. It is much more satisfying for me as I've avoided facing my limitations or so I thought, everytime I went through the program before and it discouraged me to the point of giving up and stopping where i was with the program.
Your right so very often we don't appreciate or spend time feeling joy for our accomplishments. When we link up our sense of worth to our accomplishments we tend to just see the next mountain after we have climbed the first one, not taking much pleasure in all that climbing. Its a really dull feeling and stopping to appreciate it makes life just so much better! Good advice. I guess i'm still fighting the idea of the anxiety and still worried that the panic is a sign that terrible things are going to happen. Maybe then it would be good to reflect on the accomplishments so far from when we started the challenge.
Mike
Searunner
Are you pulling a me and pushing yourself too hard?
Very well said. Perfection really isn't a real goal and it saps the joy of growing and becoming better. Perfection is a fixed idea which doesn't allow growth. Why not feel satisfied where you are and as you improve feel even more satisfied? Thats much more motivating and productive. Perfection is an expensive thing to work towards.
mcshope
Thats great you didn't need to take the xanax. Sounds like being alone scares you and maybe it would be a good idea to work through those thoughts. Have you tried doing the so what-ifs?
IE So what-if i'm alone for the night, its only one night. I'll feel anxious, I'll get through it and tomorrow it will be back to how it was.
Dr.David D Burns had something very useful to address this kinda thing. He suggested to do activities alone and keep track of the level of satisfaction. So you would make a column chart where you would put the date, the activity, the assumed level of satisfaction and then the actual satisfaction. You write down the activity and how satisfied you expect to be and then fill in how you actually felt doing it. Its a real eye opener.
So you are in a situation where you have to face your limitations. You know you can do it and I know you can do it. What is your plan of action to handle it? Do you have people you can call or talk to on msn if you need to? You could also post on here if need be.
thank you for the encouragement with my shiatsu and hip-hop. I have generalized anxiety and so I have a huge struggle focusing the whole day. I think I could also benefit from LindaLee's post about constantly reminding myself that this condition makes it hard to focus and do things as well as I'd like. Also about how its not an easy condition to live with. I agree with Carolyn and Ken in the tapes where this can be easier to give positive words to others to make them feel better. Its anxiety, its not me.
Yes i'm actually trying to get my anxiety to go up so I can use my skills to bring it down so i'm not as afraid of it. I've started to write down those situations where I handle those kinds of situations. I call it my practice opportunity section, I did that after reading one of Searunner's posts. It is much more satisfying for me as I've avoided facing my limitations or so I thought, everytime I went through the program before and it discouraged me to the point of giving up and stopping where i was with the program.
Your right so very often we don't appreciate or spend time feeling joy for our accomplishments. When we link up our sense of worth to our accomplishments we tend to just see the next mountain after we have climbed the first one, not taking much pleasure in all that climbing. Its a really dull feeling and stopping to appreciate it makes life just so much better! Good advice. I guess i'm still fighting the idea of the anxiety and still worried that the panic is a sign that terrible things are going to happen. Maybe then it would be good to reflect on the accomplishments so far from when we started the challenge.
Mike
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I will recover, I am recovering, each and everyday I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face any problem or limitations I will ever encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and I can access more and more of my inner resources.
Friday
Sleep
Got to bed at 12:30ish and quickly did the progressive muscle relaxation and some breathing techniques and then fell asleep within 10 minutes. I had also decided to take only 1 of the trazadone instead of 2. I woke up in the middle of the night for some reason and went to sleep quickly. That usually doesn't happen but has happened the last couple of days. Well I feel more positive than the last 2 days and a little more energy. I woke up around 9am.
Comment
Feeling more optimistic today however I faced one of my limitations when I started to transfer information from that one old workout journal to the other. I didn't do it for too long and I suddenly got that "puddling" feeling that Carolyn was talking about. I obsessed about how exhausted i was feeling and was fighting it which actually kept it alive longer. I'm afraid of being exhausted more than anything else. It scares me but I know that I need to accept this and work with it. I may feel exhausted but I'm not completely out of commission and I am going to take my time with things and underload my day. I am however really confused, its not good to push yourself too much but its not good not to push yourself at all...where is that line between enough and too much?
Practice opporunity
1)While transfering info into my new journal, I had did it for 17min and I had the constant thought that I don't want to do this. I got exhausted by that 17 minute mark and did the 6 steps.
I recognized it was anxiety. I then said to myself "Of course I feel this way, I have pushed myself into doing many activities for hours on end in the past while disregarding how stressed and overwhelmed I felt while doing so." Then I did the breathing..in for 2 and out for 4 (counting in 1-1 thousands) then told myself "I'm in control of my actions, I'm in control of how long I do any activity and I give myself permission to relax when I need to"
This made me feel a little more energetic, a bit less anxious and stressed. I went and did approximately another 10 minutes before getting exhausted again and then I stopped and used the Wayne Dyer chanting but I kept focusing on how exhausted I felt and so it really didn't make me feel that much better.
2)I saw a picture of someone I know with a couple of my friends at a party that i wasn't invited to. One of those friends I hadn't seen in awhile and I felt that he hasn't made any time to hangout with me. People choose where they spend time and we used to hangout every weekend last year. Anyways its made me feel really angry, I feel that way because I hate feeling left out and it just reminds me of how I was treated by my family. Anyways I thought back to something i had heard in lesson 3 cd. Lucinda said no matter how weak, tired, depressed or whatever you are, you are still ok. So I told myself that, no matter how sad I feel or if i'm not with those people I am still ok. I applied this to my exhaustion as well and I feel good about myself for not pushing me into doing things when I'm exhausted. Thats something I'm going to keep reminding myself and maybe even put it somewhere in next week's quote. No matter how bad, sad, anxious, depressed, exhausted, tired or weak I feel, i'm still ok.
Relaxation
Relaxation cd in the am;
I was able to focus more on what was being said. I think i was focused on it for 60-70% of the time which felt good. I had some intrusive anger thoughts come up but I didn't stay with them for too long. It relaxed me more than the last 2 days.
Wayne Dyer morning chant;
I kept obsessing over how exhausted I felt so it didn't really help me out too much.
Negative thoughts
1)I'm going to get exhausted if I do the things I want to do and then it'll drag on for the whole day.
->It has been a common occuranace to become exhausted but that doesn't mean it'll always happen and it doesn't mean it would drag on for the whole day. I'm going to underload my day, deal with 1 moment at a time and relax if I get too overwhelmed or exhausted. If it drags on then I'll take it easy and float with it and I'll feel better the next day.
2)He should have appologized. I had the decency to appologize but he just justifies treating me like crap.
->I deserve to have my feelings respected but that isn't going to always happen. This is his problem, not mine and it doesn't reflect me or my worth. Nobody is perfect.
3)I won't be able to get a job, I'm not getting better.
->Some days feel like I'm not making progress or getting better but feelings aren't fact. I have made many accomplishments and will make many more and its impossible to not make progress with the effort I put into recovery. I'm not ready to get a job but eventually I will be.
4)I'm not doing good enough for lesson 3, I should be overcoming anxiety whenever I have it.
->I'm doing really great and putting in alot of hard work. I don't have to master this skill right away. I have my whole life to do that. I still get benefits from my efforts and there are times they help alot and others not so much. The more I practice the better i become.
5)I won't be ready to handle all my limitations when the program tells me that i'm ready. I'll be too exhausted.
->I choose and always will be in charge of which limitations to work on and when. I don't need to work on all of them all at once, that'll just overwhelm me. I'm already facing my limitations and this is a good level to do it at in any part of the program. I also cannot handle the future right now because so many things can happen. I can only deal with the present and what I'm doing now will prepare me for the future so there is no reason to use fear to try to prepare.
6)I'll be too exhausted to go out for that get together tonight.
->My fats is not sealed when it comes to my energy level. I choose what I do and I know the exhaustion is from what I think so I choose to think positive thoughts and relax before getting too overwhelmed.
7)This exhaustion is not going away, It's too much and I cannot handle it. How long is it going to last?
->So what-if i'm exhausted right now? It is just my mind sending me the message that i'm overwhelmed and to rest. How I respond will determine how long I drag the feeling on for and even if I drag it on for the rest of the day, I can still get through the day. I'll just feel really uncomfortable while doing that. I'm going to relax and do nothing, not even the relaxation cd and that will help to make me feel better.
Mike
Friday
Sleep
Got to bed at 12:30ish and quickly did the progressive muscle relaxation and some breathing techniques and then fell asleep within 10 minutes. I had also decided to take only 1 of the trazadone instead of 2. I woke up in the middle of the night for some reason and went to sleep quickly. That usually doesn't happen but has happened the last couple of days. Well I feel more positive than the last 2 days and a little more energy. I woke up around 9am.
Comment
Feeling more optimistic today however I faced one of my limitations when I started to transfer information from that one old workout journal to the other. I didn't do it for too long and I suddenly got that "puddling" feeling that Carolyn was talking about. I obsessed about how exhausted i was feeling and was fighting it which actually kept it alive longer. I'm afraid of being exhausted more than anything else. It scares me but I know that I need to accept this and work with it. I may feel exhausted but I'm not completely out of commission and I am going to take my time with things and underload my day. I am however really confused, its not good to push yourself too much but its not good not to push yourself at all...where is that line between enough and too much?
Practice opporunity
1)While transfering info into my new journal, I had did it for 17min and I had the constant thought that I don't want to do this. I got exhausted by that 17 minute mark and did the 6 steps.
I recognized it was anxiety. I then said to myself "Of course I feel this way, I have pushed myself into doing many activities for hours on end in the past while disregarding how stressed and overwhelmed I felt while doing so." Then I did the breathing..in for 2 and out for 4 (counting in 1-1 thousands) then told myself "I'm in control of my actions, I'm in control of how long I do any activity and I give myself permission to relax when I need to"
This made me feel a little more energetic, a bit less anxious and stressed. I went and did approximately another 10 minutes before getting exhausted again and then I stopped and used the Wayne Dyer chanting but I kept focusing on how exhausted I felt and so it really didn't make me feel that much better.
2)I saw a picture of someone I know with a couple of my friends at a party that i wasn't invited to. One of those friends I hadn't seen in awhile and I felt that he hasn't made any time to hangout with me. People choose where they spend time and we used to hangout every weekend last year. Anyways its made me feel really angry, I feel that way because I hate feeling left out and it just reminds me of how I was treated by my family. Anyways I thought back to something i had heard in lesson 3 cd. Lucinda said no matter how weak, tired, depressed or whatever you are, you are still ok. So I told myself that, no matter how sad I feel or if i'm not with those people I am still ok. I applied this to my exhaustion as well and I feel good about myself for not pushing me into doing things when I'm exhausted. Thats something I'm going to keep reminding myself and maybe even put it somewhere in next week's quote. No matter how bad, sad, anxious, depressed, exhausted, tired or weak I feel, i'm still ok.
Relaxation
Relaxation cd in the am;
I was able to focus more on what was being said. I think i was focused on it for 60-70% of the time which felt good. I had some intrusive anger thoughts come up but I didn't stay with them for too long. It relaxed me more than the last 2 days.
Wayne Dyer morning chant;
I kept obsessing over how exhausted I felt so it didn't really help me out too much.
Negative thoughts
1)I'm going to get exhausted if I do the things I want to do and then it'll drag on for the whole day.
->It has been a common occuranace to become exhausted but that doesn't mean it'll always happen and it doesn't mean it would drag on for the whole day. I'm going to underload my day, deal with 1 moment at a time and relax if I get too overwhelmed or exhausted. If it drags on then I'll take it easy and float with it and I'll feel better the next day.
2)He should have appologized. I had the decency to appologize but he just justifies treating me like crap.
->I deserve to have my feelings respected but that isn't going to always happen. This is his problem, not mine and it doesn't reflect me or my worth. Nobody is perfect.
3)I won't be able to get a job, I'm not getting better.
->Some days feel like I'm not making progress or getting better but feelings aren't fact. I have made many accomplishments and will make many more and its impossible to not make progress with the effort I put into recovery. I'm not ready to get a job but eventually I will be.
4)I'm not doing good enough for lesson 3, I should be overcoming anxiety whenever I have it.
->I'm doing really great and putting in alot of hard work. I don't have to master this skill right away. I have my whole life to do that. I still get benefits from my efforts and there are times they help alot and others not so much. The more I practice the better i become.
5)I won't be ready to handle all my limitations when the program tells me that i'm ready. I'll be too exhausted.
->I choose and always will be in charge of which limitations to work on and when. I don't need to work on all of them all at once, that'll just overwhelm me. I'm already facing my limitations and this is a good level to do it at in any part of the program. I also cannot handle the future right now because so many things can happen. I can only deal with the present and what I'm doing now will prepare me for the future so there is no reason to use fear to try to prepare.
6)I'll be too exhausted to go out for that get together tonight.
->My fats is not sealed when it comes to my energy level. I choose what I do and I know the exhaustion is from what I think so I choose to think positive thoughts and relax before getting too overwhelmed.
7)This exhaustion is not going away, It's too much and I cannot handle it. How long is it going to last?
->So what-if i'm exhausted right now? It is just my mind sending me the message that i'm overwhelmed and to rest. How I respond will determine how long I drag the feeling on for and even if I drag it on for the rest of the day, I can still get through the day. I'll just feel really uncomfortable while doing that. I'm going to relax and do nothing, not even the relaxation cd and that will help to make me feel better.
Mike
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MCSHope
I was anxious at first when my husband was out of town overnight. Maybe what I did could help you. I rented some chick flick movies that my husband didn't want to watch, and enjoyed them. I also bought me a book of crosswords- something I enjoy doing so I could distract myself by doing something fun. When it came time to sleep, I turned a fan on to have noise so I wouldn't hear so many of those little noises every house makes that mean nothing. I also reminded myself that many women I knew lived alone all the time and nothing bad has happened to them- my mother, mother-in-law, girlfriend, etc. I also have a dog, who is a lot of company, and if I hear a noise and wonder "what's that?" I look at him sound asleep and know its a noise that must be very common that I wouldn't normally notice.
As Mike and others have said, these anxious times can be practice opportunites. I know you can do it.
Mike
I remember that story Lucinda tells, and I didn't see I was doing the same thing. Thanks for helping me see that. Without the support of this group I would have catagorized that day as almost a total failure and I wanted to give up trying, but today it wasn't a perfect day but I did the most important things well, the job was accomplished and no one got hurt.
I can relate to your fear of exhaustion, I have done that to myself in the past, and today I often fear or just put off starting a big project, because I fear I will exhaust myself or let other important things go when I'm wrapped up in the project. Keep allowing youself to rest when you need to and I'm sure you will learn to trust yourself not to overdo.
I hope you have a great get together tonight, let yourself enjoy!
Searunner
thanks for the reminder that perfection is not a real goal, I really need to let that sink in, and reevaluate my goals in that light.
I was anxious at first when my husband was out of town overnight. Maybe what I did could help you. I rented some chick flick movies that my husband didn't want to watch, and enjoyed them. I also bought me a book of crosswords- something I enjoy doing so I could distract myself by doing something fun. When it came time to sleep, I turned a fan on to have noise so I wouldn't hear so many of those little noises every house makes that mean nothing. I also reminded myself that many women I knew lived alone all the time and nothing bad has happened to them- my mother, mother-in-law, girlfriend, etc. I also have a dog, who is a lot of company, and if I hear a noise and wonder "what's that?" I look at him sound asleep and know its a noise that must be very common that I wouldn't normally notice.
As Mike and others have said, these anxious times can be practice opportunites. I know you can do it.
Mike
I remember that story Lucinda tells, and I didn't see I was doing the same thing. Thanks for helping me see that. Without the support of this group I would have catagorized that day as almost a total failure and I wanted to give up trying, but today it wasn't a perfect day but I did the most important things well, the job was accomplished and no one got hurt.
I can relate to your fear of exhaustion, I have done that to myself in the past, and today I often fear or just put off starting a big project, because I fear I will exhaust myself or let other important things go when I'm wrapped up in the project. Keep allowing youself to rest when you need to and I'm sure you will learn to trust yourself not to overdo.
I hope you have a great get together tonight, let yourself enjoy!
Searunner
thanks for the reminder that perfection is not a real goal, I really need to let that sink in, and reevaluate my goals in that light.
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Lindalee
Its not as easy to realize that we are doing the same thing as what that lady did. Experience is a great way to get the idea stuck in your head that you may be doing that. You are more likely to ask yourself if you are doing that when you do. It was a great experience that life gave you.
Yeah i get worried about exhausting myself all the time and Im working on the relaxation stuff.
I'm sure it'll go well.
for all
I figured this was really appropriate for our group
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cPZv3ghHj0
I've been told i'm dramatic and well I guess I am and here is a video to prove it!
Mike
Its not as easy to realize that we are doing the same thing as what that lady did. Experience is a great way to get the idea stuck in your head that you may be doing that. You are more likely to ask yourself if you are doing that when you do. It was a great experience that life gave you.
Yeah i get worried about exhausting myself all the time and Im working on the relaxation stuff.
I'm sure it'll go well.
for all
I figured this was really appropriate for our group
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6cPZv3ghHj0
I've been told i'm dramatic and well I guess I am and here is a video to prove it!
Mike
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Guest
Good song Mike. 
It is a older song and the "Pretenders" did it too. I like both ways. Here's the one I remember.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maAyfcO-X3k
Very fitting. very nice... you have a soft spot!
It looks like Everyone is doing well with all their work. Be proud all!!!
Me too!
It is a older song and the "Pretenders" did it too. I like both ways. Here's the one I remember.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maAyfcO-X3k
Very fitting. very nice... you have a soft spot!
It looks like Everyone is doing well with all their work. Be proud all!!!
Me too!
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Guest
I will recover, I am recovering, each and every fay I am more recovered. I have everything I need inside of me in order to recover and face the limitations I encounter. Each day I become stronger with my skills and can access more and more of my inner skills. Life is good!
Hi everyone....Im Karen......just finished up lesson 2 and am playing catch up
I wrote a lil bit about me in the last lesson
nice to meet everyone
Hi everyone....Im Karen......just finished up lesson 2 and am playing catch up
I wrote a lil bit about me in the last lesson
nice to meet everyone