Karma Karma Karma !!!!
Is "person 1 and 2" the same as "thing 1 and 2" ? I agree with the above posts. You work with 5 year olds. It doesn't seem that it should be a big deal. If you didn't get called into the big boss's office after all of that, then there was no need for the "throw-up-y" feeling. I'm looking forward to hearing about the continuing saga of "As The Karma Turns" LOL.
Work was interesting today. My boss snapped about something so ridiculous that I almost burst out laughing ! He seems to be snapping at everyone now. He needs to control himself when the pressure is on. We have some jobs that are due at the end of February and we may not be able to meet the deadline. It may need another week. Poor planning from the start, I guess. I don't know how I'm going to deal with ol' Crankypants until the end of February ! I'm really going to need to restrain myself.
How was today ?????
life is good - and it's a long post!
Yes Karma how was your day? I am dying to know. Okay not dying literally but curious/nosey haha.
I mean did you need to take pepper spray or a taser to work? Or did you just give out the old
"Serenity Now!" holler?
Man the old "Serenity Now" phrase does work, I used to say it around my old crankypants boss and I got her to Laugh and chill. I tend to use humor to break those tense moments...yes it's been known to backfire but 99% of the time it does work at easing things haha
Take care you two. It's a crazy loco world we live in isn't it? But would I trade it with someone in Haiti right now? Ummmmm No!
I mean did you need to take pepper spray or a taser to work? Or did you just give out the old
"Serenity Now!" holler?
Man the old "Serenity Now" phrase does work, I used to say it around my old crankypants boss and I got her to Laugh and chill. I tend to use humor to break those tense moments...yes it's been known to backfire but 99% of the time it does work at easing things haha
Take care you two. It's a crazy loco world we live in isn't it? But would I trade it with someone in Haiti right now? Ummmmm No!
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karmaberry1
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thank you all so very much for caring - you know how much it means!
not a word was said today by anyone about anything. when i went in today it was with no anxiety or throw up feelings. i was ready for anything. and the anything never happened. could it possibly happen down the road tomorrow or next week or month? you bet it could.
i've had things said to me months after the fact. and i've responded - sometimes i just wont't (not can't) stop myself - with "if it was that important, why is this being brought up now and not then?"
small things like that - and trust me, it was smaller than small - will take on a life of its own in that environment. i honestly don't know why but some appear to really and truly thrive in that type in that manner.
i - as you could tell in my last post - simply can't abide that kind of behavior. i call it bully behavior. and so incredibly high school. i don't want to be the most popular - i don't want to be teacher's pet - i just want to be left alone. and if i'm not doing a good job - then tell me what you want and i will achieve that goal. it's simple. i hate competition - really hate it.
so today was an incredibly good day - no trauma, no drama. i had lunch with a good friend - we split a "big salad" LOLOL my life is a seinfeld episode. we talked and laughed about this that and the other. she doesn't work in my department but knows all the players and just shook her head. get it? players?
so man of mine - i mean man of music LOL - you are truly the man in that you have been able to totally adjust to your work environment and realize it for what it is - a place with an unhappy man in charge - and you don't take it to heart or personally. you are my hero LOL and while i laughed at that, i mean it with all my heart.
you are able to walk the walk and talk the talk. with deep breathing and trying to unknot my shoulders yesterday, i couldn't get to the walk and talk stage. i do know so very much of it had to do with 8 years of the things. my sister likened me to a battered wife a few years ago. she was right.
but i tell you this - this battered wife never went down for the count and isn't going to now! people are who they are and most won't change. why should they? their lives have worked out just fine for them this long. the only thing i can change is my reaction to their actions. while i know that somewhere in my rational sane mind - and yes i do have one in here somwhere - yesterday it was beyond me to get to a different reaction. next time - and yes there will be a next time - i'll somehow manage to remember to remember maybe LOL at me
i lived through last night and i had a happy, positive, upbeat day. everyone i interacted with was nice, friendly and fun.
they - whoever they are - say what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. i lived.
again, thank you all so much!!!!!
not a word was said today by anyone about anything. when i went in today it was with no anxiety or throw up feelings. i was ready for anything. and the anything never happened. could it possibly happen down the road tomorrow or next week or month? you bet it could.
i've had things said to me months after the fact. and i've responded - sometimes i just wont't (not can't) stop myself - with "if it was that important, why is this being brought up now and not then?"
small things like that - and trust me, it was smaller than small - will take on a life of its own in that environment. i honestly don't know why but some appear to really and truly thrive in that type in that manner.
i - as you could tell in my last post - simply can't abide that kind of behavior. i call it bully behavior. and so incredibly high school. i don't want to be the most popular - i don't want to be teacher's pet - i just want to be left alone. and if i'm not doing a good job - then tell me what you want and i will achieve that goal. it's simple. i hate competition - really hate it.
so today was an incredibly good day - no trauma, no drama. i had lunch with a good friend - we split a "big salad" LOLOL my life is a seinfeld episode. we talked and laughed about this that and the other. she doesn't work in my department but knows all the players and just shook her head. get it? players?
so man of mine - i mean man of music LOL - you are truly the man in that you have been able to totally adjust to your work environment and realize it for what it is - a place with an unhappy man in charge - and you don't take it to heart or personally. you are my hero LOL and while i laughed at that, i mean it with all my heart.
you are able to walk the walk and talk the talk. with deep breathing and trying to unknot my shoulders yesterday, i couldn't get to the walk and talk stage. i do know so very much of it had to do with 8 years of the things. my sister likened me to a battered wife a few years ago. she was right.
but i tell you this - this battered wife never went down for the count and isn't going to now! people are who they are and most won't change. why should they? their lives have worked out just fine for them this long. the only thing i can change is my reaction to their actions. while i know that somewhere in my rational sane mind - and yes i do have one in here somwhere - yesterday it was beyond me to get to a different reaction. next time - and yes there will be a next time - i'll somehow manage to remember to remember maybe LOL at me
i lived through last night and i had a happy, positive, upbeat day. everyone i interacted with was nice, friendly and fun.
they - whoever they are - say what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. i lived.
again, thank you all so much!!!!!
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manofmusic
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Karma !
It sounds like we work at the same place. The bully behaviour is something I can't and won't tolerate. I will walk away from that. Some people get a thrill from chaos and I'm not one of those. Like you, I like to go into work to just work. I hate competition as well. Unfortunately, some people I work with like to feel they're better than others in every way. I chose to ignore that and just do my work. I found that when I ignore and just concentrate on what I need to, I make much fewer mistakes. I also find that I'm more relaxed. There are times that the overgrown brats like to play the fool, and when they do, they go way overboard with it. It gets to the point where I need to go for a walk out into the shop.
Tomorrow is Friday and I'm going to make a point of going into "weekend mode" as soon as I wake up tomorrow. Even though I work tomorrow, there are no rules stating that my mind can't start the weekend early ! LOL So I'm going to. I haven't had a 3 day weekend in a little while, so I'm going to have one this weekend.
I'm going into work relaxed and in "weekend mode" !!!!!!!
But first, I WILL have breakfast before I leave.
Tomorrow will be an excellent day and we will leave work tomorrow with a smile on our face !!!
It sounds like we work at the same place. The bully behaviour is something I can't and won't tolerate. I will walk away from that. Some people get a thrill from chaos and I'm not one of those. Like you, I like to go into work to just work. I hate competition as well. Unfortunately, some people I work with like to feel they're better than others in every way. I chose to ignore that and just do my work. I found that when I ignore and just concentrate on what I need to, I make much fewer mistakes. I also find that I'm more relaxed. There are times that the overgrown brats like to play the fool, and when they do, they go way overboard with it. It gets to the point where I need to go for a walk out into the shop.
Tomorrow is Friday and I'm going to make a point of going into "weekend mode" as soon as I wake up tomorrow. Even though I work tomorrow, there are no rules stating that my mind can't start the weekend early ! LOL So I'm going to. I haven't had a 3 day weekend in a little while, so I'm going to have one this weekend.
I'm going into work relaxed and in "weekend mode" !!!!!!!
But first, I WILL have breakfast before I leave.
Tomorrow will be an excellent day and we will leave work tomorrow with a smile on our face !!!
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karmaberry1
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you bet your boots we'll go into work with a smile on our faces!!!! why not? we RULE!!!! LOL
it's amazing the "alikeness" of so many in this thread. no patience with bullying, high school theatrics, trauma/drama, etc. et al., blah blah blah and yada yada yada LOL
i actually managed to forget this morning i was scared. or i forgot to remember. whatever! i think a big reason for that was i'm just tired of it all. would i dare say that out loud at work? oh yes. and the thing is, i really like most of the people i interact with daily. i promise i do.
it's just the nonsense i don't like. well you just read it so i'll not both re- and over-state it yet again LOL
you're lucky in that you can get up and go into the shop to get away. before we moved to this new building i could do that too. now my work area has to be covered at all times and it's out in the open. hence, if i'm not there it's known. the good part is that i'm covered twice a day - for a morning and afternoon break - and at lunch.
while i've becoming a savant at forgetting to remember - this i will remember. i'm good with the people i deal with both on the phone and in person. i handle their wants and needs with kid gloves. i'm never impatient with them. i'm kind, caring and understanding. i do this because they matter - just like i/we do. i make a difference - a positive difference.
i've already got my smile in place for tomorrow!!! LOL
it's amazing the "alikeness" of so many in this thread. no patience with bullying, high school theatrics, trauma/drama, etc. et al., blah blah blah and yada yada yada LOL
i actually managed to forget this morning i was scared. or i forgot to remember. whatever! i think a big reason for that was i'm just tired of it all. would i dare say that out loud at work? oh yes. and the thing is, i really like most of the people i interact with daily. i promise i do.
it's just the nonsense i don't like. well you just read it so i'll not both re- and over-state it yet again LOL
you're lucky in that you can get up and go into the shop to get away. before we moved to this new building i could do that too. now my work area has to be covered at all times and it's out in the open. hence, if i'm not there it's known. the good part is that i'm covered twice a day - for a morning and afternoon break - and at lunch.
while i've becoming a savant at forgetting to remember - this i will remember. i'm good with the people i deal with both on the phone and in person. i handle their wants and needs with kid gloves. i'm never impatient with them. i'm kind, caring and understanding. i do this because they matter - just like i/we do. i make a difference - a positive difference.
i've already got my smile in place for tomorrow!!! LOL
That is great Karma.
"Ain't no thang" right?
I can't stand that bully behavior either. Turns me off, totally and completely. I've got a few relatives like that, NOT fun!
I think a lot of is related to entitlement. Some peeps just think that they are entitled to claim whatever they are claiming over others. They don't respect others and can't understand that we all have a choice to do what we want, and we are not puppets.
They think they can do what they want and say what they want and that they are always "right", and there is no argument!
I love that you guys are so unaffected at work. Makes me think of the way I feel after I take a Happy Camper during a stressful time in my life. They give me an "I don't care" or indifferently happy feeling, like you've written here.
I can't believe it's going to be Friday already. Have a wonderful day at work tomorrow!
"Ain't no thang" right?
I can't stand that bully behavior either. Turns me off, totally and completely. I've got a few relatives like that, NOT fun!
I think a lot of is related to entitlement. Some peeps just think that they are entitled to claim whatever they are claiming over others. They don't respect others and can't understand that we all have a choice to do what we want, and we are not puppets.
They think they can do what they want and say what they want and that they are always "right", and there is no argument!
I love that you guys are so unaffected at work. Makes me think of the way I feel after I take a Happy Camper during a stressful time in my life. They give me an "I don't care" or indifferently happy feeling, like you've written here.
I can't believe it's going to be Friday already. Have a wonderful day at work tomorrow!
Shif.
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.
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karmaberry1
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well kids, i made it through the rest of the week without throwing up - yay for me LOL no more weird feelings and reactions on my part.
today was a good day - but long. it was very quiet at work. i kept busy and out of everyone's way as much as i could. it's easier - and yes safer. i guess that while i am more a part of the new group, i'm still not quite in yet. that's how i feel anyway. and that's ok.
the best - yet most anticlimatic - news came from a coworker tonight. one of the people who have pushed me around to the nth degree and beyond is taking a new job out of town. she'll be gone gone gone in 2 to 3 weeks. it's such a strange feeling to know those 2 will be broken up and soon in the past. a new person will be hired with no ties or loyalties to the one left behind. this means no more being referred to as a pronoun or in the third person while i'm standing right there. no more blatant lies told about me in front of me to the boss while they both nod and affirm they are speaking a truth. and yet it was a truth in the fact that it was their truth - a truth they invented between themselves. i'm still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that part of my work life will be over. maybe tomorrow it will hit full force. again - i'm still a bit - i have no idea how to explain it. i won't miss her - and i won't ever think of her again when she's gone. i have that ability - it's a gift.
so yes, it was a good day. i'll give the week a low "a" or a "b+" LOLOL
today was a good day - but long. it was very quiet at work. i kept busy and out of everyone's way as much as i could. it's easier - and yes safer. i guess that while i am more a part of the new group, i'm still not quite in yet. that's how i feel anyway. and that's ok.
the best - yet most anticlimatic - news came from a coworker tonight. one of the people who have pushed me around to the nth degree and beyond is taking a new job out of town. she'll be gone gone gone in 2 to 3 weeks. it's such a strange feeling to know those 2 will be broken up and soon in the past. a new person will be hired with no ties or loyalties to the one left behind. this means no more being referred to as a pronoun or in the third person while i'm standing right there. no more blatant lies told about me in front of me to the boss while they both nod and affirm they are speaking a truth. and yet it was a truth in the fact that it was their truth - a truth they invented between themselves. i'm still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that part of my work life will be over. maybe tomorrow it will hit full force. again - i'm still a bit - i have no idea how to explain it. i won't miss her - and i won't ever think of her again when she's gone. i have that ability - it's a gift.
so yes, it was a good day. i'll give the week a low "a" or a "b+" LOLOL
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manofmusic
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That's good news Karma ! Like you said, you will have someone new working there in "thing 1's" place !!!!! They probably realized that they couldn't break you, so one of the "things" moved on !!!! AWESOME !!!!!! I think that just knowing that thing 1 is leaving and that you made it through what you thought was a "throw-up-y situation, this week should be an A +++++ !
You learned so much about what happens when someone is envious of you, and exactly how karma works ! (pardon the pun) LOL
This week overall for me was an A+ !!!! I learned a great deal too. I learned that I'm really beginning to not care what people think and it's an awesome feeling. I know that I give 100% every day and I'm going to make mistakes. None of the mistakes I made caused the world to stop spinning, so that's good ! LOL I figured that the amount of mistakes made is in direct proportion to the amount of work done. Fewer mistakes = not much work done. More mistakes = much work done. I don't make any more or less mistakes then anyone else there. It's an unbelieveable feeling now that I got that thru my thick head ! LOL
Today is the big move for friends of mine. I got today off of work, so I got to sleep in until 7:00 am !!! wooohooooooooooooooooooo I will be getting in a TON of exercise today because all of the big stuff gets moved today. Since I'm one of the friends with a truck, I get the honours ! LOL
Time for me to have a GOOD BREAKFAST, then I'm on my way ! This weekend, we will all have an awesome weekend. It will be either a productive or lazy weekend. Whichever you choose. Both are just fine !!!!!!
You learned so much about what happens when someone is envious of you, and exactly how karma works ! (pardon the pun) LOL
This week overall for me was an A+ !!!! I learned a great deal too. I learned that I'm really beginning to not care what people think and it's an awesome feeling. I know that I give 100% every day and I'm going to make mistakes. None of the mistakes I made caused the world to stop spinning, so that's good ! LOL I figured that the amount of mistakes made is in direct proportion to the amount of work done. Fewer mistakes = not much work done. More mistakes = much work done. I don't make any more or less mistakes then anyone else there. It's an unbelieveable feeling now that I got that thru my thick head ! LOL
Today is the big move for friends of mine. I got today off of work, so I got to sleep in until 7:00 am !!! wooohooooooooooooooooooo I will be getting in a TON of exercise today because all of the big stuff gets moved today. Since I'm one of the friends with a truck, I get the honours ! LOL
Time for me to have a GOOD BREAKFAST, then I'm on my way ! This weekend, we will all have an awesome weekend. It will be either a productive or lazy weekend. Whichever you choose. Both are just fine !!!!!!
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karmaberry1
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thank you for the a+++++++ LOL compliments are something that throw me. i know the same thing happens with so many others. i'll compliment someone on their hair, clothes, ring, etc., et al., and they almost always say "oh my hair is awful", "this old outfit?", "i should lose 15 pounds". and i always say the same thing - "just say thank you - please don't put yourself down or push aside the compliment". then i do it myself - go figure LOL so again, thank you, kind sir!
a lot of why she's leaving is due to her unhappiness with her job. a lot of her words and actions - in my opinion - came back to haunt her. also, she has a daughter and grandchild where she'll be moving. like my sister said - it's a blessing all around for everyone involved.
if the new hire is the person i've heard it could be then yay for the entire office. she's a delightful person - very kind and sweet natured. and one - get ready for this - with no hidden agenda. how great is that?
while you've been out riding fences in forward motion with your friends, it's been raining all day here. it is rumored there might be sunshine tomorrow - i hope so. i've spent the day almost motionless watching netflix movies and crocheting. the boys have allotted me a small bit of the bed to curl up on LOL
i hope you've had a great day. i'm glad you took off to help your friend. you are a true friend!!! by the way, did you get more pizza? LOL
a lot of why she's leaving is due to her unhappiness with her job. a lot of her words and actions - in my opinion - came back to haunt her. also, she has a daughter and grandchild where she'll be moving. like my sister said - it's a blessing all around for everyone involved.
if the new hire is the person i've heard it could be then yay for the entire office. she's a delightful person - very kind and sweet natured. and one - get ready for this - with no hidden agenda. how great is that?
while you've been out riding fences in forward motion with your friends, it's been raining all day here. it is rumored there might be sunshine tomorrow - i hope so. i've spent the day almost motionless watching netflix movies and crocheting. the boys have allotted me a small bit of the bed to curl up on LOL
i hope you've had a great day. i'm glad you took off to help your friend. you are a true friend!!! by the way, did you get more pizza? LOL