Thanks about the permission statement. I very often don't give myself permission to feel anything, that if looked at from another perspective, would only be normal response. The reason this is giving me more than usual fear, is the PTSD that I continue to have, since I was flooded out of my original apartment here in this same complex last February. It was absolutely horrid!And when I am packing things up now for the new move, I get flooded with those feelings, and a bit of the images also come up, as if I am reliving it.It just makes it so much more difficult to get through.
Nancy
Moving Out, An Agoraphobic Losing "Safe Place"?
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Well, I actually AM doing it, or so it seems. I went and got the papers (the application papers that is;) and then the next step will be signing the lease, and giving them the downpayment, for both the apartment, as well as for my "pet rent", which is actually very expensive!($150.00 down, and then another $50.00 every month from then on!)That has me anxious too, because I am on a fixed income, and the downpayment on the apartment isn't exactly cheap either!But I couldn't make it at all without my dog Corbin!We barely made it through the massive flooding accident just a year ago as it was. And I am still being treated for post traumatic stress disorder from last year over that, and the move also back then. Moving is the biggest stressor that I have, it reigns number 1! And when I took Corbin up there for the first time today with my friends to see the apartment for them for the first time, he didn't handle it well.I have to take the elevator, because I have two genetic birth defects in my lumbar area, as well as absolutely horrendous virtago; which means I cannot take any stairs, either up, or down.
So if you are talking about stepping outside your comfort zone, boy am I doing it in spades! And my mobility is really not that good, because of the still crippling panic attacks I get on a regular basis.I have a strong fear of heights, and I will be living on the third floor, with very large picture windows looking out on the downtown area.Won't be able to miss it. And my dog doesn't handle moves well either, nor heights either. They scare him. Plus, he will be losing his yard, and all the green grass, and trails I have been walking him on for 4 years. It is a huge change for him, and I'm not sure he can handle it. Just concrete, and alleys, etc. around him. And I'll have to walk him down two city blocks before we can even get on any grass at all. And that is in front of our county courthouse! And all the new people, and a completley new building. And lifestyle!! I will say this, if I go through with this tomorrow, I will have nothing facing me but exposure therapy, and almost continually!! I'm scared I won't be able to handle it. And for the most part, I will be there alone, unless I also break down and reach out to others, if they allow me to, that is!
If anybody else has any other ideas about how I can help myself, my sweet dog, and deal with the stress of all the packing, ( I have been throwing a lot of stuff away )please let me know! I need all the suggestions and help I can get!
Lynn Luv
So if you are talking about stepping outside your comfort zone, boy am I doing it in spades! And my mobility is really not that good, because of the still crippling panic attacks I get on a regular basis.I have a strong fear of heights, and I will be living on the third floor, with very large picture windows looking out on the downtown area.Won't be able to miss it. And my dog doesn't handle moves well either, nor heights either. They scare him. Plus, he will be losing his yard, and all the green grass, and trails I have been walking him on for 4 years. It is a huge change for him, and I'm not sure he can handle it. Just concrete, and alleys, etc. around him. And I'll have to walk him down two city blocks before we can even get on any grass at all. And that is in front of our county courthouse! And all the new people, and a completley new building. And lifestyle!! I will say this, if I go through with this tomorrow, I will have nothing facing me but exposure therapy, and almost continually!! I'm scared I won't be able to handle it. And for the most part, I will be there alone, unless I also break down and reach out to others, if they allow me to, that is!
If anybody else has any other ideas about how I can help myself, my sweet dog, and deal with the stress of all the packing, ( I have been throwing a lot of stuff away )please let me know! I need all the suggestions and help I can get!
Lynn Luv
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Sounds like if you made it thru a massive flooding in your apartment last year you can make it thru this! My cat does not like moving either and the last time I moved she cried for 10 straight days, day and night. I had to actually get something from the vet to calm her down. She did eventually adjust and now thinks she is the queen of the neighborhood. I wonder sometimes how much of my worry and anxiety rubs off on her cause we seem to have the same kind of temperment. Ha. Well, good luck to you and your friend Corbin and I will be wishing you luck in your new place.