Scared of being alone

living_4_the-future · Post by **living_4_the-future** » Mon Mar 23, 2009 10:31 am

I also freak out when my spouse is away.
I think it's mostly because when he is here, I am somewhat dependent on him, and also hes always reassuring me that i'm ok and i'm gonna be fine. I feel like he's the only one who understands, and I feel comfortable when he's around. SO when he's gone, it's just so hard to stay calm and comfortable and remember I'm okay.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 24, 2009 3:07 pm

Heatherbug...I completely understand how you feel...I have a best friend who has the very same problem...Her husband is her security, and she gets very scared if she can't contact him...
I do have to say, since, we have been friends for so long, that I am another one of her "safe people"...This is really hard for her, but, I do have to say that she has come a long way...She does stay home a lot now, while her hubby works...I am sure things will get better...By the way, my friend does not have the program...Just wanted you to know that you are not alone...God Bless....

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 25, 2009 2:09 am

I was diagnosed with agoraphobia 30 years ago when I was 18, but really it is just a fear of being alone. I can go anywhere, do anything as long as I am with someone. Basically I have a fear of passing out alone and no one will be there to help me.
So I have lived the last 30 years being sure Im not alone in or out of my house(exhausting to say the least)but extremely hard, always in a state of anxiety worrying about it. I also have friends that dont know about my problem, so that makes it a little harder too. I could write a book about the places I have had to go and things I had to do not to be alone.
I have tried therapy, but I cant go alone and it is so hard to get someone to come on a regular basis.
Im hoping this course will help me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 25, 2009 3:09 pm

Katz...I was agoraphobic for 21 years of my life...I lived in a constant panic attack...I was totally paralyzed by fear...I prayed and prayed for years for God to help me...My prayers were answered through the program...If you do the program, and use the tools; then, you will find you will recover, as I did...I would have a full blown panic attack driving 5 miles to town..I would use people's homes as landmarks (places I could stop if I couldn't go any farther)....I have never fainted from a panic attack, but, I feared that all those years...What a waste!!!! You will be fine...Just do the program...May God Bless You On Your Journey to Recovery!!!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 12:19 pm

WOW, thts great MS. T Bones

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 26, 2009 2:07 pm

Hi everyone,
I know exactly what you mean when you say you are afraid of being alone! I am also! It feels like when I am alone all this depressed thoughts and feelings come like whats the point of this or that or life or i have nothing to do and if I do I don't feel its worthful to do! When I am alone these thoughts take over me! I need some real help! how can I be content being alone?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 7:30 am

I suffer from Agoraphobia, and its just as bad T Bones. But i can't afford the program

R.T.E. · Post by **R.T.E.** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 10:45 am

Heatherbug...I am soooo sorry that you can't afford the program...If you will read through all the threads on this forum, you will find some wonderful insight from those of us, who have finished the program, as well as, those who are still working on it...If you need any extra help, please feel free to PM me...God Bless!!!

Carolyn Dickman · Post by **Carolyn Dickman** » Fri Mar 27, 2009 10:50 am

Hope you get the program!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 29, 2009 7:03 am

Hi Heatherbug if you can't afford this program there is a good workbook you can probably get from your library its called the anxiety and phobia workbook by Edmund Bourne it has the same basic ideas as this program and has some good exercises to do. I know we will get through this and one day we will be alone lol if that makes sense....