re: toxic people
I'm sure most of us, if not all of us are aware of toxic people. Toxic people have a huge negative impact on those suffering from anxiety or/and depression. Some if not most of the time it is those that cause our awful thoughts and actions. Here is a question that I hope somebody can help me with or give me some insight on. What if this toxic person is your spouse? I have been to my fair share of therepists and we have all come up with the same answer-- avoid toxic people in your life. I do love him- but I cant live with him Our lifestyles are too different. Help, please.
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Meme,
I too was married to a toxic person. I got a divorce, but it was extremely painful, because he turned all of his toxicity on me. I do have a new life with a spouse who is healthy. Once I got out of the dysfunctional marriage, I realized I had chosen it because that's what I had come from. My mother is toxic as well and I chose someone like her not only because it felt comfortable, but because deep down I wanted to make the relationship work. I thought if I just tried hard enough I could make it work. What I wound up with was alot of anger that I turned on myself because I couldn't make that type of relationship work.
I had children to consider, but in the end I decided that they needed a mother. So I opted to save my own sanity and leave.
I'm now in a healthy, stable relationship with a man who is my best friend and my advocate. So while I can't tell you what to do, I can tell you that if you are losing yourself in the relationship, that's a big red flag. I can also tell you that there is life after divorce. There is hope of a healthy relationship, which can only bring more healing.
I wish you the best!
I too was married to a toxic person. I got a divorce, but it was extremely painful, because he turned all of his toxicity on me. I do have a new life with a spouse who is healthy. Once I got out of the dysfunctional marriage, I realized I had chosen it because that's what I had come from. My mother is toxic as well and I chose someone like her not only because it felt comfortable, but because deep down I wanted to make the relationship work. I thought if I just tried hard enough I could make it work. What I wound up with was alot of anger that I turned on myself because I couldn't make that type of relationship work.
I had children to consider, but in the end I decided that they needed a mother. So I opted to save my own sanity and leave.
I'm now in a healthy, stable relationship with a man who is my best friend and my advocate. So while I can't tell you what to do, I can tell you that if you are losing yourself in the relationship, that's a big red flag. I can also tell you that there is life after divorce. There is hope of a healthy relationship, which can only bring more healing.
I wish you the best!
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