just starting and skeptical

[frankg]

hello, i just started the program and am hoping it works for me. i am 46 and divorced twice. at the beginning of the relationships i am perceived as being confident, easy-going, sensitive and fun person. unfortunately, my anxieties and lack of self-confident comes through and my easy going, sensitive nature is effected. i got this program because i believe we all have the ability to change ourselves but for some reason i have this 'feeling' i will always be this way and i'm afraid i'll fail. i look and what i'm writing and i'm thinking 'quit whining and quit feeling sorry for yourself'. i don't feel sorry for myself, i'm angry at myself.

[donnaallynn]

Hello frankg, I am also just starting but I am trying to be open and accept the information I am hearing on the CD's. I am currently separated from my 2nd husband. (not of my choice, but I could not live with his lieing and deceitful ways). I have been depressed for about a year now and I am sick of feeling like this, I need to get a new me going forward. I hope you are feeling less skeptical as you move forward with the program. I jumped around a little at first trying to listen to all the CD's here and there, now I am focusing on following the flow. I hope you have a great day!

[2 Step]

Frank and Donna, hang in there. I too am just starting the program. Be proud of yourself for making the call to get this program to begin with. You know what they say, "to change yourself, start with one step, however small, the 1st step is hardest of all". There will be good days, and there will be bad days. But BELIEVE that you are doing something positive to better yourself and your quality of life.

[tommy_riley]

Hi Frank,
I'm going through the program very slowly (had it for about 4 weeks now and still on session #2). However, I have been practicing positive self-talk for almost two months. I have also started taking welbutrin and buspar about a month ago. I don't know if it is the drugs, the self-talk or both, but my anxiety has significently lowered and self-confidence has raised considerabally. Sure I have times where I still feel low, but I keep injecting those positive thoughts "I am a good guy", "I have persevered through so much, and I am a strong person for having done so", "I am a great catch and women like me".

It seems silly to say that to yourself, but it really is helping me - training (or tricking?) the mind into positive though has really opened my eyes to the power of cognitive therapy. I also now realize that my last serious G/F suffers from alot of negative self-talk and I truly believe she broke up with me because she has a problem with focusing on the negative - about herself, and about others. It would be nice to go back and try and help her realize she has this problem, but she is stubborn and really treated me like crud towards our break-up. So to heck with her!

Make sure you keep up with the positive self-talk and see if you notice some changes after a month or so.

best of luck...

[frankg]

thanks, everyone. i do believe in the concept of what this program is. i guess my being skeptical is being skeptical whether i can do it (i guess i should mention i'm a little too pessimistic, too). good luck to everyone during this process. i will definitely keep reading these posts an adding.

[PlumMach1]

I've just started as well. I realised I've been suffering from anxiety and depression since I was a child, I'm now 49.999 years old. I feel the same skepticisim about the program since there are so many scams out there. But that scepticisim is diminished a little since Stress let me have the program at a significant discount because of my finacial situation. I've only listened to the Session One CD and the relaxation CD and the session reminded me of the infomercial I watched when I ordered the program. I started my journal today so I'm going to give it a go, it can't make things worse so I might as well try and hope that it gets better.

[Greg H]

Hello Folks,
I have recently started this coarse,and am truly looking forward to getting out of my old brain, into a kinder one. I look forward to growing into the person I was many years ago, or even better. I will be checking in daily as recovery for me is best shared.

[praying4sun]

hi frank i get like you too, i get angry. i am so "negative" (i am one of those who did not think i was a negative thinker until now) that when i do things that make so freaking anxious- i can do a good job but no i am so mad that i had to it anxious! so mad, that i have this and feel this holds me back so much.