Im afraid of Failing

lilsismj · Post by **lilsismj** » Tue May 20, 2008 5:17 am

amberh,
yes, that's exactly how it happens for me.
one time i can almost compleatly relax, one time it makes me nervous and angry, one time it feels great to do something for myself and i'm totally into it, another time i'm bored of it and swear it doesn't work and can't sit still anyway.

it's of tremendous comfort to me to know that this is really common. we are such anxious people that the very idea of slowing down really freaks us out. but my attitude is: so what.
so what if i can't sit through it this time, so what if i still can't relax, so what if i might get anxious?
i know for a fact that it's going to help me at least a little, and that eventually i'll get the hang of it, so who cares if it makes me uncomfortable?
i don't think it matters that i go through it perfectly like i expect to- wich is that when i want to relax i demand that i be able to or i'll freak out. i'm letting myself go through it imperfectly, and it still works. (i heard it can take up to three months)
keep on love- it's gonna work for you too.

Lichen · Post by **Lichen** » Thu May 22, 2008 9:14 am

ricolina,

are you doing it 3 times per day? I'll start too, I'm still scared. I've been having trouble sleeping at night too. Do you find you are anxious most of the day?

thanks for your support!

Amber

K.Denise C · Post by **K.Denise C** » Thu May 22, 2008 12:16 pm

Hi Manda: The fear of failing is, I find, one of the major triggers of anxiety. We all seem to be perfectionists, and if it isn't just so - we've failed. But guess what? Not so. So it isn't perfect but we learned something new and when we learn something it will serve us some time in the future. It's like being back at school, but you are the teacher and the student. No-one will yell at you if you do not do the homework, or if you don't do the relaxation tapes three times a day, or whatever. I find the tape works for me once in the morning, and again before I go the sleep. Then I put on a Solitudes CD (i.e. classical music and nature sounds) and I'm usually asleep before I know it. Or try having a bubble bath and listen to the CD when you can not easily get up to turn it off. And just relax with it. No worthwhile goal in life is easily achieved. Just do your best, relax and you will find it does work for you soon.

And remember, we're all there with you, at different stages, but we all have our struggles. And it is definately easier when you know there are so many others out there like us.

Best of luck to you. You're worth it!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jun 15, 2008 1:09 am

I'm afraid of failing, too. And it is hard to get up and try again when things feel icky. I have been doing the program about a week, and the glimmers of feeling better make it easier to put up with my inevitable worry about not doing things "right", or the tape not feeling like it's "supposed to" (i.e. always make me 'relaxed'). The glimmers of relief and excitement when they come to you if you can keep doing this stuff, help sustain through the hard, doubtful times. You are not alone.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Sep 11, 2008 3:31 pm

Originally posted by Mandabanana2009:
Im listening to the first session of the series. Im afraid of failing... Not being able to do it. Im afraid of it making the panic attacks worse... I already have at least one a week... Idk...

Manda

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Sep 11, 2008 3:37 pm

hi, this is peggy ann and i have have anxiety attacks for 30 year's. i also am afraid of failing! i have tried everything i could but i also have severe depression, i sometimes fight the attack's all day long... i received my kit and it took me two week's to even open it.i am trying but feel i am not getting anyplace.maybe a little but not what i wished when i started the program. if anyone fill's like me , i need a little pep talk right now. peggy ann

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Sep 11, 2008 3:41 pm

hi, this is peggy ann again. i should have said if anyone feel's like me not fill's... i need all the help i can get.i can barley leave my home without fear.thanks!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Oct 17, 2008 12:10 pm

HI everybody i feel the same way i have always got something going on in my brain im always thinking about if im doing things rite an if im working hard enough at work or doing what everybody wants me to be doing so i find it hard to make changes in my mind to think diffrent but im going to keep trying an i do feel like peggy ann so hang in there we can do this i think well im going to keep tring so you should to an i no its hardest thing ive done in my life it was as easy to do as it seem it was to learn how to think like we do why is this so hard