something in common
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Donna Gail
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- Joined: Thu Dec 18, 2008 7:06 pm
As I read all the posts on here. One thing sounds the same with most of us. We don't like coming out of the house. I rarely go anywhere. Winter is here and I am still not used to this cold. I am from FL but even when I lived there I had problems motivating to get outside and do something. About as much I can do, is go out and feed my horses. I have to make myself do that. Everyday, I wake and say I'm going to clean or do anything, but I end up sitting in my room watching tv. I have been on disability for a nervous breakdown, fibro and arthritis but I'll need to get a job come spring. I hope I can hang in there and keep the job if I can find one. Where I live is a small town and there's not much for employment here. I wanted to to move far away out from people, so I moved here a year ago. It's very quiet, can get lonely, then I have these thoughts that I miss my old life in Florida. I am working the program and hope I will get clarity soon. What do you guys,gals do? How do you handle work? and decisions that you make? Do you regret often? I made this huge decision moving here. I sold everything I had to buy this place and selling would take a really long time. I am trying to make myself satisfied.
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Donna, I hope the tone of this post is kind and loving because that is what I am trying to be. Love yourself and also love your neighbor like you love yourself. As long as you have yourself on your mind all of the time you will be miserable because your flesh has no ability to keep you happy. You may be able to satisfy yourself for a short period of time but it won't last. To get yourself off of your mind you might try this: Each morning when you wake up challenge yourself to look for an opportunity to do just one thing for someone else that day and see how successful you have been by the end of the day. Also, see if you don't begin to feel better overall. Taking care of the horses is great but begin to concentrate on people in your new community with small things like holding the door open for a stranger. Continue to look for opportunities to do kind acts and I think you will find greater satisfaction in what you do for others than what you can do for yourself. I hope you experiment with this idea...
Hi Donna,
I agree with Ship2Shore about trying to get to know the people in your town a little bit. You can't stay holed up in your house indefinitely and have any expectation of getting better. You say you moved to Fort Payne, Alabama to get away from people and have been there a year, but you aren't feeling better as I assume you thought you would. You can't live your life in complete solitude and expect to be happy because as human beings,God made us to interact with each other, to help each other, and to love one another. Avoiding people will cause you to focus only on yourself and your problems and you will continue to be stuck where you are right now. Truly, most of the time when we are feeling the way you are right now, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to find someone else to befriend and help in some way. It is the best way I know of to forget your own problems and the good feeling you get when you reach out to someone else is its own reward. It doesn't have to be a major undertaking- even a smile and a friendly hello will do wonders for the recipient and you as well. You have no doubt heard the old saying, "no man is an island"? Well it's true. When you reach out to others and make a friend, that is a validation for you of your self worth.This is not to say that you need others to give you a feeling of self worth, but that the kindnesses that you show to others give you a sense of satisfaction and a reason for being. Like Ship2 Shore, I hope you will give this some thought and just try a little something to involve yourself with someone else in your community. I think it will help you to begin to develop a sense of belonging and I think that will help you to want to get out of the house and out of yourself so to speak. Good luck to you and God Bless.
I agree with Ship2Shore about trying to get to know the people in your town a little bit. You can't stay holed up in your house indefinitely and have any expectation of getting better. You say you moved to Fort Payne, Alabama to get away from people and have been there a year, but you aren't feeling better as I assume you thought you would. You can't live your life in complete solitude and expect to be happy because as human beings,God made us to interact with each other, to help each other, and to love one another. Avoiding people will cause you to focus only on yourself and your problems and you will continue to be stuck where you are right now. Truly, most of the time when we are feeling the way you are right now, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to find someone else to befriend and help in some way. It is the best way I know of to forget your own problems and the good feeling you get when you reach out to someone else is its own reward. It doesn't have to be a major undertaking- even a smile and a friendly hello will do wonders for the recipient and you as well. You have no doubt heard the old saying, "no man is an island"? Well it's true. When you reach out to others and make a friend, that is a validation for you of your self worth.This is not to say that you need others to give you a feeling of self worth, but that the kindnesses that you show to others give you a sense of satisfaction and a reason for being. Like Ship2 Shore, I hope you will give this some thought and just try a little something to involve yourself with someone else in your community. I think it will help you to begin to develop a sense of belonging and I think that will help you to want to get out of the house and out of yourself so to speak. Good luck to you and God Bless.