worried! My boyfriend is going away to school

living_4_the-future · Post by **living_4_the-future** » Sat Aug 16, 2008 4:28 am

my anxiety is starting to flare up. My boyfriend is going away to school its 3 hours away and I have been worrying about it. I have been living with him for the past year and we have been together for a year and a half. It is going to be a huge change for me, and what worries me the most is how hard it is going to be to stay together. I am sure he will beable to do it but i am worried about how I will feel about it. I am just scared that one day out of the blue i will get a phone call saying we cant be together anymore because he met someone down at school and he will not cheat on me he will break up with me first so I am scared of that. Also I have to move back home, I have stayed at home for maybe a week since I have lived with my boyfriend. Its just scarey not being able to see him everyday. Do you have any advice?

OpTiMiStIc~OnE · Post by **OpTiMiStIc~OnE** » Sat Aug 16, 2008 5:40 am

It's always scary thing of the unknown. Unfortunately, you or I can predict what's going to happen down the road with you and your boyfriend. However, I think the feelings you are having are true and would be with anyone in your situation.

Moving back home and your boyfriend leaving are a lot of major changes in your life and his. I think just being open and honest is the best way to stay successful in your relationship. Let your boyfriend know, if you haven't already, that you are scared and anxious about him leaving. But you support him in going to school. Set up dates to meet each month. Is it possible that you each take turns visiting one another on the weekends? Plus, he'll be home for Thanksgiving break, then Christmas, then spring break and before you know it it's summer.

Like I said before you can't predict what's going to happen down the road so don't beat yourself up with those negative "what if" thoughts. They will consume you and just cause you more anxiety and fear when he leaves for school. You will get used to not seeing him everyday, it just takes time to adjust. I'm sure your boyfriend is having some of the same thoughts you are having as well. Keep yourself busy working, hanging out with friends, fun stuff for yourself, and let those negative thoughts go.

Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Aug 16, 2008 5:48 am

sounds scarry. wish i could tell you how to work it so everything goes the way you want it. but noone can tell you how to truly secure things in life perhaps suggestions on keeping in touch and close. but there are no quarantees.thats why we are here. to learn how to be our own security.i was married once for 20 years and for 20 years i was afraid she would leave well she did one day. but for 20 years i lived in fear when i could have live in the day and enjoyed my life in stead of living in fear. it's all in this program. it will be alright. you will be alright

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Aug 26, 2008 5:49 pm

thank you guys so much for your replys. My boyfriend left one week ago I am doing ok with the whole djustment of moving back home but yesterday i couldnt stop crying because i hate being home so much. I miss my boyfriend alot but we talk eevryday sometimes only for a few mins but at least i get to hear his voice. I get to go get him this friday for the holiday i am very excited about that, and he comes home the following weekend for a wedding. I hope and pray we work out but like everyone says if you want it to work it will work