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hi, I'm new to this, and am hopeful but of course a little skeptical. but i am going to give it my best shot. i feel overwhelmed right now and it is taking every ounce of energy i've got to not sink to the bottom but right now i'm floating if just barely. i'm going through a divorce, buying a new house (closing today), just got a bad evaluation from a boss who barely sees anything i do, and I feel like a complete failure. I know I'm probably not a complete failure but I need to learn to see something good in myself even though I don't think there is. if you have any ideas that would be so helpful!
retna riggio
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Dear retna,
You can do this! And it will help you!
There are a lot of techniques outlined in this course and if you only learn to do just a few of them and even only get half of the effect possible, you will see a huge change in your attitude and outlook on life.
Do it! You can! And you won't regret it!
Steve
You can do this! And it will help you!
There are a lot of techniques outlined in this course and if you only learn to do just a few of them and even only get half of the effect possible, you will see a huge change in your attitude and outlook on life.
Do it! You can! And you won't regret it!
Steve
Don't believe what your mind has been trained to tell you, if you were a loser you would have not taken the steps in taking this course. That is the sign of a winner, a figther, not a loser or a quitter. It is a lot of hard work to do this this course, but the payoff is tremendous. Don't let the bad days get you down at first, you will have more and more good days as you go.
Say to yourself "I do not think I am a loser anymore, cause I am a good person , and can beat this thing" It works!!!
Good luck!
Say to yourself "I do not think I am a loser anymore, cause I am a good person , and can beat this thing" It works!!!
Good luck!
"O God, you are my God. Earnestly I seek you;my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is BETTER than life,my lips will glorify you. I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name, I will lift up my hands." Psalms 63
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Hi:
I was touched by what you wrote...I'm just a week into the program, but I relate somewhat to what you're saying. I was at a place once where it seemed like the world was falling apart. I got a less than a good eval at work, was laid off (not because of eval b/c I was subsequently rehired) and had a mortgage payments and went through an awful period with my son who got involved with a gang and was acting violent at home...he sent me to the hospital one night.
What I realize in retrospect is that the when I'm in that state of anxiety, I should try not to make any major decisions. I think Lucinda said that on one of the DVDs too. Its my plan to focus on myself and what's going on, not assume anything which only makes things worse as I overreact and wait until I'm more calm and centered. That period passed for me and I can see now how my anxious and panicky responses made things worse.
I must believe that as I focus on myself and my healing that life will take care of itself and I must believe that for you too. All the best.
I was touched by what you wrote...I'm just a week into the program, but I relate somewhat to what you're saying. I was at a place once where it seemed like the world was falling apart. I got a less than a good eval at work, was laid off (not because of eval b/c I was subsequently rehired) and had a mortgage payments and went through an awful period with my son who got involved with a gang and was acting violent at home...he sent me to the hospital one night.
What I realize in retrospect is that the when I'm in that state of anxiety, I should try not to make any major decisions. I think Lucinda said that on one of the DVDs too. Its my plan to focus on myself and what's going on, not assume anything which only makes things worse as I overreact and wait until I'm more calm and centered. That period passed for me and I can see now how my anxious and panicky responses made things worse.
I must believe that as I focus on myself and my healing that life will take care of itself and I must believe that for you too. All the best.
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Lemme get this straight, your going through a divorce, but your buying a house, and are working a job? And your getting help for anxiety? Sounds like a success to me. I see you as success. The problem is with people like us, is we see only what we think our failures. I do it too. I can see objectively that you are dealing with hard things and being successful at it, but when it comes to myself, I still have a hard time giving praise. A failure is someone who never gets help. A failure is someone who totally gives up. Anyone here is not a failure. And if you are functional with this condition,If you can work, or take care of your kids, or take care of your basic needs, your not only not a failure, your a success.Originally posted by retna:
hi, I'm new to this, and am hopeful but of course a little skeptical. but i am going to give it my best shot. i feel overwhelmed right now and it is taking every ounce of energy i've got to not sink to the bottom but right now i'm floating if just barely. i'm going through a divorce, buying a new house (closing today), just got a bad evaluation from a boss who barely sees anything i do, and I feel like a complete failure. I know I'm probably not a complete failure but I need to learn to see something good in myself even though I don't think there is. if you have any ideas that would be so helpful!
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Hi, My name is Rocky and I'm also new at this. This is also my first week into the program and it took me a week just to get up the nerve to join in on this message board. I've read what all of you have written and I'm impressed with each and every one of you. For the longest time, I couldn't admit to myself that I had anxiety much less attempt to do anything about it. Making the decision to get this program was the first, best decision I made, reading about all of you and diving in, may be my second best decision. I don't know how this is going to end for me, as far as getting better in my thinking and feeling, but I do know now, that I'm in very good company. I wish all of you success in whatever you do, and I'm honored that you're along for this journey. I hope we can help each other in the weeks to come, I'm here if anyone needs a friend. Well, there is my first attempt at this, I hope that I did well. Thanks for listening.
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Rocky,
Welcome and congratulations! Admitting there is a problem is the hardest thing! I too took a while to get the nerve to post. I especially wouldn't reply to posts. How the heck could I help anyone being the mess I was???? In the program, it gets better everyday. And you won't find a more loving, caring group than right here. This is a wonderful group of people that really care about each other. Some one out there can always answer a question or lift you up. It's so comforting. We're all in this together and understand what each other is going through. You couldn't ask for better people. Good luck to you! Beverly
Welcome and congratulations! Admitting there is a problem is the hardest thing! I too took a while to get the nerve to post. I especially wouldn't reply to posts. How the heck could I help anyone being the mess I was???? In the program, it gets better everyday. And you won't find a more loving, caring group than right here. This is a wonderful group of people that really care about each other. Some one out there can always answer a question or lift you up. It's so comforting. We're all in this together and understand what each other is going through. You couldn't ask for better people. Good luck to you! Beverly
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Retna,
I am new at this too and it is comforting to know that there are other people out there that feel overwhelmed by their life experiences. Sometimes I get frozen in place and putting one foot in front of the other feels like too much to handle but I guess that's why I am here. Trying to reach out and help myself. So don't give up and know that you're not alone. It was hard for me to even write this post because I never want to bring anyone down so I end up isolating myself but I have to believe that there are good people out there that want to simpathize and won't judge and can understand that not everybody is perfect. I will keep trying.... baby steps. Tisha
I am new at this too and it is comforting to know that there are other people out there that feel overwhelmed by their life experiences. Sometimes I get frozen in place and putting one foot in front of the other feels like too much to handle but I guess that's why I am here. Trying to reach out and help myself. So don't give up and know that you're not alone. It was hard for me to even write this post because I never want to bring anyone down so I end up isolating myself but I have to believe that there are good people out there that want to simpathize and won't judge and can understand that not everybody is perfect. I will keep trying.... baby steps. Tisha
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Hi, am new to this also. I was just recently diagnosed with depression anxiety. Why did it take so long? NOW they are saying that I was probably drinking to self medicate myself. I am in a whole world of mess right now but am optomistic that this program can help. Don't want to sound like a downer so HAVE A GREAT DAY!!!!!!