Just started and overwhelmed...
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DEEPinside
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- Joined: Sat Sep 22, 2007 3:35 pm
Just started but overwhelmed with the amount of info. and activities. I have a 2 yr old, a husband who doesn't partake at home, and currently about to start a new job that will entail a horrific/unstable schedule. How will I have the time??? Trying to think positive, but not really believing it, you know?
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Vegasmomof4
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- Joined: Sat Aug 07, 2004 3:00 am
It seems like a lot but it isn't. I am on session 6 and I thought the same thing. What I do that works best is I listen to the relatzation cd in the morning if time allows once in the afternoon if time allows. I listen to the session cd on my to and from work or anytime I am in the car. Then I go to bed 30 to 40 mins before my dh does and do the homework and listen to the relaxation cd then. Once you get into a routine it is very doable. one step at a time. Just so you know I have 4 kids work outside of the house,and have all the night time duties as a mommy. So, we have time if we want to make it. I am even finding out that a after dinner walk with the kids is turning into a nice habit.Just started but overwhelmed with the amount of info. and activities. I have a 2 yr old, a husband who doesn't partake at home, and currently about to start a new job that will entail a horrific/unstable schedule. How will I have the time??? Trying to think positive, but not really believing it, you know?
)))Deep, It does sound like you have a lot but wow, if Vegas mom can do it, so can you! She is encouraging you, so am I. I'm not an organized person, don't have all that on my plate that Vegas mom does but get overwhelmed easy. I finished the program at Thanksgiving. We're rooting for you so go at your own pace but keep going. You go girl!
Deep, I recently finished the program but remember being overwhelmed by the amount of work too. I agree with StacyD - you do not have to do it perfectly! I remember thinking it wouldn't be possible to write down all the negative thoughts I had. And, guess what? At first it wasn't! I did the best I could and as I began to control these thoughts, I was able to accomplish this goal. I also wasn't able to write in my journal each and every day. But, I did often.
Guess what? All the work has paid off for me. I have been anxiety free for weeks now. It is such a blessing and you will get there too! Remember, a lot of us tend to be perfectionists. Let it go. Good luck!
Guess what? All the work has paid off for me. I have been anxiety free for weeks now. It is such a blessing and you will get there too! Remember, a lot of us tend to be perfectionists. Let it go. Good luck!
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Septembergirl
- Posts: 2
- Joined: Fri Sep 28, 2007 11:29 am
Hi everyone. I too am new here. I haven't received my program yet but REALLY looking forward to it. I've been doing okay actually with my anxiety.....except last week. It snuck up on me at the Orthodontist office. I have no idea why. I KNOW there's nothing to worry about. But man oh man....when they took my BP it was so high! But as soon as I left and got home.......fine. I was calm and fearless. I have another appointment next month. I'M HOPING that I will have learned a lot by then, from this program so that I can actually walk in there....sit down....and have a NORMAL BP and pulse rate!!! .....Other than that... Hello...it's nice to meet you all 
Hello...it's nice to meet you all Just a note to relieve some of the "how on earth can I find the time for all of this?"
Yes, it takes work to overcome this condition, but, be careful when reading the instructions. Our anxiety tells us to DO IT ALL, every last action assignment and to perfection.
Every lesson, yes, and in order.
The action assignments- "do as much as you have time for" is what the workbook instructs us to do in the introduction.
Hey, I too skipped over this bit of info when starting out. Perfectionist plus.
Watch for wording. Don't let your mind make mountains out of molehills.
The most common thing I hear on the forums about the assignments concerns finding the time to write down ALL our negative thoughts.
#8 action assignment in lesson 3 -
"Keep a small notebook with you all day ONE day this week. MAKE A TICK MARK (a little check mark)in your notebook each time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought"
Then, another action assignment in lesson 3 is "Use some of your negative thoughts to accomplish your negative to positive statements in your homework" (few pages before)
Writing down one to two negatives a day will enable us to do this. It (writing down a couple of negatives)can be done when we take 5-10 minutes to journal.
EASE UP on yourselves!!!
This program works! It's awesome! BUT, we don't have to beat the heck out of ourselves trying to do everything perfect for the changes to occur!
Follow the guidelines.
Try to stay at a steady pace.
Move forward even if you don't think you "Got that lesson perfect yet" The skills from all the lessons keep improving as you move forward.
REALLY. They overlap without even realizing it.
I must admit, I listened to the tapes every chance I got - in the car,(after I was finally able to drive again that is) at home -cooking dinner, doing chores, paying the bills, typing on the computer, -----what the heck, I was desperate. And 
if someone else was home and the stereo, or computer was loud, hmmmmmm, well, they got a wonderful ear full of coping skills too.
Believe and achieve!
Yes, it takes work to overcome this condition, but, be careful when reading the instructions. Our anxiety tells us to DO IT ALL, every last action assignment and to perfection.
Every lesson, yes, and in order.
The action assignments- "do as much as you have time for" is what the workbook instructs us to do in the introduction.
Hey, I too skipped over this bit of info when starting out.
Perfectionist plus.Watch for wording. Don't let your mind make mountains out of molehills.
The most common thing I hear on the forums about the assignments concerns finding the time to write down ALL our negative thoughts.
#8 action assignment in lesson 3 -
"Keep a small notebook with you all day ONE day this week. MAKE A TICK MARK (a little check mark)in your notebook each time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought"
Then, another action assignment in lesson 3 is "Use some of your negative thoughts to accomplish your negative to positive statements in your homework" (few pages before)
Writing down one to two negatives a day will enable us to do this. It (writing down a couple of negatives)can be done when we take 5-10 minutes to journal.
EASE UP on yourselves!!!
This program works! It's awesome! BUT, we don't have to beat the heck out of ourselves trying to do everything perfect for the changes to occur!
Follow the guidelines.
Try to stay at a steady pace.
Move forward even if you don't think you "Got that lesson perfect yet" The skills from all the lessons keep improving as you move forward.
REALLY. They overlap without even realizing it.
I must admit, I listened to the tapes every chance I got - in the car,(after I was finally able to drive again that is) at home -cooking dinner, doing chores, paying the bills, typing on the computer, -----what the heck, I was desperate.
And if someone else was home and the stereo, or computer was loud, hmmmmmm, well, they got a wonderful ear full of coping skills too. Believe and achieve!
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Septembergirl
- Posts: 2
- Joined: Fri Sep 28, 2007 11:29 am
Okay, so I'm really late starting my program. I bought it years ago and just couldn't deal with myself. Now, I find myself at a juncture in my life that I MUST deal with myself and I just don't know how. I listen to the sessions and that's wonderful while I'm listening but I'm lost as soon as I turn the CD off and I can't do the book with the CD on. There are times that I can't deal with myself to the point that my husband has me on suicide watch. I need to start somewhere and the therapist just isn't enough.