starting again need support

ace20 · Post by **ace20** » Wed Oct 22, 2008 4:12 pm

had setback with surgery and I am starting all over again. From sess 1 and soon 2. feeling down that I had a setback. Had many and use as excuses.
Feel all alone with this problem, no one knows I struggle so. somedays are unbearable. I really to to find my way this time. no excuses. Hope someone can offer some support and encouragement. thank you

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 2:27 am

Ace - Welcome to the cycle that some of us are on. Hey don't beat yourself up, pick up the pieces and start over. We are all on the road to recovery and will get there together. Remember that failure is just a stepping stone on the pathway to success. We all are struggling with the same problems you are having, and together we will get there. Keep your head up and remember your goal, the same as mine, to be fully recovered. Good luck and much blessings on your journey.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 6:32 am

Ace,Congratulations for picking up the pieces and starting over. You said you had a set back from surgery. That is not a negative and shouldn't beat yourself up.....like Nelson said. You were having surgery so you were taking care of yourself. That is what it is all about. Taking care of ourselves. Keep up the wonderful work you are doing. I'm looking forward to seeing you on here and us all getting through this one day at a time. God Bless You! debbie P.S. I also started over and 2 weeks into the program. I feel so much better that I did start over!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 10:32 am

Hello ace20,
I've had setbacks too. I've had to start over. Even now I'm starting over again next week because I've not really been giving it my best and I've been struggling so I know exactly where you are coming from. Don't feel bad because you're starting over. Look at it like this, I'm starting over and that is a good thing. I will work the program, do my best, and I will not put stress on myself. I will follow the schedule and NO EXCUSES. I will JUST DO IT. I've written this just as much for myself as for you so may we both be encouraged and follow it through.

PM me if you like, maybe we can encourage each other,
Inside Man

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 1:22 pm

Hi Ace, There are so many struggles we have to go through in life but the hardest struggle of all is realizing that we, each of us, are VIP,s. We fall we get up and try again over and over then one day bam we have it, we are up and we stay us because we finally realize we are worth the effort, we have the strength,we win. I have fallen more times that I can remember but I am still trying to win the battle, this program is going to work because I truly want to overcome, what I have been struggling with for many long years. You can do this, don't ever doubt I believe in you. Stay strong.

stargazer · Post by **stargazer** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 1:23 pm

Hey guys, I am pretty familiar with "starting over" and my thoughts on it are that the whole thing could be a blessing in disguise. Maybe things will be better when you attempt them for the second time. We have all had to start over in our loives one time or another, but I think the key is not to get too down about having to do it. So what? Just know that everyone has to go through it. I know it may not seem that way, but you'd be surprised.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 1:26 pm

Originally posted by ace20:
had setback with surgery and I am starting all over again. From sess 1 and soon 2. feeling down that I had a setback. Had many and use as excuses.
Feel all alone with this problem, no one knows I struggle so. somedays are unbearable. I really to to find my way this time. no excuses. Hope someone can offer some support and

encouragement. thank you

Hi Ace,
I too am starting over. When you say no one knows how unbearable this is believe me and all the other people that replied to you. You're not alone! I know how hard this is. I'm trying to do it right this time. The first time i just didn't make the time to do it right. It's hard to be depressed and anxious all the time and be expected to work and try to pay bills. The last thing I felt like doing is writing in the workbook. But I'm going to do it right this time. I paid for it I might as well give it all I can. Bottom line is if we don't help ourselves no one can help us. I know it's easier said than done but WE have to try..
I too need as much support and encouragement as I can get. I'm tired of being too tired to help myself. Change is hard but the alternative is worse.
I didn't know how to use the peer group last time and I still don't really know what I'm doing but I'm going to give this program a real chance. I want to live a happy life just like you and everyone else. Good luck to all of us!!
Mary

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 2:00 pm

Surgery is a big deal, it can make anyone stressed. Glad to hear that you got through it!, Starting over is a good thing, we all understand and realize that changing long standing negative habbits is tough, but we have the tools, the support and apparently just by being here the desire.

Stay strong!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 23, 2008 2:57 pm

Hello Everyone,
As I read the other posts it makes me realize again we're not alone. Other people have these problems and struggles. Maybe we can support and encourage each other. Everybody needs these things to succeed in their recovery and that's what we all are working for. If anyone here ever needs support and encouragement let me know. Everybody needs a pep talk or some words to lift them up at times or to inspire them so just post or PM me. I would be happy to help.

As mary soares said...good luck to all of us

Inside Man

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Oct 24, 2008 3:34 pm

Thank you to everyone. I am overwhelmed by the responses. I got teary eyed, literally. I am so grateful. I will need to be a regular on this forum. I hope to be communicating with all of you.
It feels very new and different to come out with this problem I have suffered with for so long.
God bless all of you. Let's all give it the time and effort that is needed.